Hiding Knife purchases from wife?

The only time my wife has said anything about my knife purchases was when Schrade went out of business. I spent about 4K dollars in a month on knives and the UPS and mail vehicals were at the house everyday with a package. There was no way to hide that from her, but she doesn't know about some of my other purchases:p . I have a friend that bought a new truck and his wife never knew about it! He had an '04 and traded up to a '05 that was identical and he bragged on what a good wash and wax job he he gave his "old truck" ;) .
 
As long as I don't go stupid crazy on stuff, my wife is fine with my knife purchases. We both have our hobbies, etc. and as long as the bills get paid that's fine. I don't use my credit cards all that much anymore(for knives, anyway - mostly for getting repairs done over the phone or something equivalent,) so if the cash isn't readily available, I won't buy anything until I have the cash. I like to "feed" the hobby with a minimum of 1 blade per month, but I also play in two pool leagues, do a bit of leatherwork, etc., so sometimes, there's a bit of juggling required:) Work's been really keeping me out of trouble the last little while.......

- gord
 
Vivi said:
Maybe a little honesty is in order?
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Seriously :rolleyes:. I support everyone's knife hobby, but I think under no circumstances should it come out of the family fund, or be done behind the back of the person who is paying for the bills. I mean, most husbands wouldn't be happy if the roles were reversed ... if they pay the bills and their wives were to secretly splurge the money 'for the electric bill' on shoes, handbags, and whatnot ...
 
hiding new knives is an art. men are traditionally good at it.

It has it's rewards and it's dangers tho!
 
I bought her the leatherman juice she wanted to replace her little sak, that helped things :). She doesn't generally hassle me about knives, but she has an entire room for a closet. I really don't think she wears the same outfit twice and I've never seen her carry the same purse for more than a month.
 
I learned from my father that this trait is a long tradition handed down from father to son in our family. I remember him sneaking up behind me when I was young to tap me on the shoulder giving me the "shush" sign with his index over his lips to show me a new pistol or a new knife. Saying under his breath, "now don't tell mom". We are such brats really.

Its good to know its not just me. I have a knife in my pocket my wife doesn't know about among others. I tell her sometimes but most of the time she really doesn't want to know to be honest. She doesn't appreciate my habit anyway. Fortunately for me my wife is such a pack rat herself buying stuff she never needs that she can't say much about my purchases unless they crunch us or something and I have been pretty good about that in later years. Not so good early on though as we did have fights about needless spending on my part in the newlywed days. I'd say if its just a knife you are hiding now and then you are probably not hurting much but if its assets or something bigger its a recipe for some serious $hit hitting the fan.

Have fun but be careful. And if you need advice on how to proceed I'm rather an expert these days. Heck I'm a sex expert now too fellas. Been married nearly 25 years. You know what that means right? I've had sex 25 times now. I can teach ya all a thing or two. :D

STR
 
My wife used to get p!ssed off, upset, and bitter whenever I bought a new knife. Then I figured out that the buying of the knife isn't the issue-it's the deceitful manner in which I was doing it.

Now I don't lie, I don't hide or conceal anything, least of all knives. She's often excited to see what I've got. If I do buy something she disapproves of I tell her, she expresses her disapproval, and we move on. As a result I enjoy my knives to a much greater extent, because I'm not playing silly games or wrestling with my conscience.

A month or two ago I had just gotten off the slope and immediately made my way to the knife store before she picked me up. $300 and ten minutes later I was the proud new owner of a MT Hawk.:D She laughed at me. Then commandeered my new knife for her own use.:mad: ;)
 
Well I show and tell all my new knives to my wife, and she goes out frequently and comes home with new wall display cases for them. I do have a couple of things that help me out though. 1. She's been putting up with me for 50 years as of Sept. 26. 2. I pay for all my knives and stuff and the majority of her "stuff" with earnings from my sheath making. 3. We've had separate joint bank accounts for over 35 years....haven't had a disagreement over money since then. 4. We are both retired and everything is paid for long ago so it's either buy knives or burn the money. 5. I consider money to be just a "tool", and the sweet thing says just always be sure my tool box is full.

Paul
 
I used to hide knife purchases from my wife or give the old "oh, I've had this for a long time".

Then last year she died. Regrets? Only by the boatload. And it's mostly about knives.

IMO, honesty is THE most important thing you bring into your marriage next to your undying love for your spouse.

Don't let this "hobby" compromise your integrity. You never know if you'll have time to "make it right".


Mike U.
 
Though we don't discuss prices, I show every one of my knives to my wife. She like many of them quite a lot, and I bought her a little Mike Snody knife of her own.
 
When we go on vacation, she buys the equivalent of 15 knives for jewelry, etc., and I get the proverbial t-shirt only, giving me a credit for future knife purchases. I don't hide the purchases, which are all done over the internet and arrive at my office (wife is my secretary), but I don't announce them either. My flashlights are also sent to the office.
 
This is an add, I think off of Ebay, that a friend of mine just sent me. Though not dealing with knives, I think it is appropo to this thread. I got a kick out of it, anyway!

Andy
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$10,000 06' Suzuki GSXR


2006 Suzuki 1000. This bike is perfect! It has 1000 miles and has had its 500 mile dealer service (Expensive). It's been adult ridden, all wheels have always been on the ground. I use it as a cruiser/commuter. I'm selling it because it was purchased without proper consent of a loving wife. Apparently "do whatever the f*** you want" doesn't mean what I thought it did!
 
A few years ago my wife was surprised when I told her I had spent a little over two grand on pocket knives after Schrade closed up shop... Hell, I was surprised that I had spent that much! I only planned on picking up a few LB7s... and that lead to a few 897UHs...which lead to a few 285UH...which lead to, ahh you guys know how this addiction works. Now, I show her any interesting new purchases, and I try to restrain my own spending and be fiscally responsible. She doesn't say much, but I can tell she is scared by how impulsive and/or compulsive I can be at times...
 
My wife and I have a very good system. We each get $100/month to spend on whatever we like. As long as we stay within our budgets, there are no problems. So far it is working great.
 
My wife has warmed up to my knife fetish, as she calls it, but honesty played a big part in that process. Now she evens wants to help me develop my collection... except for balis anyway... It sucks we are moving and money is tight, waiting around is tough- you end up finding more things you want!
 
I usually don't attempt to hide them any more. Sometimes I get a comment when a box arrives. Now she just uses it as an excuse to buy herself something, too. I guess that's fair. At least she isn't going on a dollar to dollar basis - she doesn't realize how expensive some of my knife purchases have been.
 
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