You could be right about the waiting list, I never asked..
The Japanese will tell you that they dont need to say "I love you" because they can just feel it, or they just know it.
Ask any woman if she doesnt need to hear it.
My mother in law told me that, in 30 something years of marriage, my father in law has never said "I love you" nor "Im sorry."
Not once.
The Japanese girls see it and hear it in western movies and they want it, but they aint gettin it.
The birthrate is down to negative levels.