My sister is rich, and I (usually) feel that she looks down on me because I am not. (Yes, this is justified on my part (for me to say, I mean), because she brags about her money and all the "stuff" she has that doesn't even appeal to me.) She is also married to a man who makes good money, although she makes more than him (not that that really has anything to do with anything.)
My father just fired me because Jim is an as$hole... (you might find this on another thread.) I am still the only one speaking to him after certain "family issues."
I am currently unemployed, but I sent out, and hand-delivered, as many resumes, along with lists of references, as I could, beginning the very day I was fired. (H still won't admit he fired me; he says I quit, but the truth is that he lost his temper and said some really rude and hurtful things to me, which he later felt bad about, but we still both agreed that we just shouldn't work together.)
My oldest brother is in jail, serving nine years for attempted bank robbery (unarmed, but high on drugs and lied about having a gun. He "should" be out soon, if he plays his cards right. He was recently transferred to a maximum-security prison in Texas, but won't admit to any of us exactly WHY.)
My second-oldest brother is currently back in school trying, as I am, to figure out what he wants to do with his life. Meanwhile, he has a baby and an intelligent, beautiful wife who makes enough to pay the bills and stuff, and they have a gorgeous house in Georgia.
My parents recently separated (a few months ago, after nearly thirty years married.)
I am me. I love my family, but when they make me feel bad about myself, I tend to shut them out until I am emotionally-stable enough to deal with them. This is mainly my sister and my father. My mother is probably my best friend. She and I are so alike in some ways that it is scary... What is more scary is that my oldest brother (the one in jail) is almost exactly like us in certain ways, and he didn't even grow up with us.
I guess my point is... it takes all kinds of people to make a family. Half the time you may love them and half the time you may hate them, but hopefully you will have SOMETHING in common with all of them. My sister has probably hurt me worse than anyone else ever could, but I still love her and I know she loves me. Don't sweat the small stuff. If someone (family or not) is making you miserable, you need to take a break from that person until you are able to contemplate the situation and deal with it rationally. Then, if the person is a complete self-centered a-hole, well, at least you tried, right?
Good luck, and I hope things work out for the best.
~ashes