How to convince my parents?

They sound like normal parents. They say no because they probably beleive you are not ready for such a hobby.

If they continue to say no, ask yourself, why is that the case?

Look within yourself, think about whether or not you are mature enough to start accumulating knives.

If not, wait a couple of months.

Show responsibility. (do chores when not asked, get better grades without being told, etc)
Show self sufficiency. (take care of yourself, go to the store and buy food and items on your own, etc)

Oh, and, don't get upset if they say no. It won't work.

Eventually, they might see that you're growing to be a responsible, mature young man and will be more lenient when you ask them about a knife.

Also, learn to convince.

Meaning that you should provide an argument when they disagree (Mind you, you should never argue with your parents, I just meant when they say no, explain why you like this hobby blah blah blah)

Oh and if that doesn't work, turn the questions on them.

"Why do you not like my hobby? It's what I enjoy."

Ask them why it's any different from their hobbies, i.e., fishing, guns, cars, shoes, purses, etc.

And lastly, spend some time on the Bladeforums. Eventually they'll notice how much you're into this hobby.




Oh, and, one more thing. If you think i'm pulling this information from nowhere, it may help to know that I am a teenager as well.

This all worked for me. It took a while, but they're fine with my knife nutiness now.

I have a ZT 350 coming to me now...
 
I got Spyderco tenacious 3 weeks ago and I had to wait 6 months that they finally allowed me to buy it.

They didn`t allowed me to buy it because I convinced them but because mom said that we should end this. There was no chance that only one folder could satisfy me. Yesterday I asked my dad when could I buy another knife and he said that there won`t be any more knives.
 
Not sure exactly how old you are, but regardless, your interests will change. Some kids are into bikes, others video games, and you - knives. I'm 42 and there are things that I lust after. I'd love to have a CRK, but w/2 small kids, mortgage, car payments, savings, retirement, etc, I cannot afford to shell out the money for a $400+ knife.

Whoever above said to save was correct. That is one thing I never learned to do. Luckily my wife forces me to save. Had I learned to let go of the lust for "Things" and instead socked my cash away, my life would be very different now.

You have time on your side. Be happy w/the blades you have, treat them well and they should last you a lifetime. Once you are on your own, and you are still into knives, you'll be able to buy exactly what you want.

Do it wisely though. Set savings goals. Put at least half of your birthday/gift/etc money in the bank. take a good chunk of anything you can earn and save it. Sure, set aside some spending money, we all like treats. One day you may look at a drawer full of knives and realize that you wasted a lot of $$ on them. I see it all the time w/BMX bikes. A co-workers son picked up a $400 bike a few years ago, put another $200 in parts to make it like he wanted it. I just bought it for $50. He didn't take care of it and he was lucky to get that much from me.

you may find that you've wasted money on those knives. Maybe not, but as I mentioned, you have time on your side.
 
You are BLESSED. You have parents that LOVE you and who will always want the BEST for you - you are in their FOREVER family.

Dad is a retired COP..in addition to being blessed you are fortunate.

As you continue to show respect, demonstrate developing maturity and financial stewardship of your money I suspect your parents will be more receptive to your various requests.

Lot of things are a function of time and patience is a learned and valuable personal characteristic.

Best.
 
Listen to your parents....you'll not regret it :)

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That sucks outdoor edge.


Back in when I was a teenager (many moons ago) I had a job and could buy whatever I could afford. Never had an allowance growing up. My dad bought me my first 4 knives (SAK, Case folder, and a cheap Chinese boot knife and a cheap balisong).

One thing I learned growing up (before I had a job) was that if I wanted something, I had to go above and beyond what was asked of me in order to get it. Whether that was mowing the lawn, raking leaves, shoveling the driveway and steps etc without being asked, or cleaning up around the house, all sorts of stuff, that was how I got what I wanted.
 
muphasta said:
Not sure exactly how old you are, but regardless, your interests will change. Some kids are into bikes, others video games, and you - knives. I'm 42 and there are things that I lust after. I'd love to have a CRK, but w/2 small kids, mortgage, car payments, savings, retirement, etc, I cannot afford to shell out the money for a $400+ knife.
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I am 14 and I am knife nut since I first time saw a SAK and I have no idea when was it. I always put my birthday money on bank (gift money is nothing serious) because I rarely buy anything but I still always have got something (Knives, outdoor stuff...)on my wish list.
 
K.O.D. said:
That sucks outdoor edge.


Back in when I was a teenager (many moons ago) I had a job and could buy whatever I could afford. Never had an allowance growing up. My dad bought me my first 4 knives (SAK, Case folder, and a cheap Chinese boot knife and a cheap balisong).

One thing I learned growing up (before I had a job) was that if I wanted something, I had to go above and beyond what was asked of me in order to get it. Whether that was mowing the lawn, raking leaves, shoveling the driveway and steps etc without being asked, or cleaning up around the house, all sorts of stuff, that was how I got what I wanted.
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I always help my dad when we have anything to do around house but it`s very hard because my dad is very annoying person to do with (don`t tell him that!).
 
CJZ said:
They sound like normal parents. They say no because they probably beleive you are not ready for such a hobby.

If they continue to say no, ask yourself, why is that the case?

Look within yourself, think about whether or not you are mature enough to start accumulating knives.

If not, wait a couple of months.

Show responsibility. (do chores when not asked, get better grades without being told, etc)
Show self sufficiency. (take care of yourself, go to the store and buy food and items on your own, etc)

Oh, and, don't get upset if they say no. It won't work.

Eventually, they might see that you're growing to be a responsible, mature young man and will be more lenient when you ask them about a knife.

Also, learn to convince.

Meaning that you should provide an argument when they disagree (Mind you, you should never argue with your parents, I just meant when they say no, explain why you like this hobby blah blah blah)

Oh and if that doesn't work, turn the questions on them.

"Why do you not like my hobby? It's what I enjoy."

Ask them why it's any different from their hobbies, i.e., fishing, guns, cars, shoes, purses, etc.

And lastly, spend some time on the Bladeforums. Eventually they'll notice how much you're into this hobby.




Oh, and, one more thing. If you think i'm pulling this information from nowhere, it may help to know that I am a teenager as well.

This all worked for me. It took a while, but they're fine with my knife nutiness now.

I have a ZT 350 coming to me now...
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14 here. This is great advice.
 
I feel for ya, dude! I am nearly 60 now, but I still remember wanting a Buck sheath knife so bad I could taste it. I got one for Christmas too! I still have it, although it took me 20 years to figure out how to sharpen it properly!

I would offer them some sort of a deal...I will do (x) if I can buy the knife. However, there are many things to want besides knives, that your parents may not object to. Do you have a cool flashlight, or a pair of binoculars?
I just bought a Docter 10x25 monocular that is awesome!
 
Are you old enough to acquire a job or already have one? Im a teenager as well who is fortunate to have snagged one in this economy. My parents are fine with my hobby. Luckily my parents are cometely fine with my knife addiction. They see it as a learning experience for real life. Having to balance personal interests with the necessities is the stuff of adulthood. Getting a job and showing maturity with money should yield a positive outcome for your future collection. Also, you must convey how knives are not weapons. Take time to show your parents you know how to responsibly and safely manipulate a knife.
 
I think every kid should learn these things.....

A) No means no.

B) Learn to deal with disappointments.

C) Learn to be patient.

You have a lifetime ahead of you to buy and collect knives. I don't know how old you are now, but assuming you're a teenager you're probably not far from being 18 when you can do whatever you want.
 
I'm lookig at this as a parent even tho I was once in your exact same situation many years ago (and I ended up having grandma purchase the knives for me)-

Do you buy your own school supplies, clothes, shoes, other necessities? I know my girls always want to buy all sorts of stuff with "their money" (you know the money we give them) and we don't let them buy as much as they'd like, they can buy anything they want thatthat actually need, any clothes, a new book bag 5 times a school year, schoes, books, computer software, but if they want to by a toy they already have 3 of the answer is no. When they want something frivolous we ask that they do something to "earn" it first, most of the time they will volunteer to pay a bill, or part of a bill (usually cell phone) and once they do that we let them have a little fun money. Maybe try that?

Just my view from the other side of things.
 
J_Curd said:
If your parents have a sense of humor...Ask you mom why she has so many shoes and purses...and your dad why he has so many different (insert- watches, fishing poles, guns, bottle of bourbon, whatever)...different types of things have different functions. Variety is the spice of life :)

Also, ask them what you can do to EARN the PRIVILEGE of buying another knife for your collection. :)
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That's the problem with young kids nowadays.... they all have such a smarta** mouth. I personally have great sense of humor, but I don't find any humor when little punks make statements like that. The mom/dad can buy whatever they want because they make their own money and they own the house that you live in.

I grew up in a household where I do not talk back to my parents, and I wouldn't DARE to say things like that to them unless I wanted to get smacked in the face. Learn how to talk to people respectfully and also learn that respecting them means listening to what they tell you to do.
 
The Logical One said:
I think every kid should learn these things.....

A) No means no.

B) Learn to deal with disappointments.

C) Learn to be patient.

You have a lifetime ahead of you to buy and collect knives. I don't know how old you are now, but assuming you're a teenager you're probably not far from being 18 when you can do whatever you want.
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great points.
be happy with the SAK you have or something simple instead of going from flipper to flipper which i don't understand.
 
Cereal_killer said:
I'm lookig at this as a parent even tho I was once in your exact same situation many years ago (and I ended up having grandma purchase the knives for me)-

Do you buy your own school supplies, clothes, shoes, other necessities? I know my girls always want to buy all sorts of stuff with "their money" (you know the money we give them) and we don't let them buy as much as they'd like, they can buy anything they want thatthat actually need, any clothes, a new book bag 5 times a school year, schoes, books, computer software, but if they want to by a toy they already have 3 of the answer is no. When they want something frivolous we ask that they do something to "earn" it first, most of the time they will volunteer to pay a bill, or part of a bill (usually cell phone) and once they do that we let them have a little fun money. Maybe try that?

Just my view from the other side of things.
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I don`t get any money from parents but I found other ways to earn (i dont get a lot from this but it works). I am a teenager but I still think that if parents would let their children to buy all things they want it would make them lazy because they would newer do anything to get what they want.
 
The Logical One said:
That's the problem with young kids nowadays.... they all have such a smarta** mouth. I personally have great sense of humor, but I don't find any humor when little punks make statements like that. The mom/dad can buy whatever they want because they make their own money and they own the house that you live in.

I grew up in a household where I do not talk back to my parents, and I wouldn't DARE to say things like that to them unless I wanted to get smacked in the face. Learn how to talk to people respectfully and also learn that respecting them means listening to what they tell you to do.
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+1 - well said!
 
Only three questions matter. . . . How old are you? . . . Do you earn your own money? . . . .have you been forbidden to own knives?

If you have been forbidden, then live with it until you leave home. If you have not been forbidden and have your own money, and are at least 14 years old why ask?
 
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