Just a quick question on your current setup.
How much bigger than the torch head is the hole it goes in?
One mistake that's easy to make (well, I've made it), is to have the hole too tight.
Torches are usually designed to work in free air. Only some of the required combustion air is drawn in with the gas and this burns as the central cone of the flame. The remaining gas then mixes with air from the outside and burns as the outer, softer, part of the flame.
If you fit the torch closely into the forge, it can't get any of the air from outside and you'll only partially burn the gas, leading to a lower temperature.
Just to really louse things up, the natural tendency when things aren't getting hot enough, is to wind up the gas. If the problem is already too much gas/too little air, that ain't gonna help.
I'm with Bladsmth and strongly recommend you make or buy a good Venturi burner to a proven design. I'd also recommend buying a good thermocouple and a cheap readout for it.
A good Venturi burner allows fine adjustment of the fuel:air mixture, providing good temperature control. Some of the experts can judge temperature to within a few degrees by eye. For the rest of us, the thermocouple is a really useful tool.
The thermocouple I'd recommend is the KHXL-14G-RSC-24 from Omega.
http://www.omega.com/ppt/pptsc.asp?ref=KHXL_NHXL&Nav=tema06
Not cheap, but it will allow you to check any temperature up to the lower end of the welding range with a bit of care. it's 6mm (1/4") diameter and 600mm (2') long with a handle and a length of cable terminating in a miniature plug. It's rigid enough not to sag when you hold it in the forge for a while. It has a grounded junction, so responds fast and measures at the tip.
Any readout that takes a type K input, has a miniature socket (they pretty much all do) and reads to 1300 degC (2372 degF) will get the job done. I use a Chinese TM-902C bought from ebay. I have more expensive units, but the TM-902C agrees with them, so there's no point risking a pricy one in the shop. Unfortunately, the TM-902C only reads in degC. I was brought up on SI units so it suits me, but if your head only works in degF, you might be better getting something else.