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gunfixrjoe

gunfixrjoe

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I could use some help. If there is anyone in this most trusted group that has happened to have an alcoholic to deal with, please pm me. I need some trusted insight. Please please please.
 
My two advices is this:
Go to AA meetings so you can get some ideas on what you can offer that person. AA has saved my father's life, literally.

Which leads to my second advice, which is my father's advice: Only that person can decide they need help and only they can make the steps towards recovery. If I learned from dad right, you can be there for the person, offer help within a community (A.A.) and show the person that you know what you're talking about and not just talking out your ass. Offer them a way out.

But it all ends up being up to the person to want to change and make a difference in their own lives, to take that first step.

That's the best I can give you without knowing what else is going on.
 
Hope it helps. Let me know if you need any more ideas/insights/etc and I'll do what I can and remember from what Dad told me.

Best of luck and God bless as well.
 
Then it's time to understand that world of alcoholism via A.A. meeting(s) (and also spousal A.A. meetings/support group) and get some of the member's insights, experiences and support far beyond what I can offer you. It's not a fun world to live in as I was a child in an alcoholic family. Just know that it's not the end of the world, Joe. It's just another step in your journey in life along side with hers. It's time for you to be strong while your half is weak. Believe that there is a way out in this because there is a way out. Don't lose hope or faith.
 
What pretty much everyone else has said. I grew up in a household haunted by alcohol and these guys nailed it for you. Good luck mate, it is a rough road with both forward and backward steps ahead.

Andy
 
Wish you the best bro. I've had my own personal addiction problems long in the past as well as a few other very important people in my life whom I won't single out. I am proof that it's not gonna be forever and control can eventually be regained. Just remember that anger and guilt usually just make the wall stronger, when I had my troubles I had a pretty big, strong wall, but eventually the people in my life were so consistently there for me that I felt like I HAD to give it a try, for them. And here I am. Obviously every situation is different, but the important part is that you are there and you seem to be a pretty loving support system. Again, all the best.
 
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