Letting go

quattromori

quattromori

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Good day folks :)
As some of you already know, I recently lost an old member of my family, who left us after a long and healthy life. So lately I've been dealing with sorrow and absence, but at the same time I've been thinking about something that I'm trying to learn.
Letting go.
Which is not the same as abandoning someone or something, or not caring about anymore. It's understanding that things have their own way, and our feelings are not (and shouldn't be) an obstacle, but a sort of enrichment of the process.
I loved my grandfather dearly, and he taught me many things (and even more I have learned from him without he being aware of it I guess). Yet, when the time came, I tried not to hold him back, and instead I did my best to let him go with love.
Same thing I'm going to do with this knife.

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I got it because I really liked the GEC #66 frame, picked the SFO version cause I wanted to try the yellow rose version, asked Glenn to modify it into a single blade (which he did wonderfully), and carried it around quite often; I like it very much. Now it's time to let it go, and hopefully it will find as much love as it's leaving behind.
So please post in this thread if you wish to receive it, carry it, and use it. I couldn't ask for more from it.

Fausto
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I'm learning those lessons as well Fausto, we lost my Dad in April. Not posting about the knife, just to say hang in there. Unbelievably, it gets a little easier with time.

Robert
 
My condolences. I've had to deal with two losses in as many months. It makes you appreciate the time we have with our loved ones even more.
 
That is the most beautiful thing I've read on the internet in who knows how long. I also am not posting to ask for your knife, but to offer condolences, and to applaud your remarkable method for dealing with grief.
 
I am sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is painful in a way that is hard for me to explain with words. My Mother passed away a little over a year ago. When she passed I felt like I had some how become untethered from something important. Like I would never really be standing on solid ground again.
My relationship with my Mother wasn't what I now wish it was and that's at least half my fault. It's been a challenge at times to let go of that feeling of loss, that hole in my little world that can never be filled in the remainder of my life. It's been even harder knowing that we weren't on the best of terms. I just hang on to the understanding that I know we both loved each other and that we had both made mistakes.
I wish for you and your family peace and comfort in this difficult time.

Jim
 
Wow that is a really nice peace offering to the universe. I feel your pain and the offering is very strong. As strong as the love that bonds you to your grandfather. You should keep it, perhaps this moment or feeling will pass and you will want it back. Knives, I have always thought are spiritual objects, they are charged with so much power especially the more used they are. From one human being to another, I wish you safe passage. I have given away many knives in my life, it is a powerful thing to do, I just wanted you to know that understood the gesture, meaning and power. Be well.
 
If anyone calls the grieving process you're going through, a "journey" ... I will smite them ... unless they buy you a ticket for a cruise or something.

We all grieve in our own way and apparently it is indeed a letting go process. We all have dealt with it or most will sooner or later.

While I know it will happen again, this time I'm just an observer. In FACT today across the street ... Just sad. The matriarch of the family is approaching her end of time. Hospice says just a few days now. The patriarch passed away there at home last December. The clan is gathering. About two dozen vehicles up and down the street at any given time. That doesn't bother me.

Being Sunday, some of the women folk are showing up in little black dresses and high heels ... that bothers me ... a little bit.

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Oh ... and I'm quite fond of single blade clip points.
What's missing from this picture ??

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Quattro, you were fortunate and blessed to have him so long..
I lost my paternal gdad at 2yrs old, and my maternal
gdad at 10. He was paralyzed from numerous strokes, we
just kinda watched tv a little together.
At 41, watching my dad be an awesome gdad, I am blessed.
 
Fausto, thank you for sharing the loss of your grandfather with us and the wonderful way you dealt with it by letting go. I applaud you for that and may he rest in peace. I lost my mom July 4th this year and I hang on to the good memories.

I would be happy to be in your give away.

Thank you
 
Fausto-unfortunately I have no grandparents left. It hurts, but in time you will enjoy the fond memories. The trips to the circus, the opening day of pa deer season, grandma's intricate three-teir candy dish sitting on top of a full lace table cloth in the dining room. The memories bring smiles. In time, wishing you the best....
Josh

C
 
The memories of those lost have still found their way into my dreams sometimes. Some as old as 20 years still catch me off guard. Im not sure "letting go" is possible. For me, it really is a patient acceptance of loving differently, when a perspective of thankfulness champions over the absence, and grief has given way to loving those still here more deeply. To leave a legacy of love is the most wonderful gift. It reads as though you have been blessed with such a gift.

A beautiful knife and one I have admired for sometime (since you carried it for an anniversary dinner last year, I believe), but not an entry. I have to many to pocket and it should be carried more than I could allow.

All the best and sincere prayers to you and yours.
 
Fausto my friend.
Extremely sad to hear about your Grand Dad. I never had a nice Grandfather - I have only ever had the one Grandfather - and he was just not a nice person- but you have lost a special person in your life - a person I always wanted - and that was a real neat Grandad.
I am so glad you had such a wonderful influence in your life - I feel for you my friend, but I envy you as well having had this great man in your life.
I won't enter your great giveaway - but thank you Fausto for this giveaway- and all our thoughts go out to you today.
 
That's some heavy stuff, and I feel for you. Recently my family and I lost a great friend of ours. He was like a father for my dad and I was quite close to him as well. I think of him often, but what I think of most is the amount of help and love he gave in the few years I knew him. He helped me more then he ever new. In the end I am eternaly greatful that he could be a part of my life.
That is a great gesture with the knife. I have been eyeing the 66 for quite a while, and I would be more then happy to put it to good use.
 
My condolences on your loss.
Letting them go can be difficult; but it is one of the kindest, most compassionate things one can do. Far too often, I see people fighting a battle they don't want to win - all because their loved ones aren't able to give them that peace.
(Not an entry)
 
Fausto, like many stated above, the loss of loved ones is difficult. Your approach is quite special and touching. Nancy's Mom passed away this last May from Alzheimer's. I love Lyla like my own Mother, we had a special bond. Thank you for your touching post as Nanc encouraged Lyla to go, not fight, to no longer be in pain but to join her loved ones that passed before her. Nanc was holding Lyla' s hand when she passed.

Not an entry but a sincere appreciation for your post:)
 
Quattromori, sometimes it is very difficult dealing with a loss of a loved one or the stresses of life. Sometimes it helps me to focus on the good times that I've had. Sometimes that is all you can do.
I'd be honored to be in your giveaway.
 
Evening Fausto, we all grieve in our own way, and yours is nothing short of something special. My father and I lost his father/my grandfather recently. He's a blank stern sort of man so I've never seen him emote but he had the same approach with my おじいさん, urging him to go on while still brokenhearted. Sometimes fighting the good fight is calling to rest with those you love most.. I wish the best for your family in this time. I'd love to pass this one on to my father.
 
i don't know what to say.
it's difficult for me to post in this thread.
let's just say i dig what your dealing with.
buzz
 
Quattromori, it is a sign of strength that you share your loss and pain with us on the forum. I am not looking to own or carry your knife, just wanted to share the fact that I know loss, and have not myself learned how to deal with it. So far I have just sort of avoided the whole subject, and just moved along. I hope to understand it all at some point. Good on ya' for dealing with it in your own way.:)
 
Fausto, Not an entry. Just my sincere condolences for the loss of someone so special to you. We all know it's inevitable and yet it's never easy. Today would have been my parents 68th wedding anniversary. I really miss them. I guess that will never change, although it's a little easier to deal with as time goes by.
 
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