Letting go

Gone but not forgotten. I believe we will all meet again someday. Sorry to hear about your loss.
 
Everyone handles letting go differently. I avoid the subject. If you're doing a giveaway I'd be glad to enter and would edc it and always wanted a GEC.
 
I lost my Mom in February of this year. She was put into Hospice and within a few hours she was gone. I was not there when she died. I was on my way to see her when I got the call just outside of Knoxville, TN. I pulled over on the highway and cried as trucks and cars continued to go wherever, them not knowing or caring I was in pain. In the months ahead I struggled with the guilt that I did not get to say goodbye to her and thank her for my life, but I'm slowly coming around. I don't talk about it much and in fact it was several months before I even mentioned it to anyone here on BF (in public or private) but my announcement went unnoticed to the people I thought mattered to me. I can't recall getting any "smoke and prayers" and it made me shy away to other parts of the forum. That was about the time I found you guys here. And your caring, and generosity to others have truly made me less cynical these days. Anyway, the last thing I wanted to do was to invite people into my grief.
But since then, when someone posts that they lost someone dear to them, I can offer condolences and mean it because I know exactly how they feel at that moment and know they really need it. So Fausto, you have my deepest sympathies, and my sincerest condolences. Be well.
May your 66 find a great home.
 
Lost my mom last Christmas.

What a wonderful way of honoring your Grandfather you have chosen. Not an entry it would be a safe queen to me, but please accept my condolences.

I won't call the grief, the letting go, a journey. How about a process? You seem to get different aspects of it in when you can, when it's possible and when you are ready.

May you invoke and resonate with the love and depth of emotion to properly lay your family member to rest. He will live in your heart, where he would want to be.
 
Once again my friend, sorry for your loss. Both my grandfathers passed on many years ago, but I still miss them.

The 66 is a great pattern, hope your knife finds a good home :thumbup:

Jack Black said:
I’ll sit here at my computer reading the posts here on Traditionals, and not be able to stop myself from positively beaming when I read the fine discourse between members, and my heart swells with pride when I read of yet another act of generosity, and I’m pretty sure that I’m far from alone in that. I feel blessed just to be allowed a peek in here. So the purpose of this thread is to talk about this, and in particular, what compels us to pass on knives that are so special to us in the way we see here all the time. It seems to me that those who give get at least as much of a kick out of it as the recipient of the kindness.
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http://www.bladeforums.com/forums/showthread.php/1057711-Passing-on-your-Precious
 
Fausto as so many others have stated, what a wonderful sentiment. It really says a lot about the person you are and the special bond you had with your grandfather. I only knew one grandfather growing up and he passed when I was a teen. We were very close and it was the first time I had to deal with the loss of a loved one. I was a difficult time. I still keep momentos to remind me of the times we had. You have a very healthy attitude towards your loss. Not that it makes it any easier, but there definitely does need to be a "letting go" state of mind.
My condolences for your loss.
 
Fausto,

Beautiful post and a beautiful gift. I am not entering into the knife give away.

I wanted to tell you, again, that I am sorry for your loss.

Take care.

Cate
 
Fausto, when you first posted about your grandfather's passing last month, you wrote:
quattromori said:
...He lived a long and healthy life, and would turn 103 this December.
He had little suffering and went away quietly. I'm sad because I won't be able to hear his stories again, and many will remain untold, yet he was a very blessed man, and that's what matters most.
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I was sad to learn of your loss, but happy to hear what a wonderful life he had lived, and I admire you for the perspective you take on the end of his life. I'll continue to pray that you and your family can mourn his loss for a relatively brief time and celebrate his life and memory for the rest of your lives.

quattromori said:
...I loved my grandfather dearly, and he taught me many things (and even more I have learned from him without he being aware of it I guess). Yet, when the time came, I tried not to hold him back, and instead I did my best to let him go with love.
Same thing I'm going to do with this knife.

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I got it because I really liked the GEC #66 frame, picked the SFO version cause I wanted to try the yellow rose version, asked Glenn to modify it into a single blade (which he did wonderfully), and carried it around quite often; I like it very much. Now it's time to let it go, and hopefully it will find as much love as it's leaving behind.
So please post in this thread if you wish to receive it, carry it, and use it. I couldn't ask for more from it.

Fausto
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I originally didn't plan to enter the give-away of your well-liked yellow GEC #66, but I've changed my mind. Not because I want to make your knife my own, but because I think it would be a wonderful symbol of dealing with the grief we all must deal with occasionally. If I won your knife, I'd pass it on to the next BF member who experiences a loss, explain the "history" of the knife, and encourage that member to eventually pass the knife on to another member who is grieving. Maybe it could become a "traveling memorial" to your grandfather and to the loved ones of other members through whose hands the knife passes. I really like the bright yellow color of your knife as a symbol of the sunshine of hope that eventually breaks through the clouds of our sadness and mourning.

Anyway, Fausto, I'm sure your grandpa would be pleased to see that he's still helping you to learn life lessons even after he's gone. Best wishes, my friend.

- GT
 
Fausto,

This is not an entry, as I would not be able to give that knife the attention that it would deserve.

I just wanted to say what a wonderful and moving gesture this is on your part, I guess part of the healing process for you. Might I add that I am honored and humbled to have been associated with a mod on a knife that carries an emotional connection like that. Sure, it was a simple mod, hardly enough to put a personal touch into, but it's exactly things like this that make me enjoy what I do so much, far beyond any material compensation that I may receive for my work. Truly rewarding for me on a personal level.

I hope the new owner will appreciate it as much as you did, and that this will allow you to move on.

With kind regards,
Glenn
 
You have my sincere condolences. I didn't know my paternal grandfather, but my maternal grandfather is still in good health for his age and has been a role model my entire life. I owe him so much, I can't imagine losing him.

I would like to enter, thank you for the chance and your generosity.
 
We all pass from this world in due time and no one can change that, but once we realize that sorrow is a selfish emotion, we can let it go. Then we can miss those who have made the crossing without being sad about it.
Remember the best of him and keep it alive in you. Rejoice in those memories and the possibility that, if there is something in us that never dies, we may yet find those who have gone before us.
 
My condolences, Faust! You had a Nonno to be proud of!

A worthy giveaway - please don't take it as an insult that I decline to enter! Let it go to someone who will use it with pride!

Becoming blind about the time I was born as his first grandchild, my grandfather still took great pride in the beginning of the next generation, and in his many grandchildren to follow. I was named after him in the Italian tradition - he was my mother's father.
I was his eyes and sometimes hands on the world often as I grew up. I can remember us hustling down the street, his hand on my shoulder, and grandma shouting after us in Italian, "Where are you going??
We were going to visit one of his cronies, where I would watch them drink homemade wine, later having a sip myself, and listen to them singing Caruso pieces!!
He was a handy man and taught me a love for repairing things. I eventually made my living as a general contractor, then a Home Inspector!
Lucky for both of us we had a Nonnu!

CC
 
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So sorry to hear of your loss. He lives on in those fond memories. Only time softens and heals the loss.
 
I lost my grandfather a few years ago, my condolences. When he was alive, I thought he hung the moon. Now that he's gone, I know he did.
The loss is hard, but strength can be found in memories.
Not an entry.
 
Fausto, I am truly sorry to read about your grandfather, I pretty much feel the same since I lost my father 12 years ago, it does not become easier in time, only the notion that great people are not staying with us as long as we may want and you need to continue for you and your family. That's how life goes.
Like you in this GAW let many of my knives go after long use. I put my eye on the 66 frame for long time but somehow didn't pull the trigger, I think that the combination of 66 frame and yellow rose is very appealing and moding it into single blade makes even more. So I'm in.

Mike
 
I wish you and your family all the best Fausto. You are a respectful and loving Grandson. Your Grandfather must have been very proud of you and you should feel proud of yourself.
 
Fausto, I am sorry to hear of your loss. I had an uncle who passed away about ten years ago. It all started with a debilitating stroke which triggered cancer. I remember how unfair it felt that one of the strongest and funniest men I knew was transformed into a person needing so much help for simple tasks, and not being able to speak. A few short months past and he died, I felt like I lost him twice... Fast forward to earlier this summer Between thinking of jokes throughout the day that I knew he would have laughed at, and a mechanically unsound lawn mower reminded me of driving for the first time driving in promptu with him. I realized it was his birthday and I knew he was with me the day. Sounds weird and maybe it is, basically I'm saying that your grandfather will still find you throughout your life, you simply need to be aware.

I too love single blades and I love clip points. I have admired smooth yellow rose but have never owned one. I am an Iowa Hawkeye so with patina may it become black and gold!

You have my thoughts and prayers.
 
Fausto,
I too would like to offer you my sincere condolences. The loss of friends and family is one of the single most devastating things we experience. Loss, grief, and a sense of being left with a loss for words while having so much left to say is enigmatic. I hope you can reconcile and find some peace within yourself, you have a nice support system here among internet friends. Time does heal, not all wounds but many and I think we are built to have our memories fade a little as we get older.
This is not an entry, I am not deserving- as I don't post much here because I simply choose to read quietly when time permits.
 
Condolences from this quarter as well. I've lost three good friends in the last year and two fine dogs.

The pain does ease, somewhat, but it takes time. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It may take years, it may take months, but it will be in your time.

I'd carry that with honor. I even know a friend I'd dedicate it to.
 
I'm sorry for your loss. At the same time letting go is important. When I speak of mum who I lost a few years ago I speak of her as if she's in the present. As that is how I keep her memory alive even though I know that's she's moved on.
 
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