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my life keeps kicking me while im down. im 20 and have been in a searious relationship with a girl for several years now. every thing went great until about a year ago when she started being unfaithfull. nothing "major" just letting another guy put his hands all over and doing god knows what else that i dont know about. theres rumors of more but i dont know if there true :barf:

next, she leaves for a europe trip and a find in a email from another guy telling how much he misses her and how much he loves her and that he wants her back. a few days after that she dumps me when she gets back to town. thats been 2-3 months ago.

weve patched things up or so i thaught, there was odd things like her leaving me when we went to her doorm, when i finally got past the sucurity guards and the auto door locks on the elivator i caught her stashing something in a desk. another time she got pictures developed and would not show them to me, she said that i had to trust her and that she had nothing to hide but i just had to trust her.

besides times like that weve been having a great time and spending alot of time togeather. for the last few days shes been really down. ive comforted her, held her, and made her happy as much as i could.

today, she came clean, while we were dating over the last month or so she had been dating him behind my back. the reasion why she had been sad was because he dumped her. and the thing she was trying to stash? his picture, and what was in the pictures, of course, pictures of him. on top of all this shes been lieing to her parents who dont like me and now that every things coming clean there pressing charges against me, or so they say.

she turns 18 in 1 month and she says she still loves me and the reasion she came clean is because she dont want to lie to me no more. once shes 18 we dont have to worrie about her parents butting in any more. im so depressed that i cant take it any more. what should i do?
 
Walk away before it's too late. You don't want to live with someone you can't trust and she has proven you can't trust her.
 
Do yourself a big favor and walk away. Fast. Better yet.....RUN!!! And don't look back. You'll thank us all later. :D
 
IMHO, I think you're being dishonest with yourself when you say "my life keeps kicking me while im down.".....it sounds as if you are kicking yourself when you are down (as well as allowing this self-abuse to continue). My advice parallels those who've already posted.......drop this girl like a hot potatoe! She's proven to be trouble on more than one occasion. Take charge of your world and move on!!
 
KaBar,Dude,you are 20,you have your whole life ahead of you.My advice would be the same as these guys,she's cheated on you,God knows how many times.I know it hurts but you will save yourself a truckload of grief if you cut her loose now.There are lots and lots of girls and you will find one that truly loves you!Best of luck. :thumbup:
 
You sound like heart and soul to me. She's a player and you are being played. Get out and don't look back. :thumbdn:
 
Sorry, Kabar, but I have to agree with everybody else. I been there, thankfully a long while ago, but I know the feeling, pretty close to the exact same.

Let it go, and don't go back to her, you'll be happier eventually for it.
Sorry for your pain, nonetheless.

Jon
 
Yvsa said:
Walk away before it's too late. You don't want to live with someone you can't trust and she has proven you can't trust her.
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Check out Yvsa's tag line at the bottom of his post. She's shoveling the BS now and now quietly. Walk, run or fly. Just get away from her. It will only get worse if you stay.
 
Yvsa said:
Walk away before it's too late. You don't want to live with someone you can't trust and she has proven you can't trust her.
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Yvsa is a wise man, but I must respectfully disagree with him on this. Don't walk away... RUN! Run for your life! Run very fast! Run very far! And don't look back.
 
KaBar said:
my life keeps kicking me while im down. im 20 and have been in a searious relationship with a girl for several years now. every thing went great until about a year ago when she started being unfaithfull. nothing "major" just letting another guy put his hands all over and doing god knows what else that i dont know about. theres rumors of more but i dont know if there true :barf:

next, she leaves for a europe trip and a find in a email from another guy telling how much he misses her and how much he loves her and that he wants her back. a few days after that she dumps me when she gets back to town. thats been 2-3 months ago.

weve patched things up or so i thaught, there was odd things like her leaving me when we went to her doorm, when i finally got past the sucurity guards and the auto door locks on the elivator i caught her stashing something in a desk. another time she got pictures developed and would not show them to me, she said that i had to trust her and that she had nothing to hide but i just had to trust her.

besides times like that weve been having a great time and spending alot of time togeather. for the last few days shes been really down. ive comforted her, held her, and made her happy as much as i could.

today, she came clean, while we were dating over the last month or so she had been dating him behind my back. the reasion why she had been sad was because he dumped her. and the thing she was trying to stash? his picture, and what was in the pictures, of course, pictures of him. on top of all this shes been lieing to her parents who dont like me and now that every things coming clean there pressing charges against me, or so they say.

she turns 18 in 1 month and she says she still loves me and the reasion she came clean is because she dont want to lie to me no more. once shes 18 we dont have to worrie about her parents butting in any more. im so depressed that i cant take it any more. what should i do?
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Are/were you in love ? Do you have an idea what part of your anatomy contains your thinking apparatus now ?

Play with your weapons & keep looking around. There's a ton of females out there looking for a relationship. Be choosey ,not a pushover. Play hard to get. If that doesn't work ,change tactics.


Uncle Alan ,a scarred veteran of romance too. :cool:
 
Dump the bitch. She won't change. It'll be another guy, then another, then another. All the while she'll string you along and you'll keep coming back for more. You'll feel much better dumping her than if she does it to you.

You're only 20 anyway. Why are you sweating this? Start looking for a serious multi-year relationship in ten more years.

-Bob
 
Walk now and don't look back.I've split with my unfaithful woman the moment I found out about it.Shure it hurts at first but you'll feel much better trust me.
Besides your only twenty there's lots of women out there and lots of time to enjoy yourself. :D :thumbup:
 
Keep her, but start dating other women. You find one you like more, dump the cheating one and move on. Much easier to find a new woman when they can't smell single on you.
 
This chick will NEVER be faithful to ANYONE.

Been there. Done that.

You can do better. :cool:

I did.

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RyanMalpiede said:
Much easier to find a new woman when they can't smell single on you.
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That MAY be true and it MAY not. Smart women won't get serious with someone who cheated on someone else with them.

Still, pretty funny post.

Dude, Ryan, empty your PM box.

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I agree that you need to get her out of your life (if possible, of course... leaving someone you love is never easy.)

I have had my heart hurt, but never "broken" as I had thought so many times. It does get better; I promise. It may take months, years, whatever, but don't settle for someone who would treat you like that. You deserve better, and she needs to grow up before she will ever be able to commit to ANYone. Don't take it personally; it is HER, not YOU.

I know it is still difficult and you are hurting, and I hurt for you. Please just try to keep in mind that almost everyone has gone through something similar, and you are never alone in how you feel... even at this moment, there is someone else out there who is hurting at least as badly as you are. :(

You will pull through this and become a better person for it. You already have a great start, because I, along with a lot of other people here, already think you are a great person. :)

love,
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