My friend is a tool.......

sounds just like my dumb ass best friend lol. triple shifts suck i remember those the 2 1/2 months i worked on an ambo:barf:. god bless you for your service... and your loyalty haha ;)
 
I am a member of my local SAR team and I can tell you this kind of thing happens more often than you would think. Very frustrating to find out that you and your dog have spent the last several hours in the tick filled 95 degree heat and have been caught in a pouring rainstorm to find out the "lost person" is home in the air conditioning watching TV.
 
John G said:
RescueRiley, The good news is you're upset because you care about your friend. He's fortunate to have a friend like you. I just hope he understands the gravity of his thoughtlessness.

We're all able to learn, here's a great opportunity for him to do so.
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You get an A+ for this reply in my book.
 
Ex-Marine?
Ask him what his DI would have done to him for a trick like this?

Kudos to you
 
was it harry? punish him by making him eat nothing but spam on the next camping trip.
 
you're correct sir, a tool. We'd all be fortunate to have friends like you, willing to take their own time and help out in such a potentially serious situation.
 
I'd explain his actions to SAR and let them decide if they want to bill him. The guy is a complete idiot - why the hell call to tell you he might be in trouble and then not call back to let you know everything is OK. He deserves a swift kick in the nadgers for that kind of thoughtlessness!
 
Excommunication would be the only thing that gave me satisfaction. It would have nothing to do with how many hours working I'd put in before hand, and it would definitely have nothing to do with SAR in any form whatsoever. It simply boils down to this: I will go a long way out of my way to get stuff done for my friends and I require the same from them. Start to introduce people who would abuse that system and it fails. The system starts to lack confidence and the members second guess each other, with the ensuing effect that people wont make the effort because “he didn't mean it really”. Screw that.
I'm tough on friends and I figure there is no shortage of people on the planet eager to try out for a spot so why not. People like that don't anger me but they are irritating. Most important though is they have marked themselves out for dismissal. The upside of my harshness is I only retain people I can count on.

I've been bitten before with the “I want X to happen”. I reply “are you sure?”. And then when it has happened it turns out they weren't so sure or began to lament it ever did. It doesn't matter if you've only got the kinds of relationships with your friends that involve borrowing cups of sugar off your neighbor, but when money or someone's safety is on the line its time to keep your powder dry. Folks that don't make the grade like the guy described above are merely acquaintances. I wouldn't invest in them any more with time or emotion than I would with finance. And that's an end to it.
 
You're a good man Riley, :thumbup: ..I'm proud to have you as a friend. :thumbup:


Your buddy needs a good talking to once things settle out. :grumpy:




RescueRiley said:
Tony you know your #2

I had to give spot 1 to your wife.
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OH No, :eek: ...Does that imply Marcelo's on top, :eek:





:barf: ...I don't even want to think about that. :barf:





Big Mike
 
Secondly he wasted a good partof my day as well as the resources of the SAR team all because of a careless error
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that is one reason I support billing folks for rescue.
 
What I don't get is why he called Riley in the first place if his phone was dying, and he was planning on walking out anyway? Why didn't this knucklehead just save his phone call for his wife later if he decided he needed it?
 
Foilist I though that too.... If my phone was dying I'd turn it off to save the juice for when I was really in trouble... and why involve an outside party who has little ability to improve your situation is beyond me.. I did all I could do and I still felt like it wasn;t enough.. untill of course I found out what really happened.
 
Marcelo Cantu said:
Glad he's OK. Be may be liable for the cost of the SAR. (or should be...)
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more and more states (and National Parks) are going this route

in Montana we charge 25 cents on every hunting license sold (we sell quite a few :)) that goes into a statewide pool- SAR, Sheriff's Dept., etc that respond to a lost hunter incident can ask for reimbursement out of this fund- so far it works pretty well

also remember, they don't call you Rescue Riley for nothing :D
 
Have you had a chance to talk to him? You did a great job, aside from thinking you were going to go find him in the morning. I don't think you would have added any value to the effort. Not that you lack the skill to take care of yourself, bud. It's just an SAR fact that unaccounted folks running separate searches can severely hinder the situation. It is so hard not to do something, though... isn't it? I think you did EXACTLY what needed to be done, John.

BTW, I consider TonyM to be "#2" as well... if you get my meaning.

Rick
 
That was definitely not cool John - he is lucky to have a friend like you to count on :thumbup:
 
OK Riley - you get the CMH for being an upstanding friend.

However, your bud NEEDS a 2-gallon cold-water-bucket wake up for his assinine arrogance. Then a full-on 18oz steak dinner for you at your place of choice - while he sits his dumb ass there hungry with NO food just to simulate your personal expense.

Finally, a logical conversation to de-bunk his lofty, self-aggrandized opinion of his skills - former jarhead or not - in a way that will help him truly understand what his carelessness could mean to for his wife and kids (if they have any).

Arrogance is a difficult cancer to heal someone from.

Being a father/mother, spouse and friend adds alot of responsibility to our lives. When i married my wife, she asked me to promise that after we had kids i wouldn't do "things" quite so much on the edge as was my norm (after she had seen me playing in a way that seemed a little too 'extreme'). I keep my word - sometimes i push it a bit, but i always remember how much i love coming home to see my little ones.
 
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