My son is losing his hair!

i would like to make a comment that it's looks futile in the vieuw of the recent disasters, 9-11, but we can not judge how someone else feels about a problem. I had problems with it, and grew over it. Now looking at it i wished it was the only problem i had to deal with. But i think CRF question was a genuine one and he has a good reputation. The fact that he did ask the question means that he as a dad feels along with his son.
I don't think WE can judge about the importance people give to their own problems. If they find it important enough to ask a question i will give him a straight answer.
I think we should be more carefull about jumping onto conclusions about questions in BF. I always asume the question is legit, and 90% of the time it is, if i fail and this turns out to be a W&C question ( wich i don't) then lets think about the 90% we gave support.
I might sound like a wimp, but everything u do, bounces back sometimes in your life. So i try to help as much people as i can without beeing judgemental.

Maybe we should allow some trolls back in because it seems that honest members are getting blasted for a genuine question.

CRF, go with your son to the dermathologist and let him decide how he is going to deal with the problem, i wish he will get an answer that will give hime some peace of mind.

PACEM
 
Everyone who is balding or has thinning hair has probably asked why me? I know it bothered me but one day I thought WTF? This is the way the good Lord planned it and there is nothing I can do about it. I then bought some clippers and buzzed all my hair off . I have been happy ever since. People recognize me for what I am not for my hair. Been 14 years now. Let me pass on a secret that us baldies know: Women love bald men! Don't know why. I'll probably be kicked out of the bald mens club for divulging the secret.

My advice is to let nature take its course and leave the Propecia and Rogaine on the store shelves. The statment about pregnant women should not even touch Propecia is scary!
 
I think it is very natural and normal to be stressed about a change like that, a sign of aging that may presage other, less innocuous changes. As time goes by, he'll get used to it -- as Louis Wu will say, "I'll get over this some day. Why not now?" -- but we live in the present, and he needs the support today.

Dermatologist is probably better than self-medication, Rogaine may be better right now than giving up. Next year he may see it's just a slight shift of hairline like your predecessors, or he may shave it all off. That's next year.

Hair is a major element of personal appearance. It is not shallow to recognize that self-image is important. My cousin grew up realizing that once he was in his twenties he would lose most of his hair like all the other men in the family. He was cool with that, but guess what? He took after the other side of the family, and kept it all, thick and black. Good thing he didn't waste time worrying!

I understand people obsessing about the disaster in Asia, but we have to live for ourselves, too. Make your donations to established and reliable aid organizations, encourage friends to do the same, and go on with the rest of your life as well. The earthquake and tsunami were not our fault.

The great rabbi Hillel's advice applies:

If I don't look out for myself, who will?
If I only look out for myself, what am I?
If not now, when?
 
I can understand why this would bother your son. Receding hair seems to be a fear shared by many men.

As I see it your son is giving his hair more control than it deserves. Many years ago, I watched this television show about this mother who had a young daughter going through chemotherapy. Obviously, the little girl was terribly bothered by her impending hair loss. Her mother responded in the best way possible. She threw a big head shaving party, and the mother and daughter took turns shaving each other's head. What a perfect solution. :)

As I see it, your son has a few choices. 1.) He can throw money at it and possibly find a solution; 2.) he can leave it "as is" and live with it; or 3.) he can shave it. Whatever he decides to do, he needs to accept it. The women who are turned off by it aren't the ones he'd want anyhow. They're shallow. Personally, I love masculine men. A masculine man wouldn't let hair loss get him down for too long. A real man would say, "if they don't like it, **** 'em." I've never been attracted to a man because of his hair. It's the man that matters. What kind of man is your son?

BTW, men who shave their heads can be very sexy. I've always believed that it shows that they aren't slaves to their hairline. Now that's sexy. ;)
 
Losing my hair bothered me a lot until I had chemo and really started to lose my hair. Instead of using clippers, I shaved my head. My hair grew back but I just kept shaving my head until razor blades started to get really expensive. I liked it bald but it was just too much work. I can sympathize with your son but it is something that sooner or later he is going to have to learn to live with.
 
cockroachfarm said:
And to all the guys who posted real advice - THANKS! It is much appreciated and that's what I was hoping for.
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Sorry man, I guess I was out of order :( . I've had a shaved head since I was 11, which in the early eighties wasn't that common. I guess it all depends on the shape of his head. If its of the Norse rounded type (like Dr. Green of E.R) he will suit a buzz cut. I take mine down to the wood every week or so.
 
Really it's all been said but I have two words for your son!


"Vin Diesel"




Worst thing in the world is the comb over though!
My hair isn't thinning,and my wife hates when I shave the dirty stuff off my head!
I hate it ,and she hates when "I look like a thug!"

What in hell do I do? :D

Only messing but he should just go short and see what the reaction is, he doesn't like it or doesn't find it easier to shell out once for a cordless clippers with a ceramic blade which never needs lube or sharpening , he can go the Rogaine route!

Given the forum I bet it kills you that a clippers might never need sharpening though! Thinking if you got it it'd be the best damn clipper ever after a swipe on the crock stick? I got your number!! :cool: Same as mine!
 
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Ugly bald buggers. What self-respecting woman would look twice at them?

maximus otter
 
JMO, but women that judge men on the amount of hair they have, are not worth knowing.:eek: ;)
 
"Thanks, Trout. That's what we have been telling him."

Hey, you're welcome :) When I first started thinning, I told myself all of those very true, yet very ucomforting lines that I'm sure your son has thought and heard. Eventually, though, I've just gotten over it. Yeah, it did take some talking with my parents as well as a perspective shift on my part. But, evidently, my life did go on :D

Esav said, "I think it is very natural and normal to be stressed about a change like that, a sign of aging... Hair is a major element of personal appearance. It is not shallow to recognize that self-image is important."

He is exactly right. And, when feeling down, I do find it helpful to hit the gym, in preparation for the day when I will look like Vin Diesel :D
 
Trout Tamer said:
....But, evidently, my life did go on......."It is not shallow to recognize that self-image is important.".....
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Trout (et al): Looking back, I'm kind of sorry I posted this request. At the time, I was just trying to provide some feedback for my son from people whose advice I (generally) trust - and not just the usual comments "from his Dad".

I understand perfectly that text communication over the internet provides no "visual" cues or "verbal inflection" or "body language" between the two participants - which is why we rely so heavily on smilies and emoticons to try to make the reader understand that, "Hey, I'm just joking!"

The most telling replies were those that advised him to "get a job" and to "stop worrying about it."

Actually, the "get a job" advice made me smile a bit. My son has his own production company that provides employment for several people, full-time and freelance. In fact, before he took his extended leave of absence, he hired someone on a part-time basis - just so they could have a job for 6 months and make some money for tuition! When he returns, his first new project for 2005 will be to film a documentary for a charitable organization. He is waiving all profits on this venture.

As I said, "communication" on the internet leaves much to be desired, imho. But that's just the way it is.

Secondly, telling him "not to worry about it" is no "advice" at all - again, IMHO.

I'm sure many of us here suffered from mild to severe acne during our teenage years. I know my own parents always told me "don't worry about it." Did that make us feel better, or deal with it? Nope.

Has anyone here suffered from severe financial hardship and been given the advice, "Don't worry - things will get better!". Bet that took a big load off your mind, didn't it?

And as far as vanity is concerned - sure, there's a bit of that. But believe me, my son has his head screwed on right and he's had his head shaved when he was younger - with no negative effects on his social life. This ain't just a proud father talking, but he could be a model if he wanted to. He's had enough offers. But he likes doing "real" work. :) Anyway shaved head or hair to his shoulders, this kid has always had to beat the ladies off with stick, lucky bast**d! Not because of his sartorial splendor - but because of his personality and character.

Anyway, thanks for all the good suggestions.

Now - let's get back to talking about the really IMPORTANT stuff: is a Sebenza worth the money?

;) :D ;) :D
 
cockroachfarm said:
My son is 25 years old and starting to get a little "thin" at the hairline. Because of his age, it's really starting to stress him out - to the point where he's considering some of the over-the-counter preparations like Procerin or Rogaine. I told him not to do anything until I've received some advice, information, and suggestions he can trust - IOW, from BFC. :)

I know this is really bothering him (even more than he lets on) so any advice would be much appreciated.
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cockroachfarm said:
Trout (et al): Looking back, I'm kind of sorry I posted this request. At the time, I was just trying to provide some feedback for my son from people whose advice I (generally) trust - and not just the usual comments "from his Dad"...

The most telling replies were those that advised him to "get a job" and to "stop worrying about it."

Actually, the "get a job" advice made me smile a bit. My son has his own production company that provides employment for several people, full-time and freelance. In fact, before he took his extended leave of absence, he hired someone on a part-time basis - just so they could have a job for 6 months and make some money for tuition! When he returns, his first new project for 2005 will be to film a documentary for a charitable organization. He is waiving all profits on this venture....

Secondly, telling him "not to worry about it" is no "advice" at all - again, IMHO.

I'm sure many of us here suffered from mild to severe acne during our teenage years. I know my own parents always told me "don't worry about it." Did that make us feel better, or deal with it? Nope.

Has anyone here suffered from severe financial hardship and been given the advice, "Don't worry - things will get better!". Bet that took a big load off your mind, didn't it?

And as far as vanity is concerned - sure, there's a bit of that. But believe me, my son has his head screwed on right and he's had his head shaved when he was younger - with no negative effects on his social life. This ain't just a proud father talking, but he could be a model if he wanted to. He's had enough offers. But he likes doing "real" work. :) Anyway shaved head or hair to his shoulders, this kid has always had to beat the ladies off with stick, lucky bast**d! Not because of his sartorial splendor - but because of his personality and character...

Anyway, thanks for all the good suggestions.
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Interesting.

I'm just wondering what kind of responses cockroachfarm wanted. I thought that there were some interesting answers posted here. "Don't worry about it" can be rather insightful if read in context. I'm sorry that cockroachfarm got too defensive to appreciate it. I'm surprised that he didn't anticipate some of the answers. Really, what more can people say about it? Try Rogaine, it might work.

BTW, I'm glad to hear that your son is such a lady killer.
 
jsmatos said:
.....I thought that there were some interesting answers posted here.....I'm sorry that cockroachfarm got too defensive to appreciate it....
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Yes, I thought there were some good responses - and I said so. And, yes, two of the replies did get me rather defensive - simply because they were totally irrelevant to the question posed.

Thank you. :)
 
I have known Cockroachfarm (Holger Enge) for quite some time now. After the 9-11 attacks on our country he was the first to write to us and say how sorry he was for what happened to our country. He is a gentleman, very much brilliant in his carreer and I'd have him in my home any time. I just felt the need to defend a friend. Cindy Denning
 
I started losing my hair when I was 20. It's genetic, but I stressed over it for about 5 years. Rogaine did nothing and with Propecia, the cure looks worse than the disease. If he absolutely HAS to have his hair back, then transplants are the way to go. They look good, they grow, and they will cost him $10,000.

Being overweight is a bigger turnoff for most women than hair loss. So keep himself in shape and he'll be fine. Fat, bald men don't seem to date much... unless he's rich.

My philosophy is, "I've got what I've got and there's nothing I can do about it."
 
Propecia seemed to stop mine from thinning & I haven't suffered any side effects. Any Dr can write the paper for him & it cost me about $50 a month.
To all those telling him to get used to it, live with what he has, etc, Is it safe to assume you don't waste your time with women who wear make up, get their hair done or heaven forbid get some hair waxed off.
 
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