Nebulae... you make a valid point that I feel foolish for not addressing. It has been a while since I did anything as a hobby. If you are making a knife every now and then, when time and work permits, then spending weeks on heat treat might not be an option. And if you managed to pull it off, the time inbetween knives would probably leave you rusty.
In this case, I would make a small blank in addition to your knife, for a practice run prior to final heat treat. With this piece you can check grain size, Rockwell test or whatever you had in mind. Then you can adjust accordingly before HT'g the knife your spent time on.
Bo T... Checking grain size can be done with the naked eye or a low magnification jeweler's loupe(10-40X) You simply break the steel and check the face of the fracture. There is no polishing necessary. Infact, it is easier to see if nothing contaminates the break. Here is a pretty good
thread where a member asked advice about HT, which eventually drifted to grain size. Once he realized that he could further refine his grain, he went back and improved his normalizing/austenizing methods, resulting in a major improvement.
He went from this(which isn't the worst I've seen)...
to this...