The entire process is well explained in the stickies. I will link the one on HT:
http://www.bladeforums.com/forums/s...etta-Stone-of-Metallurgy-Lots-of-HT-info-here
Read about Annealing , Normalizing, Hardening, and Tempering. If you still don't understand the difference between hardening and annealing ( softening) then post another question and we will see if we can walk you through it. This is another good reason to find a nearby maker, as seeing this done will make it all clear.
When I bring a new maker to my shop, I take a piece of thin 1095 , or an old file, and let him try to file on it for a minute. Then we anneal it. Now it files better, but will bend with firm hand pressure. Then we water quench it. If it doesn't break on its own, I have him try and bend it in his hands. It will break like glass. Then we temper what is left back to about Rockwell 58. It now files a bit hard, but won't break when you try and bend it. This usually gets the relationship between the three procedures clear.
The only steel I would suggest to a new maker is 1084. Without experience and equipment, any other steel will be harder to get a good knife out of. Files should be used to make knives
with, not make knives
out of.
Aldo's 1084 is great steel to start on.
Let me know what size knife you plan on making, and I will send you a piece of 1084 that size. If you wish, you can email me a sketch of the knife, and I will profile the cut out for you. No charge for any of this.