You're absolutely correct that perceived recoil is a useful tool in the firearms industry. It is SPECIFICALLY and ESPECIALLY useful when doing things like fitting a shotgun stock to a competition shooter. In that instance you can make a number of adjustments to reduce felt recoil to the shooter such as adjust the length of pull, the cheek weld, stock plate thickness and so on. And hopefully you decrease their shooting fatigue thus leading to higher scores. That said, perceived recoil has jack shit to do with ACTUAL recoil which is a force expressed in foot lbs that acts in the opposite direction of the projectile in flight. Now there are a crapload of factors that come into this. Since you like the .357 you can for instance, reduce perceived recoil by adjusting projectile weight, powder load, speed at which the powder burns, or even the weight of the firearm itself. What you can't change, is the hand strength of the individual holding the gun. Can you train anyone to be more efficient with absorbing recoil. Of course you can. Can you overcome the raw physics involved with trying to force a petite young lady with small hands overcoming +P loads? No, you can't. Not without changing the full house .357 loads to .38 wadcutters or whatever she can handle. But then you've just gone and adjusted the ACTUAL recoil. And in fact, you can also adjust the ACTUAL recoil by doing some of the same things you would do to adjust PERCEIVED recoil, like change projectile weight, use less powder and so on. And I know, you're going to say you never said you could or couldn’t do that. But your statement that if they can't handle .357 they likely can't handle .32 implies that there is clearly no good reason to vary caliber, projectile weight, loading, and weapon size if the shooter can't shoot a .357 to begin with. Apparently the only good reason to change the loading of a round is for penetration purposes such as big game hunting. And good lord, if you take a PPK/S (which I have) and a PK380 (which I also have) to the range, the straight blowback design of the PPK/S will have different felt (perceived) recoil than the PK380 which has a Delayed Tilt Barrel Design. One isn't necessarily "more" than the other, it's just different. This is perceptible even when shooting ammo from the same lot. My wife likes them both. She hates my Smith 640 with full house loads. The ACTUAL recoil in that case is the issue. It has shit to do with perception.