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Just sitting in my big boy chair w/ my favorite Outlaw (she's all Natural), watching American Hoggers, and drinking Yuengling Oktoberfest. What are ya'll doing???
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i'm trying to figure out how to end it, with this girl. but she's a nice girl, so i'm trying not to hurt her feelings. i don't know what to say, but i think i'm going to tell her that i'm getting back together with an ex, which should seem plausible, at least to her, because I did tell her that I broke up with another girl recently (even though, that's not exactly accurate).
the truth is that i don't find her attractive. and when i hung out with her, the other night, she made a move. and i didn't respond. i couldn't. i tried to, but I just couldn't get down.
so, now she keeps texting me, asking me, "what's wrong?" and "are you okay?" and "you want to talk about it." i can't tell her that, "hey, i don't find you very attractive. in fact, i think you're ugly." that would be rude and it would crush her soul. not right.
that's what i'm doing right now...
the truth is that i don't find her attractive. and when i hung out with her, the other night, she made a move. and i didn't respond. i couldn't. i tried to, but I just couldn't get down.
so, now she keeps texting me, asking me, "what's wrong?" and "are you okay?" and "you want to talk about it." i can't tell her that, "hey, i don't find you very attractive. in fact, i think you're ugly." that would be rude and it would crush her soul. not right.
that's what i'm doing right now...
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For some reason I had the urge to watch some old WWF you know Big Boss man, Legion of Doom, Bushwackers, Jake the snake. I love youtube. 
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Old Skool wrestling is quality entertainment, but don't tell aunt Doris...., she thinks that #€£¥ is REAL!!! Don't worry, Terry. It sounds like you are a real gentleman. Just use a famous line from the fairer sex..., tell her you're not ready yet because of the strong feelings you still have for the ex. Good Luck!!!
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Be straight! May not seem right, but in the end, it's best. Ur not into her, she needs to know!
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5 Step Process to compassionate dumping
1. Go to Book store
2. Buy Book "He's just not that into you"
3. Using Sharpie, Cross out "He's" and write "I'm"
4. Give Book to girl
5. Go to club and find new girl
No need to make anything up. Just tell her you dont want anything more than friendship from her. Honesty, its an important part of an important society.
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Joe may be right, but don't hurt the girl's feelings. She can't help being ugly. I can help being fat (yes, I'm fat), but she can't help being ugly.
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Where are the "Busse" girls when you need em...?!?
subliminal message ...BBQ for the Boss-Man Pokey...
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Treat your fellow man/woman the way that you would like to be treated..., and you'll never go wrong. Should I fire a 2011 Colt SAA or keep it, unfired, in the safe??? Why or why not?
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I'm in Georgia, and it's Midnight:21..., so.... I have some things to do tomorrow..., like work... See y'all tomorrow.
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For better or worse, I've opted to go the duck and dodge route, meaning I've been non-responsive to her correspondences. i'm hoping she'll get the implicit message that comes with deliberate radio silence. I think she will.
i feel like a coward and a jerk, but it beats being mean or honest (which as some of you suggested, are two sides of the same coin).
in the past, i've had women i've dated fall of the face of the earth, seemingly randomly, so i'm sure she has had relatable experiences; guys just not calling her back.
I'm confident she'll be fine and we'll both get over it.
i feel like a coward and a jerk, but it beats being mean or honest (which as some of you suggested, are two sides of the same coin).
in the past, i've had women i've dated fall of the face of the earth, seemingly randomly, so i'm sure she has had relatable experiences; guys just not calling her back.
I'm confident she'll be fine and we'll both get over it.
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Life always goes on........
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have you ever heard of the term "boar hoggin"? Or "slump bustin"? In about a month you'll understand. I hate to say it, but you should at least call the girl & be civil. In another month when you've got a need, she might still be responsive.
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Agreed
Okie dokie, since no other female has stepped in here, I guess I'll take this one.
1. You feel like a coward and a jerk because that's what the duck/dodge method should make you feel like.
2. Call her. On the phone, like a man. Say something like: "I have had a nice time getting to know you, but I do not see us being more than friends. Honesty is important to me, and I don't want to misrepresent my feelings. I hope you can understand this, and if you're up for it, I'd like to be friends."
3. Listen to what she says. Deal with the fall out. Like a man.
It's really not that difficult, and women can handle the truth just like men can. In fact, we probably appreciate it more since we've all dealt with the dirt bags who use the duck/dodge method.
Man up, Hobbit.
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Dang girl! I like ur style!
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Okie dokie, since no other female has stepped in here, I guess I'll take this one.
1. You feel like a coward and a jerk because that's what the duck/dodge method should make you feel like.
2. Call her. On the phone, like a man. Say something like: "I have had a nice time getting to know you, but I do not see us being more than friends. Honesty is important to me, and I don't want to misrepresent my feelings. I hope you can understand this, and if you're up for it, I'd like to be friends."
3. Listen to what she says. Deal with the fall out. Like a man.
It's really not that difficult, and women can handle the truth just like men can. In fact, we probably appreciate it more since we've all dealt with the dirt bags who use the duck/dodge method.
Man up, Hobbit.
I appreciate the sound advice.
But I don't think I have the courage to do it - at least not sober, anyhow. I have high social anxiety and I hate awkward situations, even over the phone. Maybe I'll start nipping into the JW Black before I make a call. That should whet the whistle and hopefully provide some much needed liquid courage, a crutch to help me deliver the news.
She recently texted me "I'm sorry if I did anything wrong..."
It's sad. she didn't do anything wrong. But I just don't find her physically appealing (she kinda reminds me of Lena Dunham, actually a spitting image as far as looks go). Also, I'm not sure I even want to be friends with her. She's cool and all, but how can I hang out with a girl when I clearly don't want to be intimate with her and she is (or would be) aware of this fact, yet she still wants to be intimate with me?
Ya know what I'm saying? Like, were we to hang out in a friendship capacity, how do I pretend that I didn't just call her ugly, which I did (or will have if I make the call) in so many words because no matter how you dress it up that's essentially what I'm saying, even if I say this:
"I have had a nice time getting to know you, but I do not see us being more than friends. Honesty is important to me, and I don't want to misrepresent my feelings. I hope you can understand this, and if you're up for it, I'd like to be friends."
That statement = I think you're unattractive or not hot or doggish.
Everyone says that want to hear the truth, but when you really examine what the truth is, it sounds awful. Moreover, it's penetratingly hurtful to the recipient of the news regardless of how prepared one is. She may know already that I don't find her that attractive, but if I confirm it verbally, it may do nothing but to kick dirt in her already blemished eye.
I don't, maybe I'm over thinking this all. Or maybe I should just force myself into being intimate with her. Or maybe I should just make the phone call (minus the let's be friends recommendation) and just put this puppy to bed. Or maybe I should stop talking about my personal life so freely and get back to discussions centered around blades.
Tell her that she didn't do anything wrong, and that you just see this going a different direction than she does. If you don't want to be friends, don't say you do. I said "say something like..." not "quote me to this poor broad."
There is the truth and then there is being a jerk about it. That statement doesn't mean "I think you're a dog." You are reading into that ten times to Sunday. Don't tell her she's ugly. That would be a total dick move. Tell her you're simply not interested. Women don't read minds anymore than men do. Stop stressing over the "I think she's ugly, so she will KNOW I think she's ugly if I so much as speak to her." No. She won't know what you're thinking, just what you tell her. And for the record, someone thinking you aren't attractive is not the worst thing to happen to a woman ever. Why do you think that this woman cares so much about what you think? There are so many fish in the sea. You are not her be-all end-all, and it's an incredibly self-important view you take in this whole thing. You're not going to ruin her life by breaking off a non-existent relationship before it starts.
Do NOT force yourself to be intimate with her. Who does that? Worst idea ever.
"Or maybe I should just make the phone call (minus the let's be friends recommendation) and just put this puppy to bed. Or maybe I should stop talking about my personal life so freely and get back to discussions centered around blades."
There ya go! Do that. :thumbup:
There is the truth and then there is being a jerk about it. That statement doesn't mean "I think you're a dog." You are reading into that ten times to Sunday. Don't tell her she's ugly. That would be a total dick move. Tell her you're simply not interested. Women don't read minds anymore than men do. Stop stressing over the "I think she's ugly, so she will KNOW I think she's ugly if I so much as speak to her." No. She won't know what you're thinking, just what you tell her. And for the record, someone thinking you aren't attractive is not the worst thing to happen to a woman ever. Why do you think that this woman cares so much about what you think? There are so many fish in the sea. You are not her be-all end-all, and it's an incredibly self-important view you take in this whole thing. You're not going to ruin her life by breaking off a non-existent relationship before it starts.
Do NOT force yourself to be intimate with her. Who does that? Worst idea ever.
"Or maybe I should just make the phone call (minus the let's be friends recommendation) and just put this puppy to bed. Or maybe I should stop talking about my personal life so freely and get back to discussions centered around blades."
There ya go! Do that. :thumbup: