I share your frustrations. There are some gifted and talented people who can just put steel to a moving belt and grind a perfect bevel. That's not me. Grinding good bevels has not been easy for me. Below are things that have helped me. None of them are magic pills that miraculously enable me to make wonderful knives but they help me improve.
I bought a "Bubble Jig" to help me get and keep the proper angle while grinding. It still takes a steady hand to keep the bubble centered and one can easily screw up. It takes a couple blades before you get the feel of using it. I saw a major improvement in my grinds.
I also use a Sears 2X42. The sears belts are for wood. They can be used on metal but will not have much of a life. Invest in GOOD belts from True Grit or Super Belts. They will cut much better, with less heat, and last longer.
I've recently moved my grinder to a proper level for me. It had been on my work bench placing the grinding surface about chest high. It's now much lower, about belly-button high, and I can look down on the blank and better gauge the angle as I grind.
I'm also wearing leather gloves to keep me from burning my fingers. Without them I was holding the knife blank loosely and rushing because I knew it was going to burn me. With gloves I approach the grinder with more confidence and can better apply/present the steel to the belt. It would sure help if I could slow the darn motor down but that's not going to happen so I have to learn to work around it.
Are my grinds all pretty and flat, and even on both sides? Nooooooo... not exactly, but they're getting better and I'm having fun.
What sort of knife are you trying to make? Start small, something about the size of a kitchen paring knife. It will be less frustrating.
Good luck and good grinding,
- Paul Meske