OK I probably just pissed some one off

roshi

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Got a great trade offer from a new BF user ( less than 30 posts).

Ok he's from outside the USA. I can deal with that, so far my bad luck (not often) has been in the USA.

OK, then I get the shipping address. Different name, different town than email address and profile.

So I withdrew from the deal.

Yeah I could have insisted he ship first but I had another time limited offer waiting in line.

Am I a jerk?
 
If this was a deal inside the U.S., I think it would be a jerk move. Outside the U.S., with a new member who has several addresses and I don't think anyone but the guy that you backed out on the deal with would blaim you.

Unless the new member has at least one good feedback, I prefer it if they ship first. If they are outside the U.S., I try and avoid any deal with them just because shipping can become a problem with customes and tracking. I shipped to Russia and it took like two months and they never updated the tracking info from when it left my home town.
 
roshi said:
Am I a jerk?
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I don't think so.

If you don't feel comfortable with the details of the transaction. . . .step away.

There is an old saying, "It's better to be pissed off. . . .than pissed on." :D
 
I have had more than 100 trades / buys / sales with guys all over the world - South Korea, Czech, UK, Japan, Taiwan, Thailand, Australia, Sweden, Denmark, Holland, USA, Canada, Hungary, France, Italy, Ireland....but ironically the 4 that didn't go well were from the US / Canada (it was usually because of shipping issues - either they didn't ship using USPS Global Priority / Express or it got lost due to the holiday season).

if the transaction is one of high value, it's fine to need to be absolutely comfortable.

sometimes it's just a bit of faith and luck....

bottom line, both parties must be comfortable and happy. Roshi, you're a good man and a stand-up guy...so trust your gut feeling.
 
man this days is a chance u take i think going with that little voice that says no is not a being a jerk i call that smart
 
Unfortunately, the few jerks out there have made us all a bit edgy.

If someone wants to deal over the internet, they should be totally up front, and have proper data in their profiles.

That plus, I know that you are such a gentleman and an honorable man that if you felt the need to walk away, there must have been good cause.
 
If something doesn't seem right, part of your mind is picking up a pattern you haven't consciously identified. Doesn't matter if the deal was with someone overseas or someone you accidentally tackled.
 
Roshi,
Being the stand up guy that you are you went with the gut. You have to use the gut and logic- as you did Sir! Good move.
 
I think you did the right thing. I'd follow my gut feelings in this scenario also.

STR
 
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