Russ, they found this kind of cancer on my mom 5 years ago. My father drunkard already stopped working, only spending money and saying "oh why hast thou forsaken me" - him, not that poor woman.
I was feeding the familly for 1,5 year alone and in the end running out of the gas. My mom eventually recovered with surgery and chemo, I managed to beat old sod and kick him out of the home, found my mom creative work, buy the things we never have, consolidate familly somehow. 5 years of work.
Now I m here 28 living at home with mom, no girlfriend, not much of friends (but its getting better) and with this anger/determined attitude which doesnt help me in anything.
We dont know each other, saddly, but I m thinking of you and your bellowed wife. I dont believe on god, but in the corner of heart I wish to hope that there is heaven at least for our bellowed ones.
Jaroslav