members of this community seem a caring lot and for some strange reason , I felt directed to share a personal disaster with this group . have just had a major problem in my married circumstance and are having a huge problem facing it (seems a common problem with Aussie Viet Vets) anyway going around the twist talking to no one so thought I would just do this.Cheers. Rod
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Hang in and just remember that nobody ever said it would be easy.
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I can't really offer any advice being a young single guy, but I'll be thinking of you. Hang tough and you'll pull through somehow.
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Rod,
I am really sorry to hear of this change in your life. I understand, but this group of men and women will do more to let you know there are total strangers who care and will pray for you than any shrink or lawyer. Someone in this crowd has been thru exactly the same circumstances and are still around. Do things day by day. You will get thru it, but no one can answer when.
The one thought that has been able to make me smile even through the worst times is this: "If you want to make God laugh, tell him what you're going to do tomorrow". It's all fate...it's all karma.
I am really sorry to hear of this change in your life. I understand, but this group of men and women will do more to let you know there are total strangers who care and will pray for you than any shrink or lawyer. Someone in this crowd has been thru exactly the same circumstances and are still around. Do things day by day. You will get thru it, but no one can answer when.
The one thought that has been able to make me smile even through the worst times is this: "If you want to make God laugh, tell him what you're going to do tomorrow". It's all fate...it's all karma.
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you should talk with somebody...check with Veterans' organizations...you need not attempt to understand life by yourself.
The closer you look at yourself, the easier it is to bend over, and over...until you have your nose lodged firmly in your own navel. At this point, it's fair to say, one loses the appropriate perspective.
Talking about it is not a weakness...nor a strength...it is just talking about it...simply that...nothing more.
hang in, Rod
The closer you look at yourself, the easier it is to bend over, and over...until you have your nose lodged firmly in your own navel. At this point, it's fair to say, one loses the appropriate perspective.
Talking about it is not a weakness...nor a strength...it is just talking about it...simply that...nothing more.
hang in, Rod
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Rod,
Will be praying for you and your situation. Please feel free to email if you want to talk to someone. Sometimes sharing without a face to face encounter can be helpful in the beginning. I too would urge you to seek a Veterans counselor, though, they can be a wealth of understanding.
Will be praying for you and your situation. Please feel free to email if you want to talk to someone. Sometimes sharing without a face to face encounter can be helpful in the beginning. I too would urge you to seek a Veterans counselor, though, they can be a wealth of understanding.
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Rod Allen, please don't feel strange about talking here. ...it's only those outside the HI community that think this is mainly a knife forum 
Ain't a Viet Vet, but I am Aussi and was married twice to the same woman ('wanna see my scars
) If you really love her, do whats in your heart, not in your head. It'll be worth it! If you HONESTLY no longer care for her, then you would probably not be having second thoughts? If there are children involved, 'good luck mate, 'cause it's going to get ugly and messy But please do yourself a favor and keep pride out of it (that only amounts to screwing yourself over at the wordst possible time in life).
Freinds and resource groups are great for support, a-l-c-o-h-o-l is not!
Ain't a Viet Vet, but I am Aussi and was married twice to the same woman ('wanna see my scars
) If you really love her, do whats in your heart, not in your head. It'll be worth it! If you HONESTLY no longer care for her, then you would probably not be having second thoughts? If there are children involved, 'good luck mate, 'cause it's going to get ugly and messy But please do yourself a favor and keep pride out of it (that only amounts to screwing yourself over at the wordst possible time in life).Freinds and resource groups are great for support, a-l-c-o-h-o-l is not!
Currently going through the same thing.
First believe in yourself and that it will turn out okay. Second, I kept a log where I would write down my feelings - good and bad - it really helped to express how I was feeling and helped me understand where the pain comes from. Third, take care of yourself physically - go for walks/runs, do any physical activity - helps you sleep better at night. Fourth - not matter what LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL, painful at times, but still beautiful. Fifth, have FAITH!!!!
Take care and drop me an e-mail if you want to talk. Matt
First believe in yourself and that it will turn out okay. Second, I kept a log where I would write down my feelings - good and bad - it really helped to express how I was feeling and helped me understand where the pain comes from. Third, take care of yourself physically - go for walks/runs, do any physical activity - helps you sleep better at night. Fourth - not matter what LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL, painful at times, but still beautiful. Fifth, have FAITH!!!!
Take care and drop me an e-mail if you want to talk. Matt
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Sounds like you're hurting.
There are answers out there, whatever the situation. Unfortunately sometimes the treatment is "do this". You ask why and get told "because it works". You ask how, and are told, "it works, so what's the difference?"
Just do something, please, cause I hate unnecessary funerals.
There are answers out there, whatever the situation. Unfortunately sometimes the treatment is "do this". You ask why and get told "because it works". You ask how, and are told, "it works, so what's the difference?"
Just do something, please, cause I hate unnecessary funerals.
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I hope it all works out. Best of luck to ya.
I hope it all works out. Best of luck to ya.
Rod, been there myself. some advice, stop drinking for awhile at least a year or two. No beer, whiskey or wine. It will only compound the problem. If you get real angry, take a vacation, I went to the Amazon- rain- forest for awhile, and it did help. The native Indian guide who I hired told me, over the camp fire one night..........."don't do it", What? I said. He answered, "don't kill them". How he knew what I was thinking in the middle of the jungle, in the dark, hundreds of miles from civilization, is beyond me!
All the best. Write me if you need to hear more
All the best. Write me if you need to hear more