personal problems

Rod, there are some good fellas (and ladies) here. Many of us have had similar problems, including me.
I don't post here much anymore, but lurk often.

I have been through some rough times, some of them due to marital difficulties. But I have managed to get by, and I am now a fairly happy man. Life has certainly been better to me than I deserve.

I will pray for you, and I wish you well.


--Mike L.
 
Originally posted by Rod Allen
Thank you everyone, Need to get a grip of myself and stop being a whimp, so many people in the world so worse off. Thank you again. Rod
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Rod,

EVERYONE needs someone to talk to and feel needed by. Don't even start to think less of yourself for sharing. Sure there are people in worse situations, and they have someone to talk to. You need someone just as much as they do and none of us are any better off than you when it comes to handling lifes valleys and mountains. Still praying and hope you get through.
 
Originally posted by Rod Allen
Thank you everyone, Need to get a grip of myself and stop being a whimp, so many people in the world so worse off. Thank you again. Rod
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You stopped being a "whimp", and started on the road to getting a "grip" on your life, when you had the courage to say, "F**k it, I need someone to talk to". Then you wrote us, your nonjudgemental friends, who have, many, if not most of us, been there.

Seek help where you can find it, and always remember: No matter how many friends you have and how much they are willing to help you, you are, in the final analysis, all alone. Only you can make the decisions, most of which you are already aware of. You, mostly, already know what you must do, to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.

As far as "so many people in the world so worse off". Totally irrelavant. You can't help them right now (they, mostly, need to help themselves). When I was shot in the butt, in Vietnam, they sent me to this hospital. I was pissing and moaning and crying the blues about the bullet in my ass. A nurse said, " That guy over there, as she pointed to a fellow across the room, lost his right arm from the elbow down"

Well, ****, I guess I felt pretty whimpy, and a bit ashamed, but you know what. It didn't make my ass feel a bit better.

Get the point. Straighten yourself out and forget about others who, are so much worse off. My 2 cents. (As Mamav said, most caring folks on the list wouldn't mind if you sent personal emails if you want to talk on a more personal basis)
 
You hang in there. I went through this kind of thing a long time ago and, having a couple of people that I could talk to did help.

You'll git through this too. You can shoot me a line or two if you want to talk about things and this is as far as anything said to me will go. What you tell anyone else is your own thing. There are a lot of fine folks on this forum and I'm sure they will all treat you fair.

You will be in my prayers also.:) :)
 
I'm not a Vet but I have faced hardships in my marriage. There are days when I lose sight of The Light. There are days when I feel as if I will drown under The Black Wave. But I keep fighting because I still remember what The Light feels like. Sometimes that means one day, or even one minute, at a time. I don't have a magic bullet that will make everything better. All I can do is say that at least one person across the pond is keeping you in their thoughts. Namaste.

Frank
 
Rod,

I'm going through marital problems myself. The trauma I initially experienced was more intense than any previous experience in my life. I found that having people to talk to was a help. I leaned heavily on one relative and one friend in particular, calling them almost every evening. I also received support from the good people on this forum.

Self medication with alcohol is probably not a good idea for most people, as several forumites have cautioned. However, the services of a good psychologist or psychiatrist may include some drug therapies that can help a person recover from psychological trauma.

My divorce proceedings are now in thier 19th month. I am mostly over the trauma. I have weathered false accusations of spousal abuse and various abhorrent criminal activities, that came from the person I loved more than anyone else. I have had custody of our two teenaged children for the past 19 months, and most probably will retain custody in the final settlement.

Hell is a timeless place, but when you return to the realm of time scar tissue forms and the wounds do heal. We have the capacity to continue to function and live if we wish to. It was a sense of duty to my children more than anything else that kept me going when everything I was living for disolved. Then the bright and attractive jewels of this universe became visible again and I found I could get back to playing in the playground. I would not have thought that possible when I was undergoing the trauma.
 
If the wife should go wrong with a comrade be loath
To shoot when you catch 'em - you'll swing on my oath!
Make 'im take 'er and keep 'er: That's hell for 'em both,
An you're shut 'o the curse of a soldier.

- R. Kipling

Prayers and sympathy headed your way. Take care.
 
You are still better than me, man! cheer up.
I don't know much about Aussi women, but here in U.S. women are born to be a scam-artists.
I was married last year, within a week she stole $2500, and filed protective order for things I have never done. Of course, UT court gave it to her including all of my properties. UT Court still refuses even to setup hearing date for 10 months already. I already spent 3000$ for lawyer fee, lawyers are even worse. It is very hard to be a non-white guy in america, everyone and his dog hates you for the crime of being non-white.
john
studentpilot,rifleman,swordman



Originally posted by Rod Allen
members of this community seem a caring lot and for some strange reason , I felt directed to share a personal disaster with this group . have just had a major problem in my married circumstance and are having a huge problem facing it (seems a common problem with Aussie Viet Vets) anyway going around the twist talking to no one so thought I would just do this.Cheers. Rod
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You being a VN vet, I already have the greatest respect for you. You found a woman, settled down. That's more than I can bring myself to do. You are a man of courage and honor to have made it this far. Whatever comes next can be handled. You have it in you, just reach down and find it. If you need me, just shout.

Brian
 
Hi Rod,

I can't really add much to all the good advice here except for one thing: you are wrong to think you are being a whimp. The hardest things to change are often fears and perceptions in your own soul. The most cowardly run away from their problems, using the excuse that if they ask for help then they are weak and somehow fail. It's kind of like the guy who had three heart attacks who refuses to see a doctor: He's playing it tough but inside he's really too chicken to face his situation and fix it.

The strongest people are the ones who garner the courage to admit that they are only human. Asking for help during a low period in my life was the one thing I was too chicken$hit to do, and I respect you a lot for doing just that.

I hope you work everything out, and my prayers are with you as well.
 
To quote Uncle Bill:

" What has this got to do with khukuris? Everything! "
 
Remember, Rod, you are not alone. Many sending positive thoughts, me included. :)
 
the problem is, I was reading both Great Gastby and Atlas Shrugged (and maybe another book as well) at the time...and can't remember from which book it came.:rolleyes:

"We live in our minds, and existence is our attempt to bring that life into reality, through form and gesture."

Makes sense to me and my life, anyway.

Hang in.
 
Originally posted by Kismet
the problem is, I was reading both Great Gastby and Atlas Shrugged (and maybe another book as well) at the time...and can't remember from which book it came.:rolleyes:

"We live in our minds, and existence is our attempt to bring that life into reality, through form and gesture."

Makes sense to me and my life, anyway.

Hang in.
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Ayn Rand said in "The Fountainhead": "We live in our minds, and existence is the attempt to bring that life into physical reality, to state it in gesture and form."

That might be what you're thinking of, or she may have used it in "Atlas Shrugged" in a slightly different turn of the word. I hope you weren't trying to read "The Fountainhead" and "Atlas Shrugged" at the same time. What a nightmare that would be!!!! But, at least, we know it wasn't in Gatsby.
;)
 
That might explain why I have been unable to find it in either book on subsequent readings.:(

(but I was pretty close on the quote, eh?)

er...and, yes, it's possible but unlikely that I would concurrently read two of hers, or any other authors... I have this book addiction, you see---but I'm feeling much better now:D
 
"Find yourself on your knees often"

Monica Lewinsky took this advice and all she got out of it was a soiled blue dress and a bad reputation.
 
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