OK, I'll try and put some info in here.
The quench needs to be long enough to allow all the martensite to form. It should stay in the oil until you can hold it in your hand, and then come to room temperature before the temper. Several minutes is the norm. Too soon, and you stop the martensite from forming and get a strange mix of austenite, pearlite, and martensite....not what you want in a good blade. It might skate a file a bit, but will have poor performance.
A propane fired grill is about the worst thing I could think of to temper a blade. Unless you put two big plates of iron in the grill, and put the blade between them, and had a thermometer on or in the plates, it would be almost a sure thing that the blades will absorb the radiant energy from the flame heat source and overheat. I would expect them to go greatly over the target of 400. Also, the gages on a grill hood read the approximate air temp in the hood, the temp at the grill surface is higher, and the gages are notoriously inaccurate.