Random Thought Thread

Pàdruig said:
We should meet up! I'll be in town on Monday, need to check into hotel and then set up at the DCU Center sometime in the evening. That latter part shouldn't take long. Otherwise, I'll be free Tuesday and Wednesday evenings after the conference.
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Yes! Maybe Tuesday. Or when you're done and heading to Portland. I'm in Plymouth for the weekend, when I get back home I'll send you a DM.
 
I'm in my early 40s and recently had my first child. We're planning on having more.

I've noticed as I get older, my inclination to be left alone, lack of interest in being "social", etc. has increased. It's not that I require isolation or that I want to be alone. I love my wife, my daughter, my dogs, and my friends. I like spending time with these individuals I'm close with.

I go to church every week, I'm not antisocial. I just don't feel motivated to bring new people into my life and it seems to me to be more effort than it's worth. Probably not a great perspective to have, but it's where I'm at right now. I just don't feel like explaining who I am, that I don't get offended easily, that I'm upfront and if I have an issue with you, I'll tell you, etc.

So here's my question for everyone. Do you think this is because I'm getting older? Is it because I'm so busy with starting my family and going to school? Is it just because I'm a jerk? I'm just curious about what everyone's opinion is.
 
carnifex knifeworks said:
I'm in my early 40s and recently had my first child. We're planning on having more.

I've noticed as I get older, my inclination to be left alone, lack of interest in being "social", etc. has increased. It's not that I require isolation or that I want to be alone. I love my wife, my daughter, my dogs, and my friends. I like spending time with these individuals I'm close with.

I go to church every week, I'm not antisocial. I just don't feel motivated to bring new people into my life and it seems to me to be more effort than it's worth. Probably not a great perspective to have, but it's where I'm at right now. I just don't feel like explaining who I am, that I don't get offended easily, that I'm upfront and if I have an issue with you, I'll tell you, etc.

So here's my question for everyone. Do you think this is because I'm getting older? Is it because I'm so busy with starting my family and going to school? Is it just because I'm a jerk? I'm just curious about what everyone's opinion is.
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Circles get smaller and tighter as we get older, and more focused on truly important things, imo. Sounds like you have your priorities straight.
 
carnifex knifeworks said:
I'm in my early 40s and recently had my first child. We're planning on having more.

I've noticed as I get older, my inclination to be left alone, lack of interest in being "social", etc. has increased. It's not that I require isolation or that I want to be alone. I love my wife, my daughter, my dogs, and my friends. I like spending time with these individuals I'm close with.

I go to church every week, I'm not antisocial. I just don't feel motivated to bring new people into my life and it seems to me to be more effort than it's worth. Probably not a great perspective to have, but it's where I'm at right now. I just don't feel like explaining who I am, that I don't get offended easily, that I'm upfront and if I have an issue with you, I'll tell you, etc.

So here's my question for everyone. Do you think this is because I'm getting older? Is it because I'm so busy with starting my family and going to school? Is it just because I'm a jerk? I'm just curious about what everyone's opinion is.
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I relate and agree with you. Found myself nodding in accordance while reading your post!

Roughly same age, although my kids are older. Completely fine spending time with them, and also by myself. Don’t feel like I am missing out on social events that I don’t go to…..and in reality sometimes actively try to get out of those. The other part of it: Life Happens. In today’s world, everyone seems to be busy. Obviously, there is perspective there, but with you working, small kids, going to school, it sounds like you’ve got a full plate! (That’s a good thing!😊)

I’ve always identified as an introvert by nature, though…. So take it for what it’s worth! 🤣
 
I'm 49 and my wife(younger) and I just had our first son. I agree completely. I worry about being the Dad on the sidelines at his future sporting events. I'm very outspoken and don't buy into the millennial, snowflake, participation trophy bullshit. I'm sure I'll make a lot of friends with the younger parents. Lol. I find I'm ok with my inner circle of friends that I've had for many years. I find a lot of the general public to be too soft for my liking. I grew up being told to rub some dirt on my cut and get back to playing. This new generation wants to analyze their feelings over how the boo-boo made them feel. Rant over. Wow, I feel better. Perhaps therapy would be beneficial to me being less of a jerk.
 
dtmbinb said:
I'm 49 and my wife(younger) and I just had our first son. I agree completely. I worry about being the Dad on the sidelines at his future sporting events. I'm very outspoken and don't buy into the millennial, snowflake, participation trophy bullshit. I'm sure I'll make a lot of friends with the younger parents. Lol. I find I'm ok with my inner circle of friends that I've had for many years. I find a lot of the general public to be too soft for my liking. I grew up being told to rub some dirt on my cut and get back to playing. This new generation wants to analyze their feelings over how the boo-boo made them feel. Rant over. Wow, I feel better. Perhaps therapy would be beneficial to me being less of a jerk.
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I'm in the same boat here. I can't keep up with how fast the world is going soft.
 
dtmbinb said:
This new generation wants to analyze their feelings over how the boo-boo made them feel. Rant over. Wow, I feel better. Perhaps therapy would be beneficial to me being less of a jerk.
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Well, there ya go: analyzing your feelings again....😉

Of course, congratulations on your first! I hope y'all are surviving (or have survived?) the newborn stage well enough.
 
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carnifex knifeworks said:
I'm in my early 40s and recently had my first child. We're planning on having more.

I've noticed as I get older, my inclination to be left alone, lack of interest in being "social", etc. has increased. It's not that I require isolation or that I want to be alone. I love my wife, my daughter, my dogs, and my friends. I like spending time with these individuals I'm close with.

I go to church every week, I'm not antisocial. I just don't feel motivated to bring new people into my life and it seems to me to be more effort than it's worth. Probably not a great perspective to have, but it's where I'm at right now. I just don't feel like explaining who I am, that I don't get offended easily, that I'm upfront and if I have an issue with you, I'll tell you, etc.

So here's my question for everyone. Do you think this is because I'm getting older? Is it because I'm so busy with starting my family and going to school? Is it just because I'm a jerk? I'm just curious about what everyone's opinion is.
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Nothing wrong with that!

That's what you want mentally to keep you sane

Keeping sane at certain times in life is all you can ask for
 
carnifex knifeworks said:
I'm in my early 40s and recently had my first child. We're planning on having more.

I've noticed as I get older, my inclination to be left alone, lack of interest in being "social", etc. has increased. It's not that I require isolation or that I want to be alone. I love my wife, my daughter, my dogs, and my friends. I like spending time with these individuals I'm close with.

I go to church every week, I'm not antisocial. I just don't feel motivated to bring new people into my life and it seems to me to be more effort than it's worth. Probably not a great perspective to have, but it's where I'm at right now. I just don't feel like explaining who I am, that I don't get offended easily, that I'm upfront and if I have an issue with you, I'll tell you, etc.

So here's my question for everyone. Do you think this is because I'm getting older? Is it because I'm so busy with starting my family and going to school? Is it just because I'm a jerk? I'm just curious about what everyone's opinion is.
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Sounds normal to me.
But I’m a jerk.
So you’re probably a jerk.
 
my boss is 20 years younger than me. I bust his balls from time to time, but he's the one who calls himself out for being a snowflake most of the time. Fact is, when I was his age and was in exactly the same position of suddenly owning and operating a bike shop, I was a dumbass too. And it's hard, ballsy work.

I've always been a dumbass and a dirtbag, and I always will be and I'm proud of my humility, so I can both relate to and forgive those who are charting their course now. Maybe it's easy to forget who we were, and fail to empathize with the younger folk 🤷‍♂️

that said, the fewer people I have around me the better- I'm actually quite surly, despite the sparkling demeanour I constantly display in Bladeforums.
I was just thinking today about how irreplaceable my wife is- there is literally no one I have ever met that I'd rather be spending my life with, warts and all. That's one out of an uncountable number of people I've met in my life. Friends are the same- RARE. When you realize that your time is ticking away, I think that's when you pull away from social interactions in general in order to focus on the ones that matter🤷‍♂️

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