Red Mist

Brendan

Brendan

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Any of you gentleman ever experience the red mist of anger !

Not road rage or getting angry cos someone put the wrong toppings on your pizza I'm talking about anger so furious you scare yourself ??

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Some folks have lower flashpoints than others. I remember ordering pepperoni and...

Dunno. I usually have a longish fuse and can get away from the situation before I do something foolish.

Hold the anchovies, or else. :)
 
I've gotten better in last few years, luckily, start of high school and before though I had an insane temper. Would just go completely cold, and generally culdn'tremember what all happened till later. Best(worst rather) example of this was in Jr high out in gym class. Still don't remember why I started fight, but had one guy down in headlock, just pounding on hiw face, with his friend on my back. reached over shoulder grabbed his friend and just threw him.

Finally walked back into lockerrom at end of class and noticed I couldn't see out of left eye(teacher was absolutely clueless, never noticed anything), had blood pouring down my face, guy must have gotten at least one hit in, as glasses frames were bent, and I had giant gash over eye.

STill ahve noticable scar ridge over that eye if you feel for it, luckily bushy eyebrows cover it up.

Just a respectable IT guy now. Still scarepeople though it seems, least at times.

Only time I really use that anymore is to keep boyfriends of sisters and friends in line. I figure that's acceptable. ;)

Amuses me though, one of said people was network admin at old job. 6'2" or so, maybe 180, pretty well built, always playing hockey, running, whatever. I'm 5'5", 178, have a noticable bit of fat(though still have 42" shoulders). But amuses me that someone his size, and several otehrs that have been bigger, can be scared of little old me.

;) 0:)
 
never really get in fights - with a face like mine people generally dont push their luck !!

Loosing it and hurting others is one thing but losing it becoming something uncontrable is another matter !!

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Help me...
 
I have a fairly quick temper and can be fairly violent when I am angry, though my usual response is to get away from people because it invariably causes problems if i'm around them. It is weird how sometimes small things can make you furious but bigger things don't annoy you. Actually I find the worst thing to be at the end of a fairly rough patch when the smallest thing can push you over the edge, I hate that out of control feeling (though usually I manage to hurt myself thumping a wall or something stupid when that happens).
 
There was a time when I was about 16 where ther wasn't a door in me mams house without a hole it (about the size of my fist).

I was unfortunate to grow very quickly and become uncontrable before I knew it !! My mom's boyfriends used to have play fights with me when I was around that age (17), trying to astound me with their paternal ability or something like that but due to my sy stepfathers finesse with his right hand I have a pretty much unbreakable jaw, they always came off second best !!

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Luckily, never had that problem Brendan. I can just now, MAYBE beat up my dad, and that's only cuz he is pushing towards 50(next august), had a hip replaced last Christmas and really needs a new knee on that same leg. And I'd still, if he was someone completley unrelated to me and trying to hurt me, wouldn't want to come after him with anything less than a 15" K. Having dad who holds black belt in Judo, while you never took any martial arts, tends to make for an unfair fight. :) PLus he's bigger than me.

But was same way with other things. I remember my only saturday school suspension in Jr. high. Friend of mine(yes, a friend) knocked my paper off my desk. One shot to stomach and he was doubled over crying, with my perfect timing, principal walked in right after I did it.

next year, another friend, knocked book off my desk. So I punched him one good one in the temple.

Really am glad I don't have same types of problems anymore. Various things have helped me over the year, dealing with some of the underlying problems, a great counselor, etc.
 
Originally posted by Brendan
Any of you gentleman ever experience the red mist of anger !

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Yeah.:o :( And under the right conditions I'm sure it could happen again.:( :grumpy: :o
There are days that the other side of me walks close to the edge and the ndn ways could be forgotten quickly.
I would regret it deeply if it should ever happen.:(
 
Originally posted by Brendan
Fury is like gas - it comes from deep within and cannot be ignored !!
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Yes, that's true. But like gas, anger is best let out away from other people. It's polite and you're not as likely to regret it later. A true gentleman knows how to hold his gas. :D
 
I toured the old death chamber observation room and looked into but kept my feet outside the threshold of the old Nevada gas chamber ( it was out of use so long they had to convert it to lethal injection ).

That has, shall we say, tempered my wrath.
If I KNEW I could get away with it - I dunno.

I saw the second plane hit the WTC, and my first thought was "Why couldn't that have been ( name of hospital not given ) instead?"
 
Up until I was 23-24, the fuse on my temper was extremely short. Nose has been broken more times than I want to count. But it seemed that I was always pretty much in control, but LET my anger direct me. I have since then gotten to where it takes a WHOLE lot to even light my fuse, much less make it burn down. I've become a pretty laidback person. There is only one thing that will set me into a "red mist" anger now. Hurt one of my family, especially my little girl, and even I wouldn't want to be around me, or even in the same county. Hope that it never happens. Normally, I hold my anger in, until I can get out by myself, and shoot many holes in lots of targets, with as many of my guns as I have ammo for. When the ammo's gone so is the anger.
 
I only had one uncontrollable fit of temper in my life. I was about four years old and I can remember parts of it like it just happened.

I was at the park with my mother and my brother and we had all just gotten an ice cream cone. For some reason I got mad about something and threw my ice cream on the ground and stomped on it.

Sixty years later I can still taste the first couple of licks of my ice cream before I threw it on the ground. My feelings during the next few minutes, as I stood there and watched mom and my brother enjoy theirs, was burned into my consciousness for the rest of my life.
 
I have dealt with uncontrollable anger my entire life. The one good thing is the older you get the easier it is to handle. I find today that it's only the little things, that you aren't expecting, are the ones that set me off. Big things are no problem anymore. It is a family trait, in my case. My grandfather was the worst. My father is the nicest guy you'll ever meet, unless he gets mad. Everyone always comments how calm and laid back I am. Unless they have seen me get angry, in which case they clear the area. My nephew is the same as my father, scary. If you can channel the anger it can work for you, especially in sports like football. People on the opposing team used to run to the other side of the line, not to face me. That was entertaining.

I have seen the red mist of anger. I have also experienced blackouts during a couple of fights, where I have no recollection of what I was doing, just kind of come to. That was only a couple of times. In most of my fights when I was young, I knew exactly what I was doing.
After my mid twenties I have avoided fighting and try not to get angry. Like I said tho, it's the little unexpected things that get you.

I have been on the recieving end of this so I know exactly what it's like. One minute the person you are talking to or just around is calm, rational and normal. The next they are a raving lunatic that is trying to take your head off, for no real reason you can think of.
 
...That yeah, I have been close to being uncontrollable.

I have ADHD and had a few drinks. Not the wisest of combinations. To my credit, the guy was asking for it. I stormed out of the room before I felt I would beat the living $h!t out of him, even though he sorely deserved it...

Then I grabbed my swordbag and did a rather heavy cutting session with my collection of blades against several a few felled trees! :D

Needless say, I hardly if ever drink anymore. A couple of beers (and even then they're mixed as Shandy's) and maybe (or not) a couple of shots over a period of a 6-8 hour party, interspersed with dinner and (non-salty) snacks is about all, if any...
 
Back in the day, I was sucker-punched by this coked-up high school idiot. I was in the process of wrenching his head off when his two friends tackled me and sat on my back until I snapped out of it.
From that point on I have taken great pains to be in control of my temper, and I no longer play the "nice guy" when someone tries to start a fight- because this guy took a swing when I was trying to "defuse" the situation. Now I just give the crazy eyes and smile. I haven't been in a fight in 15 years. No one wants to fight a crazy guy. Me included.
 
Never used the message icon before, and I do hope it appears, since I'm obviously pulling your leg!

Anger is a natural emotion, and it's perfectly normal to express it. Indeed, if you're not letting steam off, allowing it to build up, and accumulate internally, it will short circuit your nervous system, whether you are aware of the fact or not.

We've all lost control at least once. :o Many learn from that experience, and while they continue to get angry, and vent it, they acquire control. Others don't, oftentimes with tragic results. I maintain that "controlled mayhem" in a fight or flight situation is advantageous over a beserk, non-controlled one...

Dan
 
In my youth I found uncontrolable rage quite usefull.

Nowadays I am a lot more layed back & controled.

Deep anger that lies in wait to be released generaly comes whether we realise it or not from something we feel we have lost, often emtionaly in are childhoods or youth.

As I came to term with my childhood losses when in my thirties I found my deep anger dissapated.

I can still scare people though.

Spiral
 
Not for years. Speaking of ADD though I have a friend who has it and he has rages over little frustrations. Throws things down and breaks them. One time he scratched his car door and was so PO'd he kicked the door and actually put a huge dent in it. He's 44 and still has the same kind of anger at frustration I had at 16.
 
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