For all of you smoke/prayer/good-thought lifters out there... Someone very dear to me is going through a trying time. She has struggled with some medical issues over the years, and as of late, they have begun to effect her day to day life and our relationship in an incredibly adverse way. Any advice from a caretaker's point of view would also be very helpful. Things are especially difficult because of physical distance: unrelated issues in both our lives prohibit the kind of proximity that we would like. It's not always enough to love someone and be good to them. And you can't bear the burdens of someone who refuses to be carried...
Prayers and positive thoughts from the Texas Hill country. Most relationships will hit rocks and rapids. There's smooth sailing on the other side for those who can hang onto their trust in, and respect for, one another. Sarge
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Prayers from Montana. If you need help with home care you may want to call a hospice or the local hospital for advice. munk
Prayers for you both bh. The only advice I can give is what I've heard from those who counsel caretakers: take care of yourself as much as you care for them--no guilt allowed. You cannot help anyone if you make yourself sick--physically or emotionally. Hospice sounds like a good way to take care of yourself and your partner.
More prayers from Atlanta. It would help to know a first name. That should not break anyone's anonymity, just give us a point of focus. Even a nickname. Anything to help us connect with this person.
I'll do that for you. Perhaps the next time smoke is going up, friends will think of my 15 year old pussy-cat Sweetie. She seemed a bit 'down' last week on Tuesday, so we took her to the vet on Friday and the vet has given her just a couple of months at most before she has to be put to sleep. Something called large cell lymphoma on her intestine. Difficult to treat without a lot of distress and only a three month remission if we elected for chemotherapy and the distress that would cause. They gave her hydrocortizone which has shrunk the mass dramatically and they also rehydrated her. $2,200 down the line since Friday, she seems a lot better. She was the runt of the litter when we collected her from a farm and they said they didn't expect her to survive beyond a couple of weeks from birth. She has had to put up with a lot being a small timid cat with a big brother, and another male, but she always shone through and even coped with, microchipping, rabies injections and the flight from the UK to Canada. This really is the first time she has been ill. She is such a sweet cat and is aptly named 'Sweetie'. Thanks Andrew
Sometimes we have to let the relationship go and let the friendship remain . Even such an action as that doesn,t often work . Do what you can and take care of yourself . Positive thoughts sent .
Thanks, Kev. This is kinda the point that I am at -- it's really hard to look in the face, but when you are dealing with someone dealing with serious physical illness, you kinda have to let them set the limits of things. It's just hard -- not being able to do anything for this person you love. Nothing at all.
When my best friend was dying of cancer after his 17 year old son committed suicide, the best thing I did for him was being there. When I could. Matter of fact, life goes on, how's the cup of coffee? munk
