Smoke and Good Thoughts Needed

Steely_Gunz

Steely_Gunz

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Good Morning, Friends.

I apologize for not being in the forum fray as much as of late. My wife and daughter and I have been working hard on our new home (I'm not entirely sure if the previous owners understood the definition of "cleanliness" or what a bucket of clean water and a rag are). Luckily, my mom was able to take some vacation time last week to use her superhuman powers of OCD to help us scrub the place from top to bottom. All and all, we're really happy with the new place. Plenty of space, great neighborhood, close to a good school for our daughter in a couple of years, and we're exactly one walking mile from the river and all the quaint downtown shops for a healthy Sunday morning outing.

However, there is a bit of a dark cloud hanging over us. At my wife's annual check up last week they found a small lump in one of her breasts. Now, we know it could be 100 things other than cancer. It's just that she lost her dad to cancer, and she's the worrying type. Also, the whole psychological fretting is really, really wearing on her.

You see, we just purchased our "20 year house". This is where our daughter is going to grow up. This is where she'll stay in the summers between college semesters. Here's where she'll bring home the man that I know won't be good enough for her who I probably won't murder because he brings a shine to my little girl's eyes. This is the house we plan on being in until our knees are too old creaky to handle going up and down the steps and we downsize to a little condo or something. We have so, so many big plans for our family here....Then to get even a CHANCE at such news. It doesn't even seem callus and cold. It seems cruel.

She has a mammogram this coming Wednesday with an ultrasound to follow if they find anything that needs a harder look. Any positive thoughts, prayers, or smoke would be so appreciated. We're staying positive. I'm venting more here than I ever would to her. She's always required me to be the pragmatic rock. She's passionate and emotionally charged. I'm calculated and an overly logical problem solver. We balance each other out;) Once again, anything that y'all can spare smoke wise would be great. Our 8th anniversary is on the 15th of this month. I hope and pray that this one is a huge relief where we dodge a bullet and realize (even more than we already do) that we are both 100% completely and totally worthless without the other one.

Thank you so much, guys and gals. We truly appreciate it.
 
Don't know anything fitting to say, might be because I'm a guy.
Sorry to hear about the potential threat and I hope it turns out well. My grandma had liver cancer because of some hepatitis. Therefor I guess its not hereditary. I hope your wife's dad was a similar case where it wasn't genetics but some external influence. That would mean increased odds for your wife.
The house sounds good. We have similar plans but I think our kids are smaller. At least I haven thought about my daughter bringing any guys home. She is just 4. But hey I will always keep a few sharp Kukris.
How does the smoke thing work? Incense sticks or BBQ? If its the incense sticks, I will still do the BBQ in addition, just to be sure. :)
 
Much smoke up Jake! Im going through the same thing with my sister and a few others here as well. Doesn't seem real till it hits home. I wish you the best of luck but when luck is not on your side then comes strength you didn't know you had. Take care of her and enjoy every minute of your life together. My sister just had her last chemo treatment and has one year of radiation to go but she is doing fine. She hasnt even missed work for the most part. Thanks for sharing your feelings. Keep us updated and Happy Anniversary!
Yes BBQ smoke up sounds good anytime!
 
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Thanks, Jens:)

My father in law died from metastasized colon cancer that he probably got from years of working on various plastic products at GE. He was a chemist.
As far as kiddos go, my daughter is only 3;) Then again, my wife bought me an 8" black powder revolver for my first father's day:D That's the scariest part. My wife and I are only 32. It's just not something you think about in your early thirties.

When we talk about "smoke", it can mean many things. There are those that burn actual smoke to bring about positive things. Mostly, smoke is just well wishes, prayers, good vibes. Just having a few really great people thinking about you can work miracles. The Cantina is populated by the cream of the crop.
 
Keeping you guys in my thoughts.

My mother-in-law recently went through breast cancer treatment. She made it out with both boobs intact and recently had her 5 year check-up which was all clear! There is a light at the end of the tunnel, you just gotta keep pushing ahead. Best of luck to you!
 
I'm not into ritual things that are outside of the Holy Bible, but I will pray for you and your family.

also, Ill add this.....my wife had a lump and as it turned out, fortunately, to be just fibroid tissue. So you have a good way of dealng with this, don't worry too much, but be concerned enough to check things out really good. She has always told me " worry about the future is like paying a debt you don't even owe"....kinda makes sense to me now.
 
Smoke up here in the NW. I agree with Palmetto, don't fret until you got something solid to fret about.

Hopefully it's nothing at all. Positive happy thoughts. Hope for the best outcome.
 
I really, really appreciate it guys. I've known about this for about a week, but as the date approaches I'm getting a little overly anxious. However, the smoke is working. I'm feeling a little more at peace already. Thanks so much:)
 
There ya go Steely, the power of smoke, the power of positive wishes.
Do let us know the outcome of the upcoming test. I'm sensing good news, I can feel it in my cells.

I truly hope we find that this is something we can all laugh about in a week or so. Doctors and machines can goof from time to time and I'm hoping this time they do the test and there's nothing there at all. But, but, but it was there last week.

Do also pass our good wishes to your wife, I know you do, you both have a wonderful support group here.
 
Smoke and prayers from the Northeast Jake, hoping and wishing that everything will be alright. I know its hard but try not to worry and be the rock she wants you to be. Do keep us updated, we are all eager to hear positive news.
 
Thank you again, folks. I let her know that I asked for a little positive vibes, and she is very very grateful. When her dad was sick about 4 years ago, the wellwishes that y'all sent out really seemed to do him good...an he didn't even have any idea that I had asked for them.

Thank you so much.
 
just lost my grandpa to lung cancer,hit me and family hard,was realy close,got grandmas coffe and his advice every week,miss it.. smoke and prayers on the way. good luck. mike.
 
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Steely_Gunz said:
I really, really appreciate it guys. I've known about this for about a week, but as the date approaches I'm getting a little overly anxious. However, the smoke is working. I'm feeling a little more at peace already. Thanks so much:)
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Depending on what it is you're smoking, you should be OK. :)

Cheerful prayers for a cheerful outcome!
 
Thanks again guys. I'll keep you posted. we'll know more on wednesday afternoon.
 
Smoke and prayers and big bunches of healing energy up and inbound...
Hol and the girls send extra love as well.

<3 <3 <3 <3
Mark and Ladies
 
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