Use acid flux make sure that the place you want solder is clean. put the acid flux on it then tin the area with a thin coat of solder(in other words put a bunch of solder on it then wipe off the extra so that all you see is a nice silver sheen) do this on both parts
The ss will be the hardest to get tinned because it has to be realy clean, wash it in acitone or some solvent that will not leave a film. After you clean it and make sure it is dry put the acid flux on it and tin it.
then put the parts together and apply extra solder if needed. Heat until the solder melts and remove the heat, DO NOT OVER HEAT OR IT WILL NOT HOLD.
another tip, solder will not run over graphite so if you want to tin an area like a ricaso for a guard, take a pencil after you clean the area make a mark with the pencil doesnt have to be real dark the solder will not pass the line.