Unless you're dealing with something particularly nasty, I'd sharpen, wash well with soap and water, disinfect with a quick alcohol dip or swab, then shape the reed. After each reed, or when you change from one person to another, you can wash your hands and re-swab the blade with alcohol to disinfect for the next person. I pulled up a dental study where 80% ethanol+5% isopropanol kills bacteria, HIV, and hepatitis A-C. (I can't give you the link, but I can email it to anyone who wants it).
I'd go with the highest proof ethanol you can find. Make sure it's non-denatured. Pure grain alcohol will distill at 96% (192 proof). You can find 99 or 100% denatured ethanol, but residual benzene or other additives are usually present to get out the 4% water - not something you want in your mouth.
If you are dealing with something nasty that you really don't want to spread, I go with a short boiling time. You could boil the knife and ceramic stone, and it would kill most everything. Some diamond stones would be fine to boil, but I'm not sure about the DMT or other stones with major plastic pieces.
As far as particular blades, the ZDP Jess Horn springs to mind. It's a small blade, though out of production and not quite the shape you requested. The Grohmann wood carving knife also comes to mind - small, hollow-ground carbon steel blade that's very thin and sharp.
Middle of the page here:
http://www.grohmannknives.com/pages/whatsnew.html
Anyway, it looks like you can get some purpose-built reed knives that are extra hard. An unknown steel at high hardness will probably outperform a brand-name super steel pocket knife, where the blade is left a bit softer to avoid chipping, etc.