Sure glad this wasn't my kid.

I teach my 3 daughters fight rather than flight. Nothing worse than being helpless through human conditioning. I had a nasty step father growing up who was a bully!!

Teaching your kids not to stick up for themselves or not to fight for what is right or against what is wrong will do nothing for them when the chips are down.
 
Some of you know my daughter Kimberly. I got on a first name basis with her principal in junior hi, as I made the trip several times to pick her up for some richly deserved two-day suspensions for fighting. But there was one time that I had to laugh.

She was very petite, and when she was a pre-teen I once told her that I didn't want her fighting, but that if it ever became absolutely necessary for her to back a bully off, to not hit overhand like a girl (my apologies to AmyO), but to throw a straight punch. I demonstrated this and had her punch my hand several times. Fast-forward to junior hi. She was already a well-developed young lady, and one day in math class the boy sitting behind her couldn't keep his hands to himself. According to the account given me by the principal, the first time he tried to grope her, she told him that he had better not do that again. The second time, she threw a punch straight to the nose, breaking and blooding it and turning his desk over as he fell in the floor to the great amusement of his classmates. Both were suspended for two days. I grinned at the principal and told him that I would take her home but I couldn't get upset over this one. He grinned and said, "me either".

Awesome, and great that you taught your girl to stand up for herself...:thumbup:
 
Sometimes a bully needs to get the windows in his wheel house rattled like that.. maybe he'll rub that lump on his noodle next time he thinks about poking at somebody else next time.
 
I just read a book called "The no Asshole Rule" and implemented its teachings into my program that I run at the school. We already have a strict policy on bullying and pursue it hard. The one thing that struck me about the book, which is mostly how to recover from and prevent bullying on ones self, is that the good kids dont have to sit in their seats and be quiet. Its ok to fight back, while not always needed to physically fight, one must fight back.

Terrible it happened at all, but I am glad to see the victim won this time.

adult intervention normally does not stop bullying, parental meeting dont work either. Chances are the parents are bullys too. It almost takes something like this to end it.
 
I teach my 3 daughters fight rather than flight. Nothing worse than being helpless through human conditioning. I had a nasty step father growing up who was a bully!!

Teaching your kids not to stick up for themselves or not to fight for what is right or against what is wrong will do nothing for them when the chips are down.
Totally agree. I cannot believe the father proudly tells the newspaper he always taught his kid NEVER to hit. What an idiot. :rolleyes:
I tell my kids never to start, but when attacked or threatened to take decisive action. I also support and reward them when the school (when they were still in school) used to give them grief over this 'policy.'
 
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