Tell my wife!!!!!!

Staying busy is your best bet. Working out is even better. Running, hiking, push ups, sit ups, pull ups etc. will get the angst out of your gut. Pray about it, and let what happens happen. If she cheats on you, then move on. Til then wait it out, you are married, and should honor it, for better or worse. It could be much worse, you have no kids, and they will not get crapped on. You are an adult, so guss up and realize that life is hard, you have to be harder.
 
This reminds me of my ex-fiance. I was really into her too, but she didn't get along with my girlfriends (I don't know why because they had lots in common!), so I had to cut her loose. Oh well. Women come and go, but knives (and guns) are forever. . . .
 
That hurts.
But you can be sure........ The bad feelings go away and a new woman is waiting for you.
It happend always like this in my life.
 
In my experience (not my own personal experience. I've never been married) separations that reverse themselves typically last about 12 to 18 months. Rarely will it be less time. I'm not sure how long it has been for you but you need to be patient if you hope to get back together. Just give her what she needs. As far as how to determine what that is I have no clue. You probably know in your heart better than any of us. Assuming you are stable, of course. Good luck.
 
cj65 said:
Staying busy is your best bet. Working out is even better. Running, hiking, push ups, sit ups, pull ups etc. will get the angst out of your gut. Pray about it, and let what happens happen. If she cheats on you, then move on. Til then wait it out, you are married, and should honor it, for better or worse. It could be much worse, you have no kids, and they will not get crapped on. You are an adult, so guss up and realize that life is hard, you have to be harder.
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+1 on this.

I'm with you fellow!
 
If you know the reason for the split, identify your part in it. If you got something going on that needs to be fixed, fix it.
Once you identify and start fixing your part of it, you contact her and tactfully and peacefully explain/acknowlege your failure, what you are actively doing to fix it and what you are learning about YOU during the process.

She's gonna do what she's gonna do. You gotta do what you can to make reconciliation possible, if that is the goal.

I don't know what the issue is/was in the marraige, but as long as it's not one of the 3 A's(abuse,addiction,adultery) wiht some work on both side, it can be repairable.

If she's not willing to try, you can't make her.

I've been through it. No Fun.
 
BloodGroove4570 said:
NO movies, i got my new famly here. Thats why i told you guyz!!!
Thanks all. im still here and listening
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What is this "my new family" that you talk about? I don't mean to pry but, do you mean you have another family? (I mean, spouse, kids, etc?)? Of course is none of my bussines but since you asked, in a forum, is this the reason your wife left? If so, it's going to be difficult to get her back (women normally do no like to play second fiddle):confused:
 
BloodGroove4570 said:
NO movies, i got my new famly here. Thats why i told you guyz!!! Thanks all. im still here and listening.
BloodGroove4570 said:
DITCH THE EFFORT, I GOT MY NEW BK2 TODAY, that snip is Rockin!!!!!

Alvaro, I started thinking the same thing. First he is in the midst of being separated from his wife & upset, then this new family is mentioned with no explanation, & he is "still here & listening?? " Then the statement about the knife how great it is. The other thing is his change in attitude from the first post. As of today, not another post from him. Several things come to mind, but this thread doesn't make sense the way it is going.
I hope B/G is ok.
Merry Christmas,
Be safe
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The new family is Blade Forums is what I got from that, although not clear. I agree that is sounds like he is dealing with attention deficit.
 
This thread was started in the ESEE forum. He was referring to the people there as his new family.
 
Most everyone goes through that 6-7 year itch. Talk about it, see if she'll talk to you, maybe do counseling. But, if she's not into it, cut her loose and start the healing process.
 
cj65 said:
The new family is Blade Forums is what I got from that, although not clear. I agree that is sounds like he is dealing with attention deficit.
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CJ, the instant I hit Submit Reply that thought crossed my mind. I hope he is ok & these "outbursts" towards Partisan & the ramblings are only temporary or
maybe alcohol induced . . .
Merry Christmas,
Be safe.
 
imaginefj said:
Really, pray about it. Call your wife and then try to talk to her face to face. Respond don't react.
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This is the best advice you'll get...I'm entering into my 8th year of marriage this Dec 28th, and one thing I've learned is that sometimes women need space to sort out their own thoughts/feelings. Be confident (not needy) but also gentle and kind. Pray about it (I'll be doing the same for you) and the face to face is vital: she must be able to see and read your face to feel that you are being sincere. Invite her out to coffee (prob not liquor at this point, she might suspect your motives), and just talk. If she wants to leave, let her do so, but remind her that you still love her. Good luck bloodgroove, you're in my prayers.
 
Well....I have been married to the same woman for close to 20 years now.....during the course of our marriage no doubt there were disagreements, arguments - you name it. What's my secret? I only listen to the last sentence everytime she talks to me and nod in agreement. It also helps if you have asthma - you know I 'asth-ma' wife for permission before I do anything major not because I fear her but just to give some sort of respect. If I were in your shoes - before you reconcile (which I sincerely hope), I would buy all the knives while I can and just blamed it on loneliness (hell lot better than going to strip clubs, but if you do go to strip clubs, never ever withdraw cash from the strip clubs ATMs. I got busted once for that and slept in the dog house for a while, that's when I started taking interest in outdoor survival skills.) Heck, buy her a new knife. Hope it'll work out for you before Christmas.
 
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