Think You Guys Could Cheer Me Up ?

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preachtokill1032

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You read the title. Don't really want to go into the full details about it for certain reasons. I'll just say that today I attempted to get a certain job that only good things could come out of having. Unfortunately, because of one stupid incident that happened about five years ago, I don't qualify to apply. It doesn't matter that it was almost five years ago, it doesn't matter that it doesn't show up on record, it doesn't even matter if I were to pay money to get it cleared up. I'm unfit for the job and will never qualify. It could help me and my family out on so many levels, being a significant stepping stone in getting closer to a personal long time goal I've had, and I wanted to do this for myself as well as my two younger brothers, who look up to me.




I don't know how to explain the feeling of being told I was unfit for the job. Sad would be an understatement. I mean yeah, I'm still young and what not, and there's plenty of stuff out there, but being turned down in this particular case, it just made me feel really hurt inside. Think you guys could cheer me up, maybe even tell me if there's a way around this dilemna I'm in ?




Andrew
 
Yep, there are consequences to doing stupid things. Not the end of the world, and a one-time stupid thing is nowhere near as bad as some folks have it. Imagine if your "stupid thing" was armed robbery; becoming addicted to tobacco, drugs, or booze; dropping out of school; getting pregnant at 14; etc. Those are biggies that could ruin your life forever. And those are hurdles that millions of Americans successfully overcome every day.

Being excluded from one particular job is relatively small stuff.

-Bob
 
Bob W said:
Being excluded from one particular job is relatively small stuff.
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Especially if it inspires you to stop daydreaming about something that's not going to happen, and reset your goal to something also good but more attainable.
 
Forget what you did and the fact you can't have what you want. Make the best of what you've got;)
 
I'm betting that I can guess what the job is, and come close to why they said you are 'unfit'.

Anyway, you just got a dose of reality that many young people today miss. Your actions have consequences now, and into the future.

Hold your head high, learn from this, and move forward. You are young, and can always go down a different career path. Keep in mind, that there are older folks who have had to leave their careers for different reasons,(downsizing, company closures, disabilities, ect) and started over. I had to retire from my dream career after only 20 years, and find a new career, because of my health. I feel your pain to an extent, and you will prevail if you let yourself.

Good luck.
 
At the risk of mixing metaphores (or Martinis -- one or the other -- sometime I can't keep those two straight): There's no use crying over burned bridges.... 'cause your tears ain't gonna fix 'em.

When you burn one bridge, forget about it and find another... and never look back.
 
Gollnick said:
and never look back.
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Now that I think about it, the same thing is true of Martinis too. Never look back. Oh, you can always say, "a half-drop to much vermouth that time," but don't. Enjoy the Martini you have and dream about the better Martini to come -- the one with half-a-drop less vermouth -- but never regret Martinis past.

And there you have your vodka-infused wisdom for the day. There is no charge.
 
"If at first you don't succeed,Skydiving is not for you!!":D
I'm the king of the stupid mistakes so you should feel better knowing your not alone and yor in good company.:thumbup:
 
Been there a couple of times. Personally, I take Johnny Walker's advice (and his liquor too if I can afford it. . .)


"Keep on Walking"



Life, some smiles, some tears, BUT never have too much of either!!!
 
Smooth Operator,

If the job was one in public service, know that there's a lot of different ways that you can still contribute and that most of them would be more fun than actually working for an agency.

Your situation sucks, but the effort that you are making at moving on shows that you will get past it and move yourself into a better niche.

Take Care,
Jeff
 
Do what I do...Blame it on other people. You could not possible expect this world to hold you accountable for you own actions??? Thats nuts. After all the world only revolves around good ol number one...:D

Seriously, I realize that its a bummer but understand you still have it pretty good. Try dealing with serious broken dreams, such as poverty, cancer, death of a loved one.

In perspective you have a lot to live for. Enjoy it.:thumbup:
 
Here's a stupid incident from 1988 (yes, 1988) that cost me a $120,000 per year database administrator's job last year (was for a large, prepaid credit card company). Class C Misdemeanor, possesion of marijuana charge in Harris County, Texas ($300 fine). I disclosed it even though I knew their background check wouldn't reveal it. Figured my honesty would look good. It didn't.

Now because of that, I'm in business for myself and havin' a good ole time! :D
 
One philosophy I tend to live by is, don't worry about the things you can't control, and take care of the things that you can.


You can apply for other jobs.
You can, and most likely will find one that will hire you.
You can find something you'll enjoy doing.
 
“If there is a solution to the problem, there is no need to worry. If there is no solution, there is no sense in worrying either.”
The Dalai Lama, in “The Art of Happiness”
 
There are only two things to worry about:
if you are sick or if you are well. If you are well, you have nothing to worry about.

If you are sick, there are two things to worry about:
if you get better, or if you get worse. If you get better, there is nothing to worry about.

If you get worse there are only two things to worry about:
if you live or if you die. If you live, there is nothing to worry about.

If you die, there are two things to worry about:
if you go to heaven or if you go to hell. If you go to heaven, you have nothing to worry about.

If you go to hell, you'll be too busy partying with your friends to worry.
 
Mellow Chaos said:
Here's a stupid incident from 1988 (yes, 1988) that cost me a $120,000 per year database administrator's job last year (was for a large, prepaid credit card company). Class C Misdemeanor, possesion of marijuana charge in Harris County, Texas ($300 fine). I disclosed it even though I knew their background check wouldn't reveal it. Figured my honesty would look good. It didn't.
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wow... Not quite as bad, but Boeing did something similar to me. (yes, boeing) ...probably A blessing in disguiss. :D

You should have lied, then, if they did find it in their lousy Gastapo-check, you could have simply told them sorry Boss, I must have been too stoned during our interview to remember. :D :foot:

ok.ok cheer up time!!!

joke folks... make the guy smile!

i'll start.

what's fat, butt ugly, with a blue and white ring around it, and stinks like a ripe chicken on junk-food fart??? anyone? anyone? :D
 
Sorry guys, but well, this weekend I tried to cheer myself up with some good old fashion binge drinking, thought it would help ease the pain of being labeled a piece of no good garbage by the guy who I talked to for that job and what not. It didn't really help. Not only am I still hurt, but well, I have to be honest with you all, I'm flat out furious at him and his for telling me to go kiss off. I feel hurt. I feel disrespected. I feel robbed, and not to sound rude or trollish, but quite frankly, I feel like going back and punching the guy in his face for treating me the way he treated me. I feel as if I was, excuse my language, pimp slapped by this guy, and told, "once scum, always scum, and scum like you doesn't deserve to ever do anything legit, let alone get this job."




Code 3, you said you had a good idea of what it was I was trying to get into, and why it is I'm being denied the chance. I got a legitimate question for you: How do I force myself to not feel the hatred and resentment I feel towards this guy and those in his line of work ? The best way I can explain, is that I have the marbles to realize it would be an unfair prejudice, but at the same time, any time I see him, and those in his field, the first thing that's going to come to mind is "Woah, he's part of that outfit that told me to go screw myself, man I want to go over there and....." Well, you all get the point. And I mean no disrespect or unfairness in that, but seriously guys, try applying for a job, while the guy who's in charge there talks about helping and providing opportunities and taking care of you and your family and teaching you all kinds of stuff, and giving you special benefits, but tells you to go screw yourself because you caught a petty Class B misdemeanor in high school (which doesn't even show up on a background check if I was informed correctly) Honestly, how do you force yourself to not have any angry feelings at him and his outfit ? Could you find yourself having respect for him and his ? Could you ever be in the same room as him and his without losing your temper ? Could you ever bring yourself to think highly of someone who robbed you of an opportunity to do something honest and legit to take care of yourself and your family ?




It's taking everything in me not to have any resentments or pathological hatreds come out of all of this guys, I'd really appreciate it if you offered me your perspective on it all.




Andrew
 
It sounds like you're purposefully building this issue up. Let it go and move on.

...not to sound rude or trollish, but quite frankly, I feel like going back and punching the guy in his face for treating me the way he treated me. I feel as if I was, excuse my language, pimp slapped by this guy, and told, "once scum, always scum, and scum like you doesn't deserve to ever do anything legit, let alone get this job.
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I wasn't there, but every job recruiter / interviewer I've ever met was completely polite and professional, even if I didn't get the job. He really told you to "kiss off"? I doubt it.

Even without your past criminal behaviour, there are perhaps hundreds of other legit reasons you might not have gotten the job anyway. Binge drinking, anger, and emotional instability are some that come to mind.

Lighten up.

-Bob
 
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