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My dog max 11 years old is at the end of his rope. He wasn't doing good when my wife was sick. He had tumors on his body, he's vicious with vets so it's hard for me to take him there. He's had hip replacement.

He started pooping in the house, then my wife passed October 8th 2014 He has gotten worse. He won't go outside and down 3 steps. His back hips are giving him bad problems. Every morning for the past 6 months I have to clean up shit on my floor, I've stepped in it many times. It's a shitty way to start your day. It's like he tries to go out the doggy door but he can't hold it. Now I just watched him piss on my floor from my kitchen through the living to the front door.

I found a company that will put him down in my house. I'll have to sedate him with some pills before they come. He may bite them if he thinks they are veterinarian s. I want my husky who is 5 to be here, so he can understand what's going on , if that makes sense. Max has been here with my husky ever since he was a puppy. I heard they just give him a shot and that's that. Just bring up other memories.

Thank for reading guys.
 
I would reconsider forcing the other dog to witness the death. He will understand in his own way.
 
Codger_64 said:
I would reconsider forcing the other dog to witness the death. He will understand in his own way.
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I'm not forcing anything really. I just read that it's better that the healthy dog sees the unhealthy dog, after he passes.

I'll follow the vets instructions. My first time with this.
 
You're doing the right thing to have the vet come to you. A little sedation for Max beforehand won't hurt for when the vet comes. If they have not prescribed anything for him for this, you might consider two Benadryl tablets about an hour before they arrive. He'll be sleepy and less aggressive if he smells "vet" on them. Having your husky there isn't a bad thing, but he'll want to be close to you as you are wanting to be close to Max as he passes. That can get a little confusing about which dog you're being closest to at that moment. If the Husky can sit quietly while you hold Max, then it'll be fine. The vet may have an assistant who can help out, too.

My condolences for the loss of your wife. Saying goodbye to Max now just seems like worst timing. I'm so sorry.

Keep us posted on how you're doing.

Zieg
 
I will say a prayer for you, your sickly dog and your other dog.

This will be HARD for you to deal with in some ways because it is final. The good thing is that you still have another younger/healthier dog with you at this stage in your life.

My late, two, old dogs were put to sleep five months after my late husband died. They went downhill even FASTER after he died. One was 15.5 years old and the other one was 16.5 years old. They were failing a BIT more when my late husband was dying of cancer (Old age, etc.) but they could still walk, get up, go to the bathroom 'outside', eat and drink water. They were with him on each side of his Lazy Boy chair when he died in our home.

I took my dogs to the vet and I was going to go alone. Two of my dear old friends INSISTED that they go with me. I CRIED SO HARD after I had them put to sleep but it was the best thing for them. In fact, most animal doctors could not get over how healthy my dogs were and how long they lived throughout my life until AGE or some disease finally got to them. My dogs understood death when it came to my husband dying in our home. They understood sickness and so forth. DOGS know these things as other animals do too. I did not keep Muffie and Megan apart when my vet put the needle in and I HELD THEM IN MY ARMS, stroked them and told them that I LOVED THEM.

Prayers will be said for you.

Cate
 
Dang this must be rough. Ill be here for you, as well as most of the people on this form, if need be.
 
Jeez big storm just knocked out all power, got a little juice in the phone. Not sure if tomorrow is a good day to do this. Takes forever sometimes to get the power back out here in the sticks.
Thank you everyone
 
PS:

Condolences on the loss of your wife too.


Dogs understand a lot of things as I said above.

They understand LOVE, joy, kindness, happiness, sadness, life, death, instructions, routine in their daily lives, a good home, etc.

I do not know how much you TALK to your dogs but I always talked to my dogs and other dogs as I would talk to a human being.

I did not bark out commands but they knew that I WAS the alpha dog-leader, my late husband was another alpha dog in OUR family to them even though I did far more with them due to my hours and so forth. I did most of the caregiving when it came to our dogs but my husband did some too.

They listened to me very well and were trained easily. Potty training. They hardly EVER had any PUPPY accidents in the house because they trained quickly and UNDERSTOOD what I meant. They had a GOOD routine and they were PRAISED A LOT! A FEW puppy and more old age accidents were normal in the beginning and end of their lives. The old age part was something that THEY could not control due to their age and physical issues because they were always such good, loving and faithful dogs. Part of the family.

A bit of advice here again: I would TALK and HUG both of your dogs some more (Extra loving!) especially when the one dog is put to sleep and to the other dog AFTER the other one dies.

Give the surviving dog EXTRA, extra ATTENTION and remember that DOGS DO GRIEVE AFTER A LOVED ONE DIES (Human being.) and EVEN WHEN ANOTHER PET DIES IN THEIR FAMILY. That is a fact not only my opinion even if some people may not agree with me. You can see it, feel it and sense it with your dogs.

I had to care for my late 'Aunt' C's old dog for some time after she died. I kept a few old pieces of her clothing in a bed that I made up for him. He was a small dog named HERCULES! Uh huh. Grin. Anyway, my other large female dogs welcomed him into the PACK and he figured out his place in our home. Hercules was used to a VERY quiet home (Aunt C. was a single, old lady lawyer who still went to the office or worked at home.) with NO other pets around him in another part of the country. He adapted in his own way. He did have trouble understanding BIG snow drifts though! He lived a good life until the end too.

Cate
 
I'm sorry for the loss of your wife. I've only had one dog at a time but I would ask the vet for his/her opinion on what to do about the 2nd dog. I had to put my best buddy down a few weeks ago so I understand your pain. Quality of life is important when making these decisions. Smoke and prayers from MI.
 
My condolences to you for both your losses.

I know what it's like, on both fronts.
 
Vet is coming today 5 pm eastern time. Not sure what to say except thank you for being here for me.
 
Strength to you. Max will slip away into that deepest sleep knowing he is a good dog, that he is loved and that you are there with him. So sorry you are losing Max.
 
I feel sorry for you, man. We have had several losses in the family ourselves. Its a rough situation.
 
Your other dog will know intuitively what is going on. Went through a very similar event last Friday. The pack mates behaved fine but they sure miss him, even a week later. God bless during your time of difficulty.
 
I have unspeakable appreciation for all of you. Max has passed. My buddy can rest now. RIP
 

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Rainbow Bridge
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
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I just came upon this post, Troy. I'm sorry you have lost your dear wife, and also for the passing of your buddy.
 
Tough decision, one of the saddest I ever had to make was to put my dog down. But he was in constant pain, and there was no cure, so it was a mercy in the end. Still miss that dog.
 
It sucks and it hurts. I had to lock jake in my bedroom, he gets excited when I have company. After he passed she said to let jake out. He walked over to max very slowly, smelling around him. He knew then. She said it's good so jakes not looking for him anymore. Jakes tired and stressed out, so am I. I haven't eaten all day. And it pouring rain out, go figure.

This to shall pass.
 
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