What do you guys gota say about this...

Keep the pimp hand strong! Oh, we're not in whine and cheese yet...


One of my ex's broke up with me because of our fundamental political differences. We liked each other but she was probably right because some of the liberal bull hocky she said just made her look like an idiot.

I'm on my second since then and both know my views and that I'm going to do what I want and own what I want. The last one thought she would change some of it and she is gone. This one I think is smart enough to know I'm to the age that I don't care what people think and I am set in my ways. She lets me play pirate all I want!
 
My GF is a liberal as well. When we first started dating she wouldnt even be in the same room as a gun. I've got her to understand that guns are VERY useful tools and can be used in a variety of applications. She now keeps a H&K P2000 .40 in her dresser and I'm working on getting her to apply for her CCW.

She never really had a problem with knives, but I can understand where you are coming from. She's bought me a Spyderco Police3, Becker BK9, and a Benchmade 710. Good woman.
 
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Agent Iron said:
Don't know what she ment by your quoting her as saying no more knives. If she ment, she did not want to buy you more knives...hey that's cool, her perogative. If she was saying that "you" may not buy more knives for yourself....you got big problems. I see this all the time with guys. If a woman can just make demands, or hold you to a different standard and force her will, it is a symptom of a lack of respect for you. I am not saying this is what she did as I could not tell from the context of your quote, but if she is going to excert authority over you now your toast, it aint getting any better. In a classic Seinfeld show they called it hand. You have to have the hand, and keep it. If you start without it, you can't figure ever getting it back.

I have seen this many times, even talked to a fella about it the day before yesterday. Women telling men they can't hunt, or they can't go do something and the woman goes and does the same thing. The guy goes and lays in the corner like a good dog. In his heart he is ticked, but he puts up no resistance. There just in no respect for the man, and that respect should be earned, but without it....I don't see happiness in the fellas who fail to have it and the "hand" that goes with it.

Good luck!
AI
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I couldn't have said it better!

One of two things will happen in a relationship (if you can call it that) where one person tries to change and domineer the other. One, the domineering person grows up and accepts that a relationship is two independent and separate people sharing a life together and stops being an ass. Two, the domineering person succeeds in training the other who gives in an obeys their master because it is safer and easier (so they think). In the former you have a chance at a good relationship but that rarely happens as most people who try to change other people are mentally ill, or at a minimum extremely immature, to begin with. In the latter you are just biding time and wasting your life and resources by giving in to unreasonable demands because ultimately no one likes to be turned into someone else's lapdog and it will build up resentment over time that will eventually lead to bad things. Eventually there will be a breakup and/or a heart attack and so forth... Might as well figure this out sooner than later before you realize you lost a decade or more of your life with the wrong person and have to move back in with your folks if you don't want to be homeless when she takes the house, kids and alimony when you finally grow a pair.
 
My girlfriend lets me buy whatever I want. Sometimes she even buys me knives but she knows that I know more about them so she is hesitant getting me a "crappy" knife. Thankfully she doesn't really have any political views. She has never ever said "you can't buy that because you have too many knives" or "what do you need that for?" She even lets me get her knives sometimes, especially ones that are "cute" or "fat" like her blue Dodo or pink Cricket. The last knife I bought her was a Boker Keycom that she thought was cute. She saw it while we were at Bass Pro Shops looking for a new knife for her sister. (the sister ended up with some kind of stainless Buck Framelock and I ended up with a Subcom :D)

Plus she likes buying clothes or shoes that she doesn't "need" so she has no problem with me buying knives that I don't "need" :D.

I got lucky :D :D :D
 
My advice is have a conservative wife and a liberal girlfriend - best of both worlds! ;)
 
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I guess we both understand that just because each of likes a gift doesnt mean other person has to be crazy about it. I got her jewelry and perfume for Christmas and she got me the BM 710.

Giving a gift to someone is not about what you want - its about what you know will make them happy.
 
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Pete1977 said:
Plus she likes buying clothes or shoes that she doesn't "need" so she has no problem with me buying knives that I don't "need" :D.
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I always like to add in that my knives will last forever while her shoes will only last a few years! :D
 
Glock26 said:
What do you guys say, my girlfriend was really embarrassed. She even said, no more knives okay!
Whats your say ladies and gentleman
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Well, you asked for opinions, so.......


Glock26 said:
my girlfriend was really embarrassed.
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Embarrassed about what? That she's not dating some sheeple-wuss-boy who never carries a knife and has to use his teeth to open the shrink-wrap around his latest Back Street Boys CD? Come on. It ain't like you whipped out the Glock Knife to clean your finger nails with while waiting for a table at Applebee's. Tell her you're embarrassed about something she does. My wife reads all those cussed Twilight books. I tell her all the time that I think those books are lame, but I don't forbid her from reading them or feel embarrassed about her reading them. Different folks enjoy different hobbies. I also hate Facebook, Oprah, and songs by Lady Ga Ga, all things that my wife enjoys that I don't forbid her from. (Though she has slowly come to realize that Oprah is an idiot 99% of the time.)


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She even said, no more knives okay!
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Does that sound like love to you? Not to me. "No more smoking crack cocaine!" or "No more culturing of the small pox virus in my kitchen!" are acceptable limitations. But "no more knives" is not. If she seriously meant that she actually forbids you to purchase any additional knives, then if I were you, I'd dump her. And I'm not saying this as one with no experience. My wife and I have been together for nearly seven years, and during that time she has personally, by her self, went to two different knife stores and bought me a Spyderco Native, a Benchmade Griptillian, and a Camillus Becker Necker. She also does not complain when I bring home a new knife because I always first make sure I can afford it as far as our budget goes. That's just one of the reasons I love her. I would not be married to a woman who forbids me to buy knives when I can afford to buy a knife I want.

You're dating her, and, in my opinion, the purpose of dating is to find someone who enjoys a lot of the things you enjoy, and will at least tolerate other things you enjoy. If she really does intend for you to buy no more knives, you should let her go. Unless you feel that a life with no knives is an acceptable sacrifice in order to be with her. (And you're crazy if you feel that way.)

I'd rather have one good knife and no woman than the hottest woman in the world and no knife. Just my two cents, but you wanted opinions.
 
tell her to buy you better knives. if she won't, throw her down a well.
 
Never let your wife or GF know how many knives or guns you have, and don't try to discuss either with them.

In the interim - buy her a nice kitchen knife :thumbup::D
 
This is funny. My wife would care less what I bought, as long as it doesn't effect the bills being paid. If she thought a knew Kimber Rifle or Japanese sword would make me happy she would buy it herself. In fact many of my firearms and knives through the years were presents from her. Now I admit she was in the marines and her father was chief of police, so maybe she is a little more de-sensitized to these things, and has been said you probably just need to do the same with your girlfriend. Take her shooting, show her how you use your knives, buy her a small SAK. If she truly cares about you she will come around, and if you don't get anymore knives as gifts oh well, just as long as you can still buy them yourself that's all that matters!

Bill
 
if you can find one the leatherman flair has a corkscrew, a little cocktail fork, and a butterknife blade. I think they're discontinued, but i think you can still find them, my wife loved the one I bought her for christmas a couple years ago.
 
My GF dosn't care that I collect knives and guns- she has her hobbies, and I have mine. It's just easier to let the other person have their thing, if they let you have yours. It saves alot of nagging and hurt feelings.

On that note, I'v bought her things I wouldn't tell my firends I actually spent money on, and on my next birthday she bought me a Manix 2! I like what I have going on!
 
Let me speak from some experience here, break up, right now. Immediately upon reading this end it. Exchange gifts, and end it. I have first hand experience with this kinda thing with an EX, and like several others on here posted (Agent Iron, Pinhead, and Melt) all of which brought up legitimate points. This behavior is not good I think the actual term for part of this behavior is called projection. Anyway, the comments about her being embarresed by your knife affinity and understanding that these are tools, combined with the fact that she said "no more knives, Ok?" Nothing good is going to come of this, and this time its knives, next time its going to be something else, and so on. It just so happens that its the knife issue that brought this behavior pattern to the surface. So this isn't really about knives its about something much BIGGER, trust me on this. Proceed in this relationship at your own peril as sooner rather than later your going to realize that is going to be trend and it is going to cause you some serious problems, spiritually, physically and mentally.

Go find someone who loves and appreciates you for who you are, and not what she thinks you should be in accordance with her and/or her friends worldviews. I wish I could emphasize how serious of situation your dealing with here on some many levels, but I encourage you in all seriousness to RUN don't walk from this girl. Amongst other things she is insecure and still seeking the approval of her friends in her choice of mate, and I can guarantee you that her friends made some comment and said just tell him no more knives and make him stop. Not even realizing the sickness of this manipulative controlling mind set and the destructiveness this type of behavior has on another human being.

Mark my words if you stay in this relationship your going to come to regret it, put your chin strap on because its going to be a bumpy ride, and your nuts in a nice box that she won't be embarrassed to carry in her purse.

GOOD LUCK
 
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MikeC said:
Let me speak from some experience here, break up, right now. Immediately upon reading this end it. Exchange gifts, and end it. I have first hand experience with this kinda thing with an EX, and like several others on here posted (Agent Iron, Pinhead, and Melt) all of which brought up legitimate points. This behavior is not good I think the actual term for part of this behavior is called projection. Anyway, the comments about her being embarresed by your knife affinity and understanding that these are tools, combined with the fact that she said "no more knives, Ok?" Nothing good is going to come of this, and this time its knives, next time its going to be something else, and so on. It just so happens that its the knife issue that brought this behavior pattern to the surface. So this isn't really about knives its about something much BIGGER, trust me on this. Proceed in this relationship at your own peril as sooner rather than later your going to realize that is going to be trend and it is going to cause you some serious problems, spiritually, physically and mentally.

Go find someone who loves and appreciates you for who you are, and not what she thinks you should be in accordance with her and/or her friends worldviews. I wish I could emphasize how serious of situation your dealing with here on some many levels, but I encourage you in all seriousness to RUN don't walk from this girl, amongest other things she is insecure and still seeking the approval of her friends in her choice of mate, and I can guarantee you that her friends made some comment and said just tell him no more knives and make him stop. Not even realizing the sickness of this manipulative controlling mind set and the destructiveness this type of behavior has on another human being.

Mark my words if you stay in this relationship your going to come to regret it, and put your chin strap on because its going to be a bumpy ride, and your nuts in a nice box that she won't be embarrassed to carry in her purse.

GOOD LUCK
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Bingo! we have a winner! Excellant post sir!
AI
 
All awesome responses! I had a good time reading all what each of you had to say. I have to agree, she does love me to buy me knives. But i can understand where she is coming from, etc. Let me tell you this all, she has never bought me knives before, and she will probably not in the future. The thing was i bought her a $200 camera, so i wanted her to buy me two knives, hence i was broke after the purchase to buy my own knives. Lastly, i really do enjoy hearing your similar events. I guess it runs in all guns and knives peeps.

Above all ladies and gents, i will keep on buying my knives and guns. Also will have them on me, i'm not a sheep. most important, my girlfriend was not in a threatening manner, she is just trying to tell me what she thinks, i disagree. I'm not like "Dr. Faggot" in hangover. Know what i mean, i'm not going to break up with this girl, we have a future ahead of us.
 
Man, wish you would heed my advice. I'm about to turn 40 in a few months and have tons of friends who are married, divorced, re married, etc. I've been married for sixteen (16) years, my folks have been married for 53 years and my wifes parents have been married for 51 years. I've seen what works and what doesn't. I know exactly where your headed and it ain't pretty. Even the Bible talks about being unequally yoked a term used for believers marrying non believers.

Not to say that the relationship can't work but its going to be hell on one of you, because on core issues you are diametrically opposed to one another. So someone is going to have to do a whole lot of conceding and me thinks I know who its going to be. Again, best of luck to you, marriage and family is already tough but add this in and its going to be downright tooth and nail all the time to hold it together. You shouldn't willingly do things that make life harder than it needs to be. Not saying shes not a lovely girl, but once your married and children come into play everything changes, especially in situation likes yours because mommies going to be exposing liberal idealogy and Daddies going to be teaching the exact opposite. Wish you could see the forest for the trees, but your gonna have to learn on your own. I guess its true, each generation has to learn what "hot" is.

Take Care and again Best of Luck
 
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