Cougar, I want to agree, but the most gratifying experiences of my life have been those I qualified to share with someone going thru hell by having gone thru my own hell beforehand.
While I'm not of the Roman rite, Henry J. M. Nouwen suggests that if we wish to be used to the fullest, we consider how he elements of the Eucharist or Communion are prepared:
First, they are taken, set aside.
Second, they are blessed.
Third, they are broken.
Fourth, they are given.
And somehow in this process, a binding together - a unity of all, occurs.
When I allow myself to be emptied of me, when I accept and submit to the will of Something Greater than me, when I am like the elements, taken, blessed, broken, and given, I become a channel of his peace.
This is only my own discription, my own understanding, of how it happens. Mohd, Yvsa, Uncle Bill, and others all have their own probably quite different understandings of what it means to them. God, Allah, Yahweh aser Yihweh, the Great Spirit... but somehow something reaches through them all to give comfort to those in need.
Being able to give and touch others, even in the absence of self, is the essence, the fulfillment of life to me.
Now to get back to my plan to market mace/pepper spray in every hospital so no patient need be deprived of dignity and protection from the nursing staff.
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"Let us consider that we are all partially insane. It will explain us to each other." Mark Twain