Jarod, this is a complicated problem that I still struggle with. These days there seems to be a race or contest anytime I post a new blade on my available page. I have had a mere 4 minutes between e-mails determine who gets first dibs. After dealing with the situation you described I have had many mishaps. While it is not always fair some people do end up getting an edge on snatching up the piece simply by the network of communication and transactions they have established with me by many purchases in the past, but then that is quite fair in regards to rewarding good customers.
The bottom line is that cash talks and everything else walks, the knife is NEVER sold until the cash, not check, or credits or numbers on paper, but real cash is sitting safely in your bank account. Also give the person appropriate time to conquer any buyers remorse before spending any of that money, and keep good receipts and documentation, even if they don’t want it- you will want it. I no longer ship with just a deposited check after an incident 2 years ago when I waited 10 days, shipped and then got notice that the check was bad, and it turned out this guy had burned a couple of other knifemakers.
How I have handled the contest to claim a knife dilemma is to take the first e-mail and let him know that he is first in line for the knife, the second guy is told in very clear terms that he is second in line and will have dibs should the first guy not come through, a third space can be included if needed but it rarely gets beyond that. This pending lineup is how things stand until real cash is in your bank account, then all concerned are notified that the knife is officially sold. It is also a nice touch and consolation to drop the second place guy a heads up e-mail the next time you have a knife available, he wanted to be good to you, the next time give him the opportunity to do so.
I developed this method after having a couple of characters say they wanted the knife and would get back with me on how they could pay for it, and in the meantime I told other interested parties that the knife was sold and lost their business only to have the first jokers not get back with me. At this point I need to advertise the knife twice as hard to let the market know it is really still available. I still get inquiries on available pieces from some of those jokers but you can understand how they are not on the list for a heads up courtesy e-mail.
There are worse “is it sold” scenarios however. The one I still struggle with, and it is horrible, is when a customer at the blade show picks up a $1,500 piece and says they want to walk the show and will be back later to pick it up, no cash is exchanged and in the meantime two other guys throw cash on your table for it! AHHHH!

:grumpy: I have ran through the blade show twice now to find that guy who I feel deserves the benefit of the doubt before selling a blade out from underneath him, but the scary thing is that they almost always say “Oh let them have it then, I found something else I like”. What the hell would happen if you turned folks away only to have that first guy back out at the end of the show and you go home with an unsold knife and a whole lot of show expense?
I would like to take this opportunity to tell show goers not to do this to makers! If you want a piece put cash on the table and ask the makers to hold it for you. I am getting too old to do the Blade Show dash while a person stands in front of my table with fifteen $100 bills in their hand! I feel in the future I need to tell people that the knife is for sale until the cash is in my pocket, but do you know how hard this is to do with somebody you have built a working relationship with?
It may sound like I am being too nice about it, but have you ever seen what happens when you just sell that knife they wanted you to hold? Many times I have seen a very ugly and loud encounter at a show when the customer returns to find that knife he asked to be held has sold.
Please people this is not fair to us makers at all!
Do any other makers have a problem, or better yet a solution with this "is it sold" dilemma as well?