Don't get too caught up in how you think the mechanics should be, study your hands and the tool,in motion and look for where slop develops.
Some tools really do need to be sharpened a specific way, but that is driven by the tool itself. Most of the time you just need to ID where you fight yourself, where there's slop, where you rock solid.
A video of yourself sharpening is not a bad idea or you can sort of defocus and study your hands letting tactile sensation guide you.
You may find you come around to a very similar method used by others or you may be better off with a different approach. Whatever offers the most control and then whatever offers control and speed if time is $ or just for the challenge.