Would You Consider This Abuse?

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This is my first post in community, so I hope I've got the right forum. A coworker of my wife was driving to the store one afternoon and noticed a woman and child walking on the side of the road. On the way back, she passed them again. She stopped to ask if they needed a ride. The woman told her that it was the second time the boy, a kindergartener, had been suspended from riding the school bus, so the consequences were that he had to walk home, 14 miles. 14 miles is a long way to walk, but I dont think it was abuse. In fact, I think it was an ingenious way to show a child the consequences of misbehaving without using a disconnected punishment, like no TV, or grounding, etc. Just wanted some second opinions. Plus, the mother was willing to walk it with him and take time to teach the lesson, showing she had a high degree of involvement and dedication.
 
Bet the little guy will think twice before getting in that kind of trouble again.
No not abuse.
 
Abuse..... in our vile , PC big cities some folks might say so , IMO the lad has just learned a valuable lesson , one that he will never forget.


Major kudos to that mom !!! If more moms were like her instead of... well you know... our society might be a little better off.
 
Abuse, if he were walking it alone. Sounds like a good parent driving home a point.
 
I don't know enough of the facts; but it sounds like the administrators at the school might want to think again about taking away the child's bus ride.
Instead, they could apply a different type of disciplinary measure which wouldn't discourage the child from school attendance.

In other words, it doesn't really sound as if the mom is applying the "tough love", but is sort of a victim of it along with her child.


(And, as others have posted - credit to the mother for doing the long walk with her child.)
 
14 miles is nothing. I guarantee when he is living a well adjusted life in 20 years he will be joking about how cruel his mom was but knowing deep down that his mom laid a solid foundation for him.

Lay the foundation solid and deep, let them build a small hut or a huge skyscraper. I hope that analogy made sense.

Imagine his friends who get to ride all cooped up in a small bus. He probably saw stuff he never saw and spent valuable time with mom.
 
doesn't sound like abuse by the mother...

sounds like some stooge at the school came up with this less than stellar idea
(no surprise there)
 
When I was a kid, we walked 14-miles to school everyday, uphill both ways, in the snow.

Bus?

Luxury!

But you try tellin' that to the kids of today...
 
Thats nothing. When I was a kid I used to walk across the room, to the tv and back, to change the tv channel.

Remote?

Luxury!

But you try telling that to the kids of today.... :D
 
I dont think this was a necessary thing, I think the mother was just doing it once to drive home the point. I see the point about discouraging attendance, and its an interesting one, since if he misbehaves enough, expulsion is the final option.
 
I have a hard time believing that a 5 year old could do something so bad as to get him kicked off the bus twice....but you never know.

That said..he was walking with an adult. Under parental supervision. I think its a good lesson learned. Tough Love yes...abuse...no:thumbup:
 
Ren the devils trailboss said:
I have a hard time believing that a 5 year old could do something so bad as to get him kicked off the bus twice....but you never know.
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No kidding. I was 14 before I got kicked off the school bus and had to walk 7 miles each way to Jr. High School in the middle of the Denver winter.
 
Gollnick said:
When I was a kid, we walked 14-miles to school everyday, uphill both ways, in the snow.

Bus?

Luxury!

But you try tellin' that to the kids of today...
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...and between the seven of us,we had two pairs of shoes:D
 
Ren the devils trailboss said:
I have a hard time believing that a 5 year old could do something so bad as to get him kicked off the bus twice....but you never know.

That said..he was walking with an adult. Under parental supervision. I think its a good lesson learned. Tough Love yes...abuse...no:thumbup:
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I'll have to disagree completely. I used to be a school bus driver (as of last week) and a few 5 year olds come to mind that I wish would have been kicked off.

The kid didn't have to walk home, the mother chose to make him do it. The alternative would have been for her to drive him home which would have taught him nothing... unless a meeting with the "board of education" came once they got home.
 
We lived 30 miles from school, so the bus was pretty important to us. Once we got to middle-school and weren't shepherded to the bus by our teachers, if we missed the bus home, we knew that when we called mom, she'd tell us to start walking...

This was rural northern MN in the 70's and early 80's and mom knew that once we got about five miles from school, someone who knew us would stop and give us a ride the rest of the way home. That was a different time, I'd NEVER consider that with my kids today!

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