The Army is tough on wives. I almost became a geographic bachelor during my second Hawaii assignment as my wife nearly didn't return to Hawaii with me. She did return with me though and had a much better experience during my second Hawaii assignment, the type of Hawaii assignment families dream of.
She's fine now and was so shortly after the news of my second reassignment to Hawaii. She just couldn't fathom doing it again --- three years as a single mom with a new born, a two year old, and a five year old and unable to afford travel to see any family and with no family support available. That was basically her experience during our first Hawaii assignment.
We'll have been married 30 years later this year and for most of that I was in the Army. We were separated for my 42 months worth of deployments to Iraq and Afghanistan too, but she didn't then have toddlers to deal with by herself nor was she locked on an island and unable to travel. The Army is tough on wives, but she's an extremely strong woman.
She's fine now and was so shortly after the news of my second reassignment to Hawaii. She just couldn't fathom doing it again --- three years as a single mom with a new born, a two year old, and a five year old and unable to afford travel to see any family and with no family support available. That was basically her experience during our first Hawaii assignment.
We'll have been married 30 years later this year and for most of that I was in the Army. We were separated for my 42 months worth of deployments to Iraq and Afghanistan too, but she didn't then have toddlers to deal with by herself nor was she locked on an island and unable to travel. The Army is tough on wives, but she's an extremely strong woman.