My wife just had her neck surgery going on 3 weeks ago, she was out of the hospital in less than 24 hours, I'm not gonna bs you she was in a lot of discomfort/pain post surgery and she has to be careful while the fusion takes hold but the benefits do far outweighed the pain.
She had 2, 3 and 4, I believe, (the top 3) fused, she had/has a site throat still at its worse it was like strep, now it's more like she's been lecturing all day, by the end of the day she gets croaky. Benefits? She's not doing things anymore, the numbness in her hands is gone and she's gotten some pain relief, mostly in her neck and hands but her lower lumbar is a mess.
You two sound like twins. Her orthopedic surgeon is out of Easton PA and Phillipsburg NJ, his bedside sucks but he's really good at what he does. If I can answer any questions I'd gladly try.