Being a middle man on ebay between 2 parties....what to do?

[Frank-H]

"Final email was where I offered to pay him for his fees plus something extra"

The seller is due more than just his fees back etc, somebody needs to come through with buying what was bid on, you grasp this at some level no doubt.

Frankly, you've gotten great suggestions (and encouragement to take various action here etc), so, it's up to you from here, "do it", make it go right.

This isn't even a knife transaction for cryin' out loud - good luck getting things worked out, and if you have to scrape and go through some jumps etc. for your bozo friend, it's part of what shapes one's character, do the right thing, make others do the right thing as possible, but you do the right thing.

I think the ping-pong ball has gone back and forth enough to see the story clearly at this point, good luck man, maybe post back with how you resolved it, but that's the next step here. Make it resolve.

Best,

Frank H.

 

[GarageBoy]

I can't come up with the cash, since my mom hates dad (not divorced, but should be) and dad is trying to move away from ebay

 

[Frank-H]

I'm done with this, but, final suggestion -

Step up and solve this man! You arrive at "can't be done" too quickly.

Good opportunity to grow the 'nads here. Put it together. Keep thinkin'.

If you really, really wanted to clean it up and make it right, "you could", unless you too quickly find the answer "I can't" and you're satisfied with that answer. Take on the challenge, fix it. You posted it here, so, follow through, get 'er done. Better than a smudge mark sitting in your memory for the rest of your life. Surprise yourself, fix this deal.

Frank H.

 

[GarageBoy]

Ok meeting him tomorrow (waited on AIM for HOURS for him), hopefully I can express mail fast enough

 

[Blue Sky]

If you're open to one more suggestion, here's mine. Since you can't come up with all the money at once, maybe he'd be willing to let you pay it off in installments, say $25 a week. When it's paid in full he'll send them to you, which you then re-list to try and recoup as much as possible. With any luck, you might not be out too much in the end.

 

[GarageBoy]

Supposedly, according to my other friends, they're worth 3-400$ :jaw drop for a pair of sneakers), but I'll see later if he shows up

 

[Megalobyte]

Good ideas so far, what I can't understand is how a pair of sneakers can be worth as much as a Wood Inlayed Sebenza.

 

[Nakano 2]

I can' t see how a pair of sneakers are worth a life! They use to kill for them suede Puma "Clydes" back in the 70' s!

N.

 

[rmolk]

you know, you are stuck between a rock (your Dad's rep on ebay) and a hard place (where's the money). If your Dad doesn't care, then take the negative feedback hit and bail out on the deal and your pseudo friend. Otherwise, you are completely responsible, not your Dad, nor your deadbeat friend.

Find the money, relist, rethink your relationships.

Get your own ebay name.

good luck

rich

 

[Stepa]

Good ideas so far, what I can't understand is how a pair of sneakers can be worth as much as a Wood Inlayed Sebenza.

I'll buy that wood inlayed Sebenza off you for $200 today

 

[Megalobyte]

I'll buy that wood inlayed Sebenza off you for $200 today

Actually, he said that the sneakers are worth more than the $200 he won them for, I believe he said as much as $400, which I admit, is still a good deal on a wood inlay Sebenza. Short of having laces made from braided 24 gold, again I ask, how can a pair of sneakers be worth $400 and who buys them?

 

[SIFU1A]

$400 wow and i thought jordans were high (~$150 IIRC), i hope my son doesnt decide he has to have a pair lol.

 

[GarageBoy]

Alright - have a loan out til I find him and get him to pay up or resell time (being sent to me instead) (yea, he didn't show up)

 

[Ryan8]

I think you know by now that he's not your friend. He screwed you and lied to you numerous times. I don't know what else to suggest, just take it as a learning experience and don't put yourself in a situation to be screwed like this again.

It's still worth trying to get the money, maybe even with parental involvement. I wouldn't get my hopes up though. You can resell the sneakers yourself at some point if it doesn't work out.

 

[Keith Montgomery]

Alright - have a loan out til I find him and get him to pay up or resell time (being sent to me instead) (yea, he didn't show up)

I think you have done the right thing here. It may have been hard, but it is a life lesson.

 

[Frank-H]

Alright - have a loan out til I find him and get him to pay up or resell time (being sent to me instead) (yea, he didn't show up)

You know this clearly at this time, but your "bud" is a scum. Even if he lives in a nice house etc, he - is - a - scum.

You though, from toughing this out and not being a scuz to the seller you "bid with" on behalf of your 'bud', have elevated yourself WELL above what $200 could ever buy, in terms of character and reason for pride and self respect. Things your 'bud' may never be able to afford, maturity he may never earn.

Good on ya, man. You can hold your head up high, while he's hiding his.

Frank H.

 

[SIFU1A]

sometimes friends are hard to figure out - i arranged for 3 buds to go hunting on 800+ acres about an hour from austin (johnson city) on some property that belongs to my wifes best friend - free deer hunting, in the hill country, on a big piece of property, with a house on it ya can use, had to get on one buds case for bringing other folks hunting (at least 3 people) after the owner found out and called me & asked "WTF"? after i told them very plainly "no guests please"(bring the wife, the kids, your dad, just no buddys without asking me first) . he had the audacity to get angry at me lol, its sure hard to understand people let me tell ya. i have known him 30 yrs probably. point being be very carefull when ya put your butt on the line with your friends, i wish now i would have never invited anyone, i hope i dont have to ask all the others not to go back, my dad used to say watch how fast some folks can mess up a good thing....................