BF etiquette

Chrisj1974

Chrisj1974

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Hi Guys

What's your opinion on this matter.

I agreed a deal on Wednesday with a member for a Direware Solo and they have now negated on that deal because they have had a higher offer and sold it on ebay today!!! Not sure what the BF etiquette is but for me when a deal is agreed then I tend to stick to that regardless if a higher offer is received. For me, it's a matter of having principles, values or etiquette when it comes to selling on this site and in my opinion the member in question has absolutely shown none of these. Very disappointed tbh!!!

Cheers
Chris
 
Yep, crappy deal. Best you can probably do is name them so others know how they roll since money doesn't seem to have changed hands.
 
Agreed. It stinks but have to just move on. I’d def add that person to ignore list, and assuming you are absolutely certain it was same person and knife, leave a heads up in the GBU
 
Agreed, there are lots of sellers out there on BF who are great and have good selling etiquette and I have dealt with some of those guys. I also get that the seller can sell to whoever they wish but I just thought it was in bad taste to do so after agreeing a deal with me 2 day prior, so negating on our deal.

This guy is a new member to BF and has only recently started collecting and when I called him out on it I was kind of taken back by his response which basically was that I was in the wrong for doing so?

Anyway, whatever, already moved on guys and thanks for the comments thus far.

Cheers
Chris
 
Bad business practices solve themselves as word gets around. BF doesn’t have BBB, but it does have the feedback forum, which can work just as well. Share the facts and hopefully people’s practices change because folks don’t work with them.
 
I will say if a seller has listed an item anywhere else that should be disclosed in the listing I would hold this true for anywhere including the bay. I would hate to imagine what would happen on the bay if you reneged on a deal because it sold for higher over here.
 
A person that backs out of a deal with a member, to sell on eBay at a higher price, shows a selfish lack of respect. Some of us take pride in honoring our word and commitments, while others really don’t give a damn.
 
By not naming the seller you take away any repercussions. Part of learning proper behavior (from childhood on) is learning that a price is paid for bad behavior, even if it is just seeing your name in a thread like this. Be sure of your facts, and name the seller. My .02. ;)
 
Here's the thread of the knife sale

https://bladeforums.com/threads/direware-solo-titanium-flipper.1589915/#post-18203030

With only 4 posts from the seller, bad start. Not sure if you can leave bad feedback as you weren't technically the purchaser but you may be able to. Low post count and a negative feedback is detrimental to being able to sell on the forum.

If someone is willing to negate a deal then I think it needs to be stated "selling to highest offer, will sell to whom I wish" or something like that. Some people have worded that more eloquently but IMO if you've made a deal then the sale is over and other offers shouldn't be taken. If both offers are made at a similar time then the seller gets to choose. Part of this depends on the offer from the buyers, like if you offered $300 and the other buyer offered $400. It's still not a great situation and a lot relies on the seller's approach to letting you know the situation. It is also the seller's fault for not waiting for a better offer but if we give the seller the benefit of the doubt then mistakes happen, and so on. Not sure on the behind the scenes but it doesn't seem like it was a great handling by the seller in this one, from the only side of the story being told so far.
 
If no transaction took place, no feedback can be left. Luckily, we have GB&U to warn us about sellers best to be avoided. Thank you for starting this thread and helping me to update my 'ignore' list. A seller that will sell a knife out from under someone he already agreed to sell it to is not someone I'd care to do business with.
 
That's a pretty sorry transaction on that member's part. If someone agrees, then it's a deal in my eyes. If you back out just because someone else wants to pay a higher price, then they are just backing out on their word. I am a man of my word and if I agree to something, then I follow through on that agreement. Sounds like that guy is not a man of his word....
 
Certainly bad etiquette, but luckily you won't see it often. Most members are not going to trash their rep just to squeeze a couple extra dollars. I always look at situations like this as a blessing in disguise-If his rep means so little he is willing to do this, what else might he be willing to do. Loosing the deal may have saved you from other problems. There will be another knife and a better person to deal with.
Call him out, but also make sure he is aware of this thread-maybe he can learn something here about proper behavior on BF
 
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Tbh guys I didn't want to name and shame this member as he is new to BF and also collecting. It just peed me off a bit and thought the manner in which this situation arose and was handled was a bit out of order. Might have been down to inexperience of selling on the forums, who knows, but it is what it is. I expressed my feeling to him on the matter and have drawn a line under it now and as you have all said, move on to the next thing because something better will come along.
 
This thread at least accomplishes two things, it gives the membership here a chance to form their own opinions on the individual concerned and it also gives @Scot Ginsburg an opportunity to explain himself if he so chooses. This is not ebay and if something is not listed as an auction then the deal should stand, you of course can't practically make someone stick to a "handshake" (even though it is via a forum) but it is nice to weed out those who do and don't value such things.

I have agreed to purchases over $1KUS here which have been shipped off to me BEFORE I have even sent payment, that purely comes from the manner in which I am known to conduct myself by others. Many of the small intertwined groups of members here operate that way. Trust and respect.
 
I think that a very new member can be forgiven for not understanding the expected behavior/culture (within reason) of participants in a transaction. However, like a reputation, that forgiveness has to be earned. An acknowledgment that he made a mistake, along with a sincere apology, would go a long way about now. @Scot Ginsburg
 
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