Chemo didnt work, heading home......

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Well folks, my father is no doing so well these days. The chemo just isnt doing what its supposed to, the liver is a really bad place to let the cancer get to. The final, last ditch effort, is in process now but the doc isnt too awful optomistic.

We're heading for a visit this Monday, staying for most of the week, a nice long stay so the daughter can enjoy her Grandpa while he is feeling up to interacting. I fear were not in for a lot of those kind of visits for long.

He has a computer with internet access so I'll be around from time to time checking mail and the fourms.

We're coming back, hopefully, before the weekend. Summer traffic is horrible around here on the weekends.

Well, thats about it for right now, I'll keep you all up to date as I find things out, its gonna be a loooooong Summer/Fall.

10 hour drive with an eight year old..... I may not survive this one!!! :eek:

Please forgive me If I get grouchy, stupid, or silly. I'm in the middle of a rollercoaster of feelings and not much fun to be around at times. And then at other times I get just plain insane. :p
 
I'm sorry to hear it, brother. I know from personal experience, this is not an easy time to get through. My best wishes for your father, for recovery or good control of his pain.

Ten hour drive with an eight year old? Lots of luck! Feed her good before you leave and see if you can get her to sleep most of the way.
 
I feel for you. I went through that with my father and it is just a hard thing that life dishes out:thumbdn: All I can say is enjoy what you can of his time here... all of it. But then really... that is true even when they are healthy, ist't it?
 
We went through the same thing with my Grandpa. He eventually told the Docs to stop trying because he'd rather have quality of life than quantity . . .

I really enjoyed those last few months with him when he wasn't being ravaged by chemo.
 
I don't have any personal experience in this area.

All I can say is best wishes, and hope that your daughter enjoys and remembers the time with her grandpa.


You and yours will be in my thoughts
 
Brutal! I feel your pain Dwayne. We loss my daughter's mom to that god awful disease. If there's anything I can do, please don't hesitate to ask....even if it's just a phone call to talk and share. You should have my contact numbers. Take care, god bless and my prayers go out to you and your family.
 
I'm sorry to hear that Dwayne...best wishes and prayers to your father and your family.
 
Good luck my friend. I have lost a grandmother, uncle, aunt, and almost my mother to cancer. It's a tough battle but remember that it is spiritual strength that will sustain your father, not medicine. All my prayers are with you and your family.
 
Dwayne, our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Cancer sucks, pure and simple. It is an equal opportunity destroyer.

Been on both sides of it. Watched others see me with it, and watched loved ones endure.

Treasure the time you'll have together, that is what is important.

8 hours with an 8 year old, sounds like a job for liquid Benedryl.....;)
 
Dwayne,

You are making the correct decision. When my grandfather passed in '92, my parents made sure that my siblings and I all got a chance to see him before the end (his colon cancer had spread to the liver). My aunt refused to face reality and her children never got that last visit. She regrets it to this day.

Take care of the rest of your family.

Rick
 
Terrible news Dwayne:(

Our prayers to You and the family hopeing for all the best:thumbup:
 
I'm sure sad to hear that report Dwayne.

Our thoughts and prayers will be with you this week.
 
Your family shall be in my thoughts and prayers.

I hope the visits are wonderful for your daughter, your father and the rest of your family.

Enjoy the moments the best you can during this trying time of life.
Ron
 
Dwayne, I'm so sorry to hear this ...well wishes and prayers send out to your father and your family.:thumbup:

Jules and Family
 
Sorry to hear the bad news Dwayne. My payers and thougts go out to you, your father and the whole family.

Lost my father to lung cancer and now my Mother is in the hospital in bad shape. My 12year old daughter is taking it very hard.

Will keep your family in my prayers Dwayne.
 
The hardest part when cancer hit my dad was watching a proud man suffer and slowly break down. God willing I never go like that. Stay strong and grounded, prayers and thoughts go out to you.
Blaine.
 
I lost a few people in my family when I was that age (8) and a few more afterwards and know the regrets that came with those losses. So you are definitely making the right decision. Everything else becomes secondary at this point and nothing anyone says is going to make this easier. Do what you have to do, especially for your daughter. I am pretty sure you are all in the best thoughts of many here as well as in my thoughts. Take it easy and do what you have to do.

Slainte,

Rab
 
Dwayne,

My family's thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. It's tough. When I was in college, I watched my Dad suffer as his body failed him. Very difficult for everyone. It was hard for all of us to understand, especially him. Spend as much quality time with him as you can. My prayer was always "Lord, heal him.." and eventually he did. He called him home.

GregB
 
Yeah, cancer took my grandma pretty quickly once it hit her liver. I'm sorry to hear it. My condolences.
 
I'm sure that I can speak for everyone here when I say that you and your family are in our thoughts. Keep your chin up.
 
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