completely deactivate the possibility of receiving Friend Requests?

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Sir Joe

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Hi,

I am not a fan of Social Media.
I have no account anywhere. I had a Facebook which I have deleted because I have seen how crazy it is.

So, please do not misunderstand me now, but I am not interested in collecting "friends" here. Not in the form of a "list".
I prefer to keep them in my mind and hearth, than in a list.
But I am receiving friend requests from somebody whom I do not even know, we have never interacted and I have never even received a message from that person telling me why he would like to be my "friend" here.
I would at least been able to tell him this, that I do not want to have a list of friends here, and I am not interested in using this website as a social media and follow what other people post.
But I cannot, because he did not write me, and I cannot write him (no option active).

So, to avoid this situation in the future, how can I be "unfriendable"?

Cheers!
 
I don't think the system can be turned off. What you can do when you get a request is go to the link provided, check the name's box, and refuse that request.
 
If someone sends me a friend request and I reject it, how is that rejection transmitted back to them? My decision not to "friend" them isn't personal and I don't want them to take it personally if that can be avoided.
 
But how about here on BF? I don't want people who want to friend me to feel slighted if I reject the request. It's not personal on my end. I don't want to use BF for Social Media purposes either.
 
Sir Joe said:
But I am receiving friend requests from somebody whom I do not even know, we have never interacted and I have never even received a message from that person telling me why he would like to be my "friend" here....

So, to avoid this situation in the future, how can I be "unfriendable"?

Cheers!
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Are these friend requests only coming from one person....I am thinking they are. If so, just ignore him. He does that.

If they are coming from many people...then that would be annoying.
 
Many people. And I think the friend requests I receive are sincere in most cases. So I have no desire to ignore those who send them to me. I just want to avoid hard feelings where none are warranted is all.

PS: Thanks for bringing this up, Sir Joe. I've been thinking about it for awhile myself.
 
I correspondd with Sir Joe on this and it is one person, that one you and I are both thinking of.
marcinek said:
Are these friend requests only coming from one person....I am thinking they are. If so, just ignore him. He does that.

If they are coming from many people...then that would be annoying.
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bld522, welcome :)
I agree with you, this is exactly why I would like to be unfriendable, because if I just refuse a friend request this can be interpreted as unfriendly and personal. I do not want misunderstanding. And considering that apparently some people cannot be contacted with email or PM, I have no way to explain why I do not accept requests.

marcinek, it is one person in my case. I had accepted once because I thought "ok, I am new, someone wants to be friend, let's not be assholes".
But then he never wrote me anything, I could not write anything, and I felt like "why on Earth did you request my friendship?" so I have removed him.
But then he requested again.
Without writing me anything.
So. Yeah, if we speak of the same person, I have been told that he collects friends like many people here collect knives.
I have nothing against that. I just do not want to be part of that.

Maybe this function can be added.
Till then I will ignore or refuse.

I wanted to write a note in my profile about not wanting friend requests, but there is no place for notes.
Yeah, ok, I can write it in the biography.

Thanks for the answers.
 
If you don't refuse the friend request, he can't send you another request... If you reject the friend request, he can send it again...
Gnometalmbout?
I've had this particular individual "in limbo" forever.
 
Sir Joe, you should hve access to the ignore feature. Add the name there and let peace abound.
 
bld522 said:
But how about here on BF? I don't want people who want to friend me to feel slighted if I reject the request. It's not personal on my end. I don't want to use BF for Social Media purposes either.
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Ah, I gotcha. Sorry, I had misread it and thought you meant Facebook.
 
No worries.

I haven't gotten an answer to my question and in the final analysis, I suppose it really doesn't matter. With occasional exceptions, I'm not going to accept friend requests. And while I'd prefer not to hurt people's feelings, if some folks want to take my decision personally, there's not a whole lot I can do about it.
 
RevDevil said:
I correspondd with Sir Joe on this and it is one person, that one you and I are both thinking of.
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Maybe Sir Joe should ask the person nicely to stop in email or visitor message. Then if it happens again, report it to you or another mod as harassment or abuse of the messaging system.
 
Interesting. If a person sends you a friend request and you reject it, can they keep sending it to you over and over again or is the rejection permanent?
 
bld522 said:
Interesting. If a person sends you a friend request and you reject it, can they keep sending it to you over and over again or is the rejection permanent?
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Good question. Send me a friend request and we will find out.
 
Nope, they can send it as many times as you reject it. (I rejected one 3 times and it kept showing up, so I guess I'll have 1 permanent notification that I never open or answer, forever)
 
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Now rejected so you should try to send it again. I believe that someone could send them over and over again.
 
Ok, thank you all for the suggestions.
I understand now from your posts that this person could potentially become heavy, but till now I did not have this impression so I was not annoyed, I was just concerned about possible misunderstandings about why I do not accept the request, and not only with him but generally with whoever ever would possibly send me a friend request :)
But I kind of understand that this of unexpected requests from people you do not know, who do not contact you first, and whom you cannot contact, is not a common problem here.

So, I will just write something on my profile just to leave clear it is nothing personal, with nobody.

I am going to enjoy my just arrived Lansky BladeMedic now.
 
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