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shotgunner11

shotgunner11

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I know this belongs in another forum but I often think of the people here as friends.

I could use your positive thoughts right about now.

My father passed away about an hour ago. Some of you already know that I just moved to Texas about a month ago to help my mother take care of him.

He was 65 years old, an avid woodworker, he could make just about anything.

He died of terminal brain cancer.

I'm going to really miss him, but he's not in pain anymore.
 
Sorry to hear that. My dad lingered a long time before he died and it still really hurt when it was finally over.
 
I'm very sorry to hear that. Prayers on the way for You, Him and your family.
 
I'm so sorry shotgunner. My prayers and smoke to you bro. After some time when the loss begins to fade, you remember all the good things he was, all the good times you had together, it gets better and the love and pride of him keeps growing.

Peace and comfort to you and your family...
 
Shotgunner, I'm sorry for your loss. You said he's not in pain any more. That's important to remember.

Doc
 
Very sorry to hear this, Shotgunner.
It's never easy and it always takes time for it to not hurt so much anymore. All I can do is offer the same, seemingly lame, words I have heard too many times myslef - "it'll get better with time." For the billions of times this has happened to someone over the eons, none of us have thought of anything much better to say. Not many of us have the ability to express the sorrow we feel and that's why, sometimes, it's enough that a friend can just "be there" and share the pain and the sorrow. Most of us are a long way from where you are, geographically at least, but most of us are "there" for you. You and your family will be in our thoughts. It is a huge compliment to everyone here that you felt a close enough tie to sit down and come to us with this. If I could put my hand on your shoulder right now I would, and I think a lot of us would. Be strong and be patient and never be afraid to talk to someone about it. It is amazing to find out how many others know how you feel, and sometimes the most unlikely.

My next fire is in honor of your Father.
 
I'm still fortunate with my parents, but my wife's uncle (almost like a father) is terminally ill with cancer and not expected to make it to Thanksgiving. Remember the good memories, celebrate the life he had and everything he's taught you. My condolences and sincerest prayers for you and your family...I'm sure all here in the WSS feel the same.

ROCK6
 
I'm sitting here waiting for the medical examiner to get here.

I haven't left my mother alone in over a month, not wanting her to be alone when he passed.

Today was my birthday and my Father in law insisted in taking me out to dinner. While we were all out, he passed.

I guess he was just waiting to be alone with my mom, he always was a stubborn old bear.

He's been sick and suffering for a long time. It's not a sad day for us. Were just glad to have him at peace.
 
Shotgunner, sorry for your loss of a loved one, particularly a father. I'm going to be honest here,as i have experienced death too. Its going to hurt, hurt deep in your mind and heart. Your going to get upset sometimes and cry, thats OK and its normal. Surround yourself with family, pets, friends and colleagues and open up and remember all the great times you had with Pa. Take solace in the fact that he is no longer suffering, brain cancer is brutal. I can only assume that your father lived a long and fulfilling live, and that he and you were able to share lots of time together. Remember those times.

As for the immediate moment, the ME is going to come in and examine your father, maybe ask some quiestions, thats normal and part of it. They will transfer him from his bed or couch and place him into a sealed bag for transport to the morgue. Its scary, upsetting and gut wrenching, but thats what will happen. In the next day or so there will be the funeral arrangements and then the funeral. It can be very overwhelming! your family will be there for you, dont let everything fall onto your shoulders, let them help too.

Celebrate his life and remember all the great times and all the not so great times, Laugh, cry, pray, get angry, cry, laugh and cry some , its all normal and you will get thru it over time.

Prayers sent my fellow BF member. Taker easy we are here for you too!
 
Very sorry to hear it, Shotgunner. We'll have your family in our prayers. Take care of yourself and let what comes come.

My dad has been gone 14 years, but in some very good ways he is still here with us in his children and grandchildren...
 
Shotgunner...My Dad passed away after a long battle with cancer..I missed being at his side by about an hour..It's a heavy thing to have to deal with brother..I don't know what you're beliefs are..Sometimes I'm not so sure what my own are...But I've seen enough of things in my day to know that death is not the end of the road...Science has proven that energy can not be created or destroyed..Some argue that that pertains only to organic issues. however in order for someone to create and be an artist as your father was one must possess a remarkale amount of energy within as well..As far as individual evolution goes..at least for me I try to take the best parts of what my father instilled in me and live them to the fullest..that is the greatest honor I can do..I'm sure you'll find your own way, but on your to find peace with this as well, but know that along the way we are all here..and our thoughts and prayers are with you..
 
Sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to you and your family. As you've said, he's no longer in pain and he's in a far better place.
 
shotgunner11 said:
I'm sitting here waiting for the medical examiner to get here.

I haven't left my mother alone in over a month, not wanting her to be alone when he passed.

Today was my birthday and my Father in law insisted in taking me out to dinner. While we were all out, he passed.

I guess he was just waiting to be alone with my mom, he always was a stubborn old bear.

He's been sick and suffering for a long time. It's not a sad day for us. Were just glad to have him at peace.
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Be gentle with yourself.



Kis
 
Shotgunner

I too lost my Dad 4yrs ago to the same terrible disease..like you I wasn't there, but on my way, when I received a phone call from Mom to slow down..I miss him as well and even dream of him..my solice though like yours is that he is no longer in pain.
I'll say a short prayer.

Jim

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"Hold Fast"
 
Man I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers and Smoke go out to you and your family. I know he is in Heaven now with our Heavenly Father and in no more pain. You will Honor him with your life. I lost my Uncle the same way last year and he was like a 2nd dad to me and I miss him everyday. I feel for you my freind. Our love and prayers to you and your family from Mississippi.
 
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