I'm going to try and explain with no pix, becasue I can't post pix yet, and it probably wouldn't help anyway........
Ok, we are going to make some assumptions. You've got a bench grinder with a white wheel (maybe 220 grit) or a like belt on your grinder. I prefer the belt. It's cooler on the bit.
You've got the rest exactly perpendicular to the wheel, right? You've got good light (i use a magnet base light from HF), and wear your glasses, prescription or some reading glasses from the drug store. Whichever gives you the best for detail work at your distance. (I don't wear safety glasses for this, YMMV),
You are right handed, so your bit will be held on the back end with your left hand, and the bit is held in place on your rest with your right thumb and forefinger. You attack the point towards the wheel at an angle........about 60* for hard metal, 56* for wood and soft stuff, and more like 80* (almost a right angle) for acrylic and botom bits and router bits. WHAT?? you say..
Relax. Get a new 3/8" bit out that's for metal. Look it over closely and try and match the angle of attack on your grinder. You hold it into the wheel at the chosen angle with the cutting edge STRAIGHT UP. (it looks at the sky).
Do a dry run. You think, "OK, the grinder is running, I have the bit horizontal to the ground, it's back is pointed at my left elbow, cutting edge up. You move into the wheel very lightly, to true the cutting edge, THEN, you rotate the bit with your left fingers to the right and DOWN at the same time with a bit more pressure. (what you're doing is removing metal BEHIND the cutting edge for clearance, right?) If you don't it will just skate and not cut.
You keep the same set up and this time rotate the OTHER cutting edge to the same position and do it again. It takes practice.
Here's what my happen.......You got it sharp, but not centered (you didn't use the EXACT same angle). It cuts but will skate off center. This is bad, do it again. Try it in wood for an easy test. Or more often, you didn't cut back enough and the cutting edge has no clearance.
Look again real good at the new bit. Use this a reference to what it should look like. Practice on old wood bits or whatever a few times. Bigger bits are easier becasue you can see them better. For anyting under say 1/8" it takes real skill. I buy these in bulk
Seriously, you have to learn this..........you can't work metal not knowing how or else you will cuss like a sailor. It's not hard, just take your time
Any questions?