Over the years I've come to recognize patterns of responsibility and ownership.
There was a time when I would lend my tools. I had a fine collection of hand tools: saws, drills, hammers, chisels, pliers, screwdrivers, and so on. I would lend them, and get them back damaged or broken (or occasionally not at all). There was always an excuse, never the borrower's fault. In no particular order:
- Yours doesn't work like mine (or others I've used).
- If you would buy a quality [saw, wrench, hammer] this wouldn't have happened.
- Sorry, man, I have no idea how that saw got bent.
- Oh, I didn't do that; I lent it to Bill 'cuz he needed it, and that's how I got it back.
- Yeah, the wire must have been tougher than I thought (cutters on my pliers).
- I thought a hammer was harder than concrete.
- Don't be such a baby, tools are supposed to be used (chipped screwdriver).
- I think they might have fallen down inside (missing sockets).
- But it did a real good job on that linoleum (my formerly razor-edged chisel).
This was enough to result in a universal policy: I don't lend my tools.
Some time later, I modified that to "lend tools only to people of verified competence."
Some chips out of the edge of a knife led to further changes: "even competent people aren't good with
all tools."
This was confirmed by our dentist, who was also a family friend. He had no problem keeping the tools of his trade in perfect working order, including the assorted sharp tools he used daily. But he could
not keep an edge on his kitchen knives.
And finally, our general contractor. He was really good with tools. Outstanding. However, when I told him I was moving north and would be living ten miles from the Buck Knives factory, and they would sharpen any of their knives for five bucks, he asked if I'd take his old 112 with me and send it back to him sharpened. No problem, love to. And then he handed me the knife. OMG. No edge. All beat up. "Yeah, I've always had trouble getting it to take an edge." Here's a guy who could sharpen a saw, sharpen a chisel (and do it well) but he couldn't get an edge on a pocket knife. Before I took it to the factory, I figured I would just see if there was anything fundamentally wrong with this knife. Fifteen minutes with a diamond steel and it had an edge. It was still all beat up, but now it would cut stuff. (The factory actually just replaced it and I sent him back a nice shiny new 112. No idea if it's still sharp.)
With all this (and other stories too numerous to list here) I was able to derive a foundation principle.
Responsibility and ownership go hand in hand. A lack of responsibility will tend to lead to a lack of ownership. "Ownership" may also be characterized as "the ability to own" or somewhat differently "the ability to have." Competence with a tool -- the ability to use it well and properly -- is another aspect of responsibility. And this is also tied to one's ability to maintain and care for a tool. And so there are some rules that can be drawn from this.
- A man who will not own a tool cannot be expected to be responsible with it or for it.
- A man who is not, or cannot be, responsible for a tool, can not be expected to achieve competence with it.
- A man who is not responsible for a tool cannot be expected to care for it.
And there is some theory and goes with this:
- Someone who "can have" tools will tend to be good with them, someone who "can't have" tools will tend to be bad with them.
- It's not important how the person who "can have" or who "can't have" got that way, but this ability/inability operates like a form of "portable external karma" (you could call it a "responsibility field") and will tend to affect whatever he handles.
- Placing tools in the care of someone with a bad "responsibility field" exposes that tool to the vagaries of that person's incompetence and/or irresponsibility.
So . . .
Whatever it is in someone's life that makes it so that he doesn't own the thing he wants to borrow from me will tend to act on whatever I lend him.
I don't know nor care how someone got that way, all I care about is that his bad "tool karma" doesn't involve my tools.
Therefore, in general, and with
very few exceptions, I don't lend my knives.