Family is mad of my expensive knife purchases

You can never explain to them just like they can never explain to us. You just have to do like me and marry a woman who likes guns and knives like I do. Hell she opened her purse one day and pulled out a Benchmade, a CRKT and a Spartan Blades fixed blade
 
leghog said:
I'd just say nothing rather than lie about it. A solid marriage is built on trust, first and foremost. Why ever lie about a knife, but especially to your wife? No knife or lie about a knife is worth me losing that trust.

Trust is like a bank account and a fine china plate.
Bank Account - you can withdraw or you can deposit. You can also find yourself overdrawn with a single withdrawal.
Fine China Plate - chips can be repaired, but you're still left with a chipped plate. Keep chipping away at it, and you're left with a piece of junk.

In a marriage each lie is just a turd on a pile of dung. If you let that pile grow, the dung takes over all of one's senses.
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I'm not talking about family money, but money that I save for my passion, say nothing or lie is same thing. My wife does not understand why someone can spend more of 30 dollars for a knife and I don't want to make a discussion with her every day, sometimes a little and innocent lie could save your marriage, anyway I don't think that it's a lie, but only an attempt to minimize a fact
 
My cousin said my Delica felt cheapy.
Well it kinda does but I explained to him the cost and it was ok after that.
The only knives I've spent a lot on that people didn't make comments on, were my Adamas and ZT 0200 because they feel so stout.
 
22-rimfire said:
My sister spent years putting down and suppressing her husband's knife interests. She could not understand. My only thought is that, she needs to understand that the occasional buying of man toys is part of what makes her husband HIM and what attacted her to him in the first place. There is no point in making the other person's life a living hell because of toys if they have no impact on family resources.

My suggestion is that you keep and maintain a fund for your interests. I wouldn't even tell her when you acquire something new or what you did to get it. I would have the toys shipped to your place of work and not home.
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Women don't understand anything that's not all about them in general... That's cutting to the root of it.....

Now yes there are some that can think past themselves, but they are rare......
 
donzaucher said:
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I'm not talking about family money, but money that I save for my passion, say nothing or lie is same thing. My wife does not understand why someone can spend more of 30 dollars for a knife and I don't want to make a discussion with her every day, sometimes a little and innocent lie could save your marriage, anyway I don't think that it's a lie, but only an attempt to minimize a fact
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No, a lie is a lie, and while one can lie by omission, not all omissions are lies. Also, if lying about a knife purchase is needed to save I marriage, I suggest there are much bigger problems in that marriage than a knife collection. Think about it --- we're talking about a lie over something truly inconsequential when you compare it to your marriage. If you can't tell the truth or say nothing about the purchase, it would be better just to not buy the knife. Regardless, keep lying in a marriage, and you like reach a time when you'll remember the bank account or fine china plate analogies.
 
Shoe analogy... funny. I have a lot of shoes too. Can't bring myself to throw away un-worn shoes that are 10 or 20 years old. But I tend to wear the same kinds of shoes all the time.

I think the best advice is do not LIE to your spouse. Better to not say anything and avoid the entire issue. That pile of dung gets taller and taller and finally, in order to clean it up, you have to get a new house.
 
I get the same thing over my firearms purchases, I tell them it's just one way of diversifying my investment portfolio.
 
Craig, I wouldn't try to engage family members about your hobby unless of course they are interested, I'm sure there are items they collect that make no sense to you and especially if they paid a lot of money for it. As far as your wife, if she believes purchasing something like a knife that gives you pleasure is stupid, it's time to have a conversation as to what you like and what she likes as far as collecting. As long as the purchase that either one of you make does't impact the family finances, there should be no problem, however if she just believes that your knife collecting is just stupid, I would say there are deeper issues between you guys that need to be resolved. I'm speaking from 38 years of marriage (to the same woman) and collecting and using knives long before we got married. Having a controlling spouse makes for a lot of tension in a relationship.
 
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What's yours is hers, what's hers is hers. If your bills are paid, kids fed. Buy what you want an don't tell anybody what you paid.

A guys fear is that when we die the wife sells the tools and toys for what we told her we paid, NOT what we paid :)
 
and then again it is the collector's dream -- in fact I am pretty sure we are all secretly wishing someone with an awesome collection would die and his collection be sold for pennies that we could take for ourselves :D
 
leghog said:
No, a lie is a lie, and while one can lie by omission, not all omissions are lies. Also, if lying about a knife purchase is needed to save I marriage, I suggest there are much bigger problems in that marriage than a knife collection. Think about it --- we're talking about a lie over something truly inconsequential when you compare it to your marriage. If you can't tell the truth or say nothing about the purchase, it would be better just to not buy the knife. Regardless, keep lying in a marriage, and you like reach a time when you'll remember the bank account or fine china plate analogies.
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How long have you been married?
Can truly say you never told a little lie to your wife in your entire life?, c'mon, let's be realistic!!!
 
Oh that old thing.... I've had it for a couple years. (You know the knife you just got a week or so ago??) Is this a lie? Yes.

Added: You know that they sell "Errors and Omissions" insurance.

A controlling spouse can make a marriage "difficult" regardless of which spouse is more controlling. I have tendances along this line, just like my sister I referenced above. (Honey, you know that I'm always right?) There are obviously degrees of this and one has to come to grips as to what you are comfortable with and what you are not. If the knife thing is such a big deal, then you need to think about what is really important to you. It was never about knives with me and my wife, it was always about guns. The cost issue steps up a few notches with firearms.
 
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It all comes down to a mutual understanding that women have their stuff they buy and men also have their stuff.

No need to hide anything or lie about it at all.

In the end if the couple can't come to terms with it in general they don't need to be married.
 
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leghog said:
No, a lie is a lie, and while one can lie by omission, not all omissions are lies. Also, if lying about a knife purchase is needed to save I marriage, I suggest there are much bigger problems in that marriage than a knife collection. Think about it --- we're talking about a lie over something truly inconsequential when you compare it to your marriage. If you can't tell the truth or say nothing about the purchase, it would be better just to not buy the knife. Regardless, keep lying in a marriage, and you like reach a time when you'll remember the bank account or fine china plate analogies.
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How long have you been married?
Can truly say you never told a little lie to your wife in your entire life?, c'mon, let's be realistic!!!
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My wife and I will have been married to each other 30 years next month.

Certainly I've lied. Everyone has. But I don't lie about hobbies or what I spend on them. It would just take the fun out of them, and hobbies are a far second to the trust in our marriage (security, of which trust is a LARGE part, is normally way up on the list of most women's hierarchy of needs). Regardless all of our accounts have always been joint, so we know what we spend. That was a deliberate decision since day one, just for different reasons.
 
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22-rimfire said:
A controlling spouse can make a marriage "difficult" regardless of which spouse is more controlling. I have tendances along this line, just like my sister I referenced above. (Honey, you know that I'm always right?)
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Some men marry Ms. Right and some women marry Mr. Right. They just didn't realize then that Ms. Right's or Mr. Right's first name was Always.
 
That's funny leghog. There is usually some "history" involved with these dissagreements and it usually boils down to TRUST. As an example, few would get upset when one spouse picks up a new SAK. But if it was the 15th one, it might just have tilted the proportional scale.
 
Craig083 said:
Ahhhh I get so frustrated with people who don't understand knife quality when they see it.
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NOT ASK, DON'T TELL.


Only folks who understand quality knives and tools will get it.

Don't expect the rest of the population to understand.



Big Mike
 
You'll win a lot of points when you tell your spouse they need to see a skrink over their questioning the rationality of a knife purchase. :D
 
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