Got some sad news today...

Zephy,

I appreciate all the information, and your willingness to share. Thank you very much. I will be sharing this with wifey when she gets home.

To the rest of you, thanks for your concerns. I appreciate it very much. I've already gotten more information and support from you guys than I've gotten doing all the research I've done.
 
We have been in the same boat. We were told the exact same thing. We decided to go through the adoption route. Our first took 4 years, but when they handed that litle girl to my wife, our hearts melted. Our second, my son (almost two years ago), was three years later. As far as cost, it can be fairly cheap (12-15K) if you can go through a social service group (many churches run social agencies), if you want a state side adoption they run between 20-35K (depending on Race, sad but true). International will be about 20-30K. Remember there is a tax credit (Approx 11K this year) for adoption. I really hate that money becomes the issue, but it does.
Anyway hold onto each other, either way you go this will be tough road. My wife spent a lot of time crying about things and being frustrated, be patient (very tough after a while) and be honest with each other. If you decide on adoption and need some leads send me a PM. Steven
 
zephy5 said:
I'm getting pretty anxious about our adoption. We've had a few close calls but nothing yet. Hopefully soon.

Good luck to you.

Mark
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Have doen this twice, I can understand. For some reason, our case worker called me at work both times we were picked. The office wondered about the whoops coming from my cube. It can come at you when you least expect it. But when it does things move pretty quick. I hope you get the chance to meet the Birth Mom, We have had that joy and were able to take pictures of both of them to show our kids when they ask questions about her. Steven
 
Man...I'm so glad to hear the figure we heard abt adoption was so wrong. That, at least, makes me happy. Looking into a ReFi right now.
 
On the bright side, sounds like IVF is an option. It would be GREAT if that worked for you. If not, there are other options. It may be a long road, but the child at the end is going to get two great parents. Hang in there.
 
You got it bro, smoke up from ATL. Thats tough.
 
oldrifleman said:
Have doen this twice, I can understand. For some reason, our case worker called me at work both times we were picked. The office wondered about the whoops coming from my cube. It can come at you when you least expect it. But when it does things move pretty quick. I hope you get the chance to meet the Birth Mom, We have had that joy and were able to take pictures of both of them to show our kids when they ask questions about her. Steven
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Your success gives me hope :)

We will meet the birth mom and so will the child. We are doing an open adoption and agreed to meet together with the birth mom at least once a year. My sister was adopted but never knew her birth parents, I think she really would have appreciated it.
 
I wish the two of you the best of luck. I will include both of you in my prayers tonight. Take care, both of you.
 
Smoke and prayers for you both.
Stay strong in each other and the love you both have.
 
Best of luck from my clan in Northern Virginia. :thumbup:

Stay the course and you will have the family you dream of. :D

We'll work hard to make that penultimate Busse purchase a great experience...you'll see.

Remember -- just because you won't be buying for a little while is NO EXCUSE to wander away from BladeForums. You're one of us now and we want to keep track of you.

Yours in INFI,

Old Pigsics
 
Progunner said:
Prayers for you guys. I can't say as I know what you are going through, but I believe that God has a plan for us all and that we should seek to do his will. My wife and I had brief discussions on what we would have done if we had been infertile. I know adoption is a costly prospect as it the IVF. Each couple has to make their choices and I pray that the spirit of the Lord be with you all at this time. I know it is a hard thing to grasp but things like this happen for a reason, though it is completely oblivious to us and may always be so.
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It occurs to me that, as much as you and I love our children ... and we DO!! ... imagine this family's joy when, after years of effort, sacrifice, and heartache, they are finally rewarded with a child.

That would be pretty special, eh? ;)
 
knife hunter said:
Hey brother,

I hate to hear the news for ya. Things will get better.

I am your proxy at Blade and I will Leap over tall Hogs to get your wish @ cost:)

so be patient before you buy another one. also if you need to return the other its toatally cool bro.


SMoke and prayers for you and the misses
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It's looking good for me to make Blade again this year. Perhaps you and I can collaborate to get IGM the INFI of his dreams?? That would be fun, wouldn't it? :D

P.S. I'm not very big, but I'm sneaky ... and my Mrs. (HOGSeller) is a world-class shopper.
 
OP, you and KH are funny guys, and beyond that, you're both class acts as well. Hopefully some day there'll be a favor I can do for you. :thumbup:
 
I'mGatMan! said:
OP, you and KH are funny guys, and beyond that, you're both class acts as well. Hopefully some day there'll be a favor I can do for you. :thumbup:
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Maybe you already have.

Mine is a very cynical and sophisticated professional life, filled with irrationality and frustration. :barf:

It's good to help.
 
OldPhysics said:
Maybe you already have.
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Well let a brother know how, so I can keep it up. :thumbup:

OldPhysics said:
Mine is a very cynical and sophisticated professional life, filled with irrationality and frustration. :barf:

It's good to help.
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Man, it's time for you to go do something fun and responsibility-less ;):D

To catch you all up, Wifey and I have spoken to two lenders about Re-Fi's and it seems like the housing crash has kinda put us in a bind. The fact that we live in Miami has actually made it a bit worse. Oh well. We're trying to figure things out, and I'll keep you all posted.

J
 
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