We do a lot of rivets, punching, drifted holes, tapered holes in blacksmithing work, and I've moved the techniques that work over to knife work.
First, dome the rivet head when it's been cut to length- that keeps the force of the blow centered, and minimizes collapse and distortion. It will flatten and spread, after it has thickened somewhat....this might be a problem if you're just HEADING a rivet, rather than upsetting and setting it. Spinning is real good for that.
I taper ream the holes and get great results- my production knives have tapered holes with rivets sanded flat. I actually upset (squash to shorten) 1/8 rivets with the flat of my itty bitty ball peen hammer, but the head of that is domed and polished, not flat.
I'm not convinced that the softest material is going to always be the best- the hazard is that the shaft of the rivet distorts before the head gets nicely spread.
Edit: I didn't see your test photos- very nice!
If you're not taper reaming, then you wouldn't want to aim for an upset (thickened) rivet. I'd agree with the other guys that a chamfered hole needs a light hammer and a bazillion light taps, since that will keep the distortion very shallow.
Only other thing- I consider kitchen knifing to be fairly tough duty, due to the constant wet, dry, hot, cold, and soap. Obviously you're not prying apart buffalo knee joints in the kitchen, but a crowbar is probably betta for that anyway
PS- The tech guys at West Systems told me that with G-flex, at least, wet sanding doubles the bond strength. As in, a bit of epoxy on some abrasive (I use old 60 ceramic, since it doesn't seem to shed crud) and wet sand just before you spread a real coat on the steel.
Sandblasting is good, but the problem with adhesion is actually the oxide layer, which reappears right after you blast. That's why if you wet sand, it doesn't reform. So they explained it...YMMV
For kitchen knives, you can get away with glued brass or SS pins....for a while. A positive mechanical bond lasts longer, though all you have to do is sharpen knives for the public for a season to see that nothing actually lasts forever, short of a one piece blade/bolster/handle all steel knife. Some people like em.