...basically what I'm looking for is a knife that nobody could ever feel intimidated by.
There ain't no such knife. If you expect to find one, you are setting yourself up for frustration and anger.
But a good attitude and a proactive attitude with people who are most skittish around knives will get you 90 percent of your goal.
And a small knife with a colorful handle will take you another 9 percent. The Cricket is a great knife. Spyderco has a lot of very, very good small knives. The Lava is a great knife. The Benchmade Benchmite is good, too.