help on motivation?

[Bufford]

Dave, Maybe you need to rediscover yourself. It sounds like you have been in a rut for too long and you need change. It is easy to stay with things that are familiar, but when it bogs down your life, this is a signal for a need of change.

If you can afford it, go on a vacation and travel across the country. Go visit new places, new cities. Sometimes this can start that internal fire that gets a person's drive going. Try doing new things or start new hobbies. Many people on this forum for instance have a knifemaking hobby or business they do after work, and then go and show their work at shows.

Life is full of posibilities, and you get to pick and choose the ones you want, just as you have the choice of dropping and deleting the ones that are not right.

Life is too short to waste on a crummy job filled with other miserable workers, start the renewal process now. Work on a new resume, take a long trip to see what other choices that are out there. Canada is a big country full of possibilities.

 

[C.S. Graves]

Canada is a big country full of possibilities.

Except maybe the Atlantic area anyway.

 

[tyr_shadowblade]

Dave, Maybe you need to rediscover yourself. It sounds like you have been in a rut for too long and you need change. It is easy to stay with things that are familiar, but when it bogs down your life, this is a signal for a need of change.

If you can afford it, go on a vacation and travel across the country. . .

If you can't afford a trip in this dimension, $45 will buy a lot of mushrooms.

 

[Sutcliffe]

I don't care what line of work you are in or how much money you make. Being miserable isn't good for your self esteem or long term health. Start looking. I'd rather be underpaid doing something I like than overpayed for something I don't.
Good luck

 

[C.S. Graves]

I don't care what line of work you are in or how much money you make. Being miserable isn't good for your self esteem or long term health. Start looking. I'd rather be underpaid doing something I like than overpayed for something I don't.
Good luck

I think enjoying something that will end up taking the bulk of your waking hours would be worth the lower income. I imagine that, in theory, a person who is happy in their profession will be a little less likely to try and BUY happiness that a more stressful job lacks with their hard earned cash in their off-hours.

 

[Howard Wallace]

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I am a person who ...

Any tips?

Dave, It sounds as if you have done some looking inward. The answers you are looking for may be in the same place you found the problems, just a little bit further on.

A meditation retreat might do you some good.

 

[Svashtar]

Dave, sometimes perceptions are more important than facts. The fact that you leave early and that they cannot see you working during the day contributes to a perception that you are lazy. You may not be able to work during the day in which case you should find a night job. Procrastination is not ever seen as a desirable characteristic. Sorry but I've been there and didn't play politics good enough to pull it off.

If the harassment is severe, you may have a case to take to management. Just be sure that you can back up your overtime claims and work ethic. If management doesn't do anything think about a harassment suit.

Dave, this is exactly what I was going to say. I would work 12-14 hour days, and yet the "perception" was that I didn't work as hard because I worked off hours. The reason I worked off hours is that I was sleeping from my last 2 day shift. My droid coworkers got more credit for cheating the company and working a 6.5 hour shift with multiple breaks.

You have to change the paradigm Dave. You choose "Option B", just like I used to do, because you are conscientious and it is the most efficient way to gather information, but it's not working for you.

Show up at 8:30 am., leave at 4:30, and do it every day. Do your tasks as soon as they are assigned, if you can, and don't be shy about letting your boss know it. As a manager I wanted someone to solve my task problems for me, and know they were doing it in a timely fashion.

And cast about for something better. Join the job boards and keep looking. If the place is so stifling and inflexible and intolerant that they can't appreciate good work when they see it, then you need to move on.

I wish you the best of luck.

Norm

 

[Svashtar]

80-90 hour weeks should qualify for overtime pay since you aren't in management, if you can document that. This is Federal law I'm talking about not state btw................

Something to think about.

Syn

If this is true them I'm owed for at least 4000 hours of OT in the years before I got into management. It just comes with the software development territory...

Norm